If your man has a tendency to ignore you or not take you seriously, you’ll want to know how to get your boyfriend’s attention. Here’s how.
Sometimes guys are the worst. I know, we all love them but as boyfriends, they can often need a little help understanding the wants of women. And that want is to be heard and taken seriously. In order to help them figure it out, you’ll have to learn how to get your boyfriend’s attention.
It’s not easy. Girls don’t always understand how guys’ minds work and vice versa. So in order to get him to take you seriously, you’ll have to learn how to connect with him in a way he’ll understand.
Some guys do take you seriously but just don’t show it
Not all guys are ignoring you. If your boyfriend seems like he’s ignoring you, all he might need is a little reminder to pay attention. Sometimes, he might’ve been listening the entire time but just not showing it.
The best way to figure this one out is to talk to him. Ask if he’s really ignoring you or just not speaking up. Usually, he’ll say he was just not speaking up so challenge him a little by asking what you said or what your goals are. If he can’t name them, he was definitely ignoring you. [Read: 20 sure reasons why a guy could be ignoring you]
How to get your boyfriend’s attention and keep it
If your boyfriend’s attention is wandering or you just can’t seem to get him to take you seriously, these tips can help. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t think everything you say is the most important. Make sure you’re heard.
#1 Don’t nag. Nagging won’t get you anywhere with a guy. If your boyfriend feels like you’re nagging him to pay more attention, he’ll get annoyed. To him, it doesn’t sound like a legitimate concern to you but rather like you just want to change him.
Instead, focus on talking to him calmly and seriously about the issue. If all you’re saying is, “Why don’t you pay attention to me anymore?” while whining, he’ll feel attacked. And when that happens, no one wins. [Read: The real meaning of nagging]
#2 Don’t go overboard. Some girls try to compensate for not having their boyfriend’s attention by trying way too many over the top things to make their men see them. This is not the way to go. Never start doing crazy or wild things in an attempt to get his attention. It’s not worth it and it won’t work.
#3 Do less. The key isn’t to do more, it’s to do less. Guys usually get annoyed when you do too much to get their attention. In most cases, they’ll roll their eyes and go back to ignoring you. What really makes a difference is when you pull back.
Just stop trying to get his attention. He’ll notice your withdrawn behavior a lot more than he’ll notice your extravagant attempts to get his attention. So do less and he’ll end up coming to you. [Read: How to make your boyfriend want you more than ever]
#4 Talk to him during a good time. If you always feel like your man is ignoring you but the only time you talk to him is in the middle of his favorite show, that’s your fault. Don’t try to get his attention when you know it just won’t happen. Choose better times to talk to him and spend time together.
#5 Discuss his behavior. Just talk to him. Don’t be afraid to tell him that he’s not giving you enough attention. This is a serious problem in your relationship and if he cares, he’ll listen and make the change.
#6 Don’t deal with disrespect. If your significant other is disrespecting you, that’s a whole other problem. Don’t let him do that. Stop him the second he’s doing it and call him out on it. More often than not, this will surely get his attention.
#7 Delegate time to spend together. If you’re not getting the attention you want because both of your attention is split when together, then just schedule time together. There’s nothing wrong with this if you both have busy lives.
This way, you’ll be able to focus on each other while together instead of having to check your social media, watch a movie, and try to hang out together. Make a time that’s just for the two of you to be alone together. [Read: Time management techniques for couples]
#8 Dress to the nines and ignore him. While I don’t normally condone something that could be considered “childish,” it’s definitely useful in this instance. If he’s been ignoring you and not giving you the attention he deserves, then look your best, and go out with your friends. Make him beg you for your attention.
#9 Pay more attention to him and his life. It could be that you’re both just not connecting. You have lives that are too separate. Start asking about his hobbies and interests more than you do. Being more involved in his life will make him want to be in yours more.
#10 Get away together. The fact that he’s not paying attention might have to do with that disconnect I talked about. Go away together. Get back to your roots. Rekindling that spark might be all he needs to get his head in the right place and pay attention to you.
Take some time to just be together somewhere you’re normally not. Go away for the weekend and just spend time with each other with nothing to disturb you. Getting out of a rut you might be in can help you get your man’s attention. [Read: 12 alternative destinations for romantic breaks]
#11 Do something sweet for him. Many guys pull away if they feel like they’re not cared for. Your man could be getting a little insecure about your feelings for him and that’s why he’s ignoring you. He’s pulling away to save himself the heartache.
So instead of getting angry, do something nice for him. Reassure him of your feelings and see if that helps him pay more attention to you. It’s very possible he just wants a little something extra from you but the only way he knows to communicate that is by ignoring you. [Read: 25 easy ways to keep a guy hooked and happy in love]
#12 Ditch him and get a new guy. Some boyfriends can’t be taught to pay attention to their girlfriends. Now, you really shouldn’t necessarily have to teach your man to take you seriously in the first place.
Some guys, however, need a little boost. Others will never change. If your guy isn’t changing, it’s time to say goodbye. You shouldn’t have to fight for their attention.