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How to Tell If a Man Is Sexually Frustrated When You’re On a Date

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We all have dry spells, it’s normal. But if the guy you’ve been on two dates with starts to look at you like a piece of steak, well, here’s how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated.

Dry spells are a fact of life, but understanding how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated will help you decide if you want to move forward to another date or not.

We all have had periods in our life where getting laid seemed like trying out for the Olympics. You’re not sure what’s going on, but no one wants to have sex with you. It has nothing to do with the way you look, it’s just a phase everyone goes through.

But for some guys, their dry spells turned into a lifestyle. They haven’t had sex in such a long time, that when they get a chance to go on a date with a girl, they’re overwhelmed with emotion. [Read: How to handle your partner’s sexual frustration]

How to tell if a man is sexually frustrated

Maybe you’re on your date and you see this guy sweating profusely or nervously biting his nails. Sure, it could be because he’s stressed from work or the fact that you sitting in front of him is making him lose his mind. I was on a date once where the guy literally yelled out suddenly, “You’re so pretty!” and then slammed his fists on the table.

Now, other than being weird, he was sexually a little tense… if you couldn’t tell. No, there wasn’t a second date. But you want to see these signs earlier than later. Sometimes it’s not easy playing cool.

#1 They get a little too excited when you use emojis. Especially the eggplant one, come on ladies, you know that one isn’t about vegetables. If you text with this guy and use emojis, like you usually do, but he’s really going wild on them, well, it’s a little too eager, no? Men don’t usually use smiley faces, but if he’s using every emoji in the book, he wants in those pants. [Read: How to decode the emoji meanings they’re sending you]

#2 After your date, he wants to see you the next day. You may really like him or vice versa, but usually, you give a couple days in between your first date and the next one. You may text over those days and then agree to see each other again.

But if he pushes to see you the day after your date for a movie, well, he’s sexually frustrated and thinks he has this in the bag. [Read: 17 relationship red flags most people ignore]

#3 They’re always trying to sext with you. Sexting is fun and when you’re both really into it, you can really go wild with your imagination. But, if he’s always trying to sext with you, then that’s a little bit of a red flag. I mean, calm down. It’s clear that you want to have sex with him. But he’s sexually frustrated. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy is sexually frustrated, you’ll see that he pushes for more and more.

#4 He’s pushy. And he’s pushy for a reason. If a guy is sexually active, even if he really likes you, he’s going to play it cool because he’s been sexually taken care of. But if he hasn’t had sex in a while, he’ll push to see you more often. Asking you out for more and more dates, preferably at his place or yours.

#5 He is quiet about his dating life. That’s because he literally doesn’t have one. It’s not his fault or maybe it is, you’ll find out soon, trust me. It’s normal for men to have had previous relationships, casual sex, and one-night stands.

Now, he’s not going to go into detail but he’ll bring up relationships and that he’s been “casually seeing people.” But this guy, it’s crickets.

#6 He overreacts. Now he could just have a temper or he’s so sexually frustrated that everything pisses him off because no matter how hard he tries he can’t get laid. Both are highly possible, so you’ll just need to sit on it and see. But if he’s unreasonably defensive or emotional, it could just be that he’s not having an easy time in the women department. [Read: 13 ways to recognize subtle cues people give off]

#7 He looks like he gave up. He hasn’t shaved in months. You question if he’s even showered. It looks as though this guy has just completely given up on the idea of having sex. Though he’s on this date, he’s expecting absolutely nothing to come from it.

#8 He doesn’t laugh at any sexual jokes you make. If you try to tease him playfully and he isn’t reacting in a positive way, you may be poking a sensitive subject for him. This is a pretty good sign there’s something wrong. Men confident in their sexuality and capabilities wouldn’t react negatively to your teasing.

#9 He’s really jealous. It could be your first date, and you glance at a guy walking by. Well, he saw and he’s not happy about it. He may bring it up in conversation or you may see him become red in the face and unresponsive in conversation. He’s really jealous and insecure. It’s because he’s not getting laid. He wants your eyes on him. [Read: 25 hints a guy can’t hide when he’s jealous]

#10 They wanna get serious fast. You’ve been on one date, and they already tell you that you’re the girl they want to spend the rest of their life with. Or you sleep with them once and they have a ring sitting on the nightstand for you. Their desire to commit is a little too much. But they don’t even know you. This is when you need to step back.

#11 They peacock. When a man peacocks, it means they want outshine other men with bright or flashy clothing. Of course, it gets women’s attention but not in a good way. If they wear shirts two sizes too small or lizard skin shoes with gold chains, they grab whatever they can. [Read: Why men instinctively indulge in peacocking]

#12 They brag… a lot. Listen, if the guy talks about how he’s such a ladies man and that he once slept with Lindsay Lohan, he’s full of shit. He wants to impress you. Because, in reality, he’s not getting any, it’s that simple.

[Read: Avoid these 16 types of guys like the plague]

Now that you know how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated, it’s time you kept an eye out for them the next time you’re on a date. I mean, you want the guy to like you, not the fact you have a vagina.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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