When you suddenly feel like your guy friend pays a little too much attention to you, you may need help deciding, does my guy friend like me as a crush.
There aren’t many things worse than waking up one day and wondering “does my guy friend like me?” Someone you thought was just a good friend might actually like you. It’s awkward, uncomfortable, and, honestly, a huge bummer for him AND you.
There’s a reason you and your guy friend are strictly friends. Because you decided you just aren’t into each other that way. However, if one day—after spending too much time with you—he suddenly starts being a little too nice and looking at you a little too much, he may have changed his mind.
Why guys make the best friends for girls
I think every girl needs a guy friend in her life. It’s not only great to be able to get on the inside with a guy and understand how they work, but they’re protective, helpful, and ridiculously loyal, much more than girls, at least.
That’s why they’re simply the best friends girls ever have. A guy friend from a while ago taught me a lot more about myself than I ever would have realized if I only ever had girlfriends. You learn a lot from someone who isn’t as much like you. [Read: All the perks of having a guy best friend in your life]
How to tell if he’s crushing on you
If you start noticing little things out of the ordinary about your guy friend and feel the need to ask yourself, “Does my guy friend like me?” you may feel panic stricken. But have no fear!
Luckily, if you really want to find out the truth if their feelings for you has changed from friends to something much friendlier, there is a way to do it. These are all of the different ways you tell if your guy friend likes you and has a massive crush on you.
#1 You catch him staring at you a lot. Now, it’s not normal for your friends to just stare at you for no reason. Usually they stare at you if you got a haircut, and they can’t figure out what’s different. Or if you have something hanging out of your teeth.
#2 He gets embarrassed easily. If you’re good friends, then he probably doesn’t get embarrassed very easily by you. Truthfully, he shouldn’t get embarrassed at all if you’re friends. But if you notice he goes really red or tries to avoid certain touchy topics, it could be because he likes you.
#3 He’s not acting like his usual self. This is probably the biggest sign that his feelings have shifted from something platonic to something more serious. If he stops acting like his normal self around you and starts taking on a different personality, it may be because he likes you and trying to be on his best behavior.
#4 He’s texting/calling/talking to you more in general. This is another huge sign your guy friend likes you. If he’s texting you a lot more—and replying faster—he’s a lot more eager to talk to you.
#5 He initiates the majority of the hangouts and they’re more frequent. When a guy likes you, he’s going to make an effort to see you as much as he can. If he tries to spend more time with you and he never used to, then he probably has a huge crush on you.
#6 He does any favor for you. Most of your friends probably help you out every once in awhile, but they’ll also refuse to help you just as easily. If he never used to help you out very much but is now doing favors all the time, and even offering to help without being asked—he definitely likes you.
#7 He gets annoyed when you start talking about guys you like. Normally, this wouldn’t have bothered him in the least. But if you notice that lately he’s been acting annoyed or even jealous when you bring up a guy you need advice about, chances are it’s because he likes you. [Read: Sleeping with a friend: A no-regrets guide to doing it right]
#8 He asks you about impressing a girl but won’t tell you who. If he used to tell you each and every girl he’s ever had a crush on but is suddenly asking for advice on how to get one girl specifically and won’t tell you who, it’s probably you.
When he’s suddenly hiding something that he used to be really forthcoming about it’s probably because of you and his feelings changing in favor of you.
#9 He’s complimenting you more than usual. A guy friend is bound to give you a compliment every once in awhile, but overall, they’re going to keep them at bay because it could make the friendship weird or give you the wrong idea.
If he’s freely giving you compliments left and right, it’s because he likes you and wants you to get the hint.
#10 You’ve noticed he’s started flirting with you. Flirting is basically a for sure sign someone has a crush on you. Now, some platonic friends joke around and flirt with each other for fun, but if he’s never done it before and is now going for it, then his feelings toward you have completely changed. [Read: Is he flirting with me? 12 signs that’ll reveal the truth]
#11 He initiates more physical contact. Most of the time, people who are just friends don’t really touch very much other than maybe a hug if they haven’t seen each other in a while. If you notice he’s scooting closer during your hangouts, hugging you more than usual, or even throwing a playful arm around you, he definitely likes you as more than a friend.
#12 He asks you deep questions about yourself. I’m sure the two of you have had meaningful chats before if you two are good friends, but when he starts prying into more personal details and your life goals and dreams, his feelings are more than just friendly.
#13 He notices the little things. When you get your hair cut, buy new shampoo, or even just paint your nails, and he actually notices those things and never used to, then he likes you. If he’s paying more attention to little things in your life, he’s paying more attention to you in general and that means his feelings have developed.
#14 He’s dressing and grooming himself nicer. I’m sure you’ve seen him when he’s in sweats and hasn’t showered for a couple of days. If you start to notice that whenever you hang out he’s freshly shaven, dressed really well, and even smells amazing, then he’s doing it for you because he has a major crush. [Read: How to be just friend when he really wants more]
#15 He asks you on a date. This huge, big sign you can’t miss. If he flat out asks you to go out with him and even says the word “date,” then he obviously likes you more than a friend. It shows he is willing to put the friendship on the line for a chance to date you.