Sometimes you get stuck with someone that just can’t seem to be honest with you. Here’s 10 ways you can deal with a guy that is always full of shit.
People lie. It’s just a fact of life and you have to deal with it sometimes. I’m sure you’ve told your fair share of lies at one time or another and probably haven’t thought twice about it. The problem arises when you end up with a guy that is full of shit more than he’s not. Meaning, he has a tendency to spit out more lies than are even believable. And you’re left dealing with that irritation.
Sometimes lying can be good
Not all lies are bad, of course. Sure, lying about what you do for a living or whether or not you have kids could be grounds for ending the relationship, but lying about whether or not they look good in a specific pair of jeans is completely harmless.
Sometimes you have to lie to your significant other for the good of the relationship. You can’t always tell them when the food they made is terrible, or if they’re gaining weight and you don’t like it. These are examples of when lying is actually a good thing.
Dealing with a guy that is always full of shit
On the other hand, lying can be the worst thing in a relationship. I once dated a guy that would lie on a regular basis. He was so full of shit that I just stopped believing anything he told me. It ultimately ruined the relationship. [Read: 13 giveaways to tell if someone’s lying to your face]
The good news is you can deal with someone that is always full of shit without ending things with them. It won’t always be easy, but if you follow the tips below, you can deal with him and maybe even stop the lying for good.
#1 Don’t acknowledge his lies at first. Sometimes the best thing to do when someone lies to you is to just ignore it. If you start to notice he is always full of shit and spewing out lie after lie, just ignore him. Don’t even mention anything.
In fact, don’t even talk to him when he starts telling you lie after lie. Most people ignored tend to just give up and stop their behavior. This is especially true for liars if they sense you’re not buying into anything they’re saying. [Read: 10 ways to ignore people who ruin a perfectly good day]
#2 Challenge his lies. If ignoring his lies just isn’t working for you, another way to get him to stop his lying and to deal with it is to challenge him. Ask him questions about the lies and get some details.
Chances are, he’ll realize you know he’s lying. He won’t be able to come up with anything to back up the lies. If he’s that full of shit, he might be able to conjure up some lies. If you keep pushing and try to get more out of him, he’ll stop lying to you because he won’t always want to think up that much information.
#3 Call him out on the lies. Sometimes even that isn’t enough to make a guy that is always full of shit give up on his lying behavior. If that’s the case for you, just simply call him out on his lies. Blatantly say that you know he’s lying.
Not only will this probably stun him because he’s not used to people calling him out on his shit. He’ll also realize he won’t get anything past you, and he’ll stop the lies. Even a compulsive liar won’t want their lies to be uncovered. [Read: Avoid them like the plague: 16 types of guys not to date]
#4 Explain that you don’t appreciate being lied to. This can be a hard thing to do when the guy that’s always full of shit gets defensive about lying. He might even deny lying at all even if you have proof he has been.
The best thing to do is just explain you don’t appreciate being lied to, and it’s not how you like to live your life. If they care about you in any way, they’ll acknowledge your feelings and ease up on the lies.
#5 Don’t play into his lies. Don’t encourage him when he lies. Always know the truth and don’t stray from that. No matter how convincing their lies seem to be. The truth is, you’ll be able to tell a truth from one of his lies.
Don’t be the person to react dramatically when he lies because that’s what makes him want to keep lying. Ignoring it and not questioning something–even when it sounds convincing–is the best way to go about dealing with a guy that’s always full of shit.
#6 Try to understand why he lies. I know it can be really frustrating trying to figure out why this person who is supposed to care about you keeps lying, but there’s a reason for it.
Some people need to lie in order to make themselves feel worthy of your affection and some lie because they’re just not confident in who they are so they make up stories to sound better. The bottom line is that guys aren’t full of shit just to be mean. So try and understand what it is they’re trying to prove. [Read: 11 most obvious signs to reveal if he is treating]
#7 Talk to him about why he needs to lie. My ex-boyfriend lied all the time because he has a really big problem with feeling the need to please everyone. His lies were mainly told so he wouldn’t let anyone down.
I tried talking to him time and time again about why that is and explaining he didn’t need to lie to me. Sometimes, however, it’s not always enough. But if you can get passed his exterior and speak to him about it, it’ll make dealing with it a lot easier. [Read: 20 signs of a people pleaser most people just don’t see]
#8 Work on helping him with his problem. Don’t just talk about why he’s so full of shit, actually work to help him with his problem because the truth is, lying and being full of shit are actual problems.
If he sees that you’re willing to look past his insecurities or whatever causes him to be full of shit he’ll stop lying to you. In fact, he may even listen to you when you want to help him with his lying problem.
#9 Try to trust him. Trusting someone that’s always full of shit is not an easy thing to do. But if you’ve followed all of the above advice and you know he’s working on being better, trust him.
#10 Make sure he knows that he doesn’t need to lie in order to impress you. The bottom line is that a lot of guys are full of shit when they want to impress you. They make up these elaborate stories in order to look better in your eyes in the hopes you can’t see passed their bullshit.
But if you do know he’s full of shit, just explain to him that he doesn’t have to do anything to impress you because you already like him. Knowing this gives him less of a reason to lie, and it’ll be that much easier to deal with him.