People have been debating for as long as time whether or not guys and girls can be friends. And many people prove them wrong all the time. However, because of this, it may cause you to wonder if your friend likes you. Knowing how to tell if your guy friend likes you will help ease this discomfort.
But it won’t always be easy. For some reason, people see what they want to. And that means we also see what we DON’T want to. Meaning, if you don’t want your guy friend to like you, you’ll gloss over it and see all the signs as nothing.
Unspoken feelings can lead to issues in friendships
We all know this is true. It’s super awkward when a friend likes you more than you like them. You don’t know how to act because you don’t want to give them any ideas, but then your friendship isn’t real anymore because you have to check yourself.
And on the flip side, maybe you do like them back. Not knowing can cause you to distance yourself in hopes you can get back to only liking them as a friend so you don’t risk losing them. Basically, it’s a huge mess. [Read: How to handle sexual tension between friends like a platonic pro]
How to tell if your guy friend likes you once and for all
In order to avoid the mess of not knowing what to think or feel, let us help. Knowing the signs your guy friend is totally into you can help you determine what to do next. Pay close attention and don’t let your thoughts cloud your judgment.
#1 He always texts or calls first. Now, this also depends on how bad of a texter you are. If you’re not the type to reach out, he probably always will by default. However, if he never gives you a chance to text or call first, he might like you.
#2 He initiates hangouts often. It’s usually his idea to hang out. It’s not that you don’t want to hang out with him but he’s just the first to come up with ideas and is always inviting you places. This is often because he really likes you and wants to see you a lot. [Read: Is it a date or are you two just hanging out?]
#3 He always wants to hang out alone. When he does ask to hang out, it’s usually not in a group. Despite the two of you having mutual friends, he wants to have private nights with you.
This can seem innocent enough if what you two do is something that’s reserved for the two of you – like an inside interest. However, if it’s frequent, it means he likes you.
#4 He always wants to help you. Guys who are into their friends always want to feel like they’re doing something more. They want to help and fix and assist in any way. So if he’s always jumping at the chance to help you out, he likes you.
#5 He’s not a fan of your other guy friends. This is a great way to figure out how to tell if your guy friend likes you. You probably have other guy friends and this friend doesn’t like them.
Or maybe he does, but he doesn’t seem happy when you want to spend time alone with them. This definitely means he likes you and is actually jealous. [Read: 25 signs a guy is jealous that he just can’t hide]
#6 He’s never liked your boyfriends. This is a huge tell and it means he’s liked you for a while. He basically has a problem with all your boyfriends and never “approves” of them. He’ll even use excuses about being protective of you as a friend but really, he’s just jealous.
#7 He hangs on your every word. You can talk about anything and he’s right there, listening intently to everything. It’s because he genuinely cares about what you have to say. This is usually the case when we like someone.
#8 He ditches his other friends for you. If you really want to know how to tell if your guy friend likes you, text him while he’s out with his other friends. Tell him you want to hang out. If he ditches them for you, he likes you. [Read: 18 body language signs that prove he likes you]
#9 Your friends have pointed it out. If your other girl friends have noticed and pointed it out, they’re probably right. Girls can tell when a guy is interested in another girl, even if you can’t. It’s even more evident if your guy friends have said something.
#10 You’re suspicious of his feelings. The fact that you’re reading this probably means he’s into you. Otherwise, why would you be here? Unless you like him and want to know the signs, being here proves you’ve noticed something is off and it could be that he likes you.
#11 He talks about what he wants for the future and asks you the same. Talking about the future in terms of what type of family and adult life you want to have is something you do with someone you like. It just shows that he want to know if you’re compatible in that way.
#12 He doesn’t talk about other girls around you. You hardly ever hear him crushing on another girl or saying anything about other girls, even. He probably hasn’t even dated anyone since you two became close friends. That means he likes you and is just biding his time before making his move. [Read: 15 signs your guy friend is totally crushing on you]
#13 He gets really mad when people insult you. Now, it’s normal for friends to get upset when people insult their friends. However, if he’s getting unreasonably upset, it could mean that he has strong feelings for you. Think about when someone is mean to or says something bad about your boyfriends.
#14 He opens up to you a lot. You know more about him than probably anyone else. It could seem like he just sees you as a good friend but guys don’t open up to each other the same way girls do. So if he’s getting deep and emotional, he’s into you.
#15 He compliments you often. And it’s not about your looks. All his compliments are almost always about your intelligence or your sense of humor or your personality in general. That’s a huge indicator he’s into you. And if he starts dropping those compliments about how you look, he’s making it clear he’s into you.
[Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]
Knowing how to tell if your guy friend likes you can save you an awful lot of uncomfortable guesswork. If he’s doing these things, he has his sights set on a romantic future with you.
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