Want him to spend more time down there without taking a detour? Remember these tips and you’ll know just how to make him go down on you the right way. By Ethan Kent
We want life to be like it is in the movies.
But when it comes to life within the closed bedroom doors, movies are the last place we need to draw inspiration from.
In almost all porn movies, a girl may spend a good half an hour salivating and blowing a guy.
And the guy would reciprocate with a few animalistic minutes of going down on her like a savage, yet with no passion.
[Read: 20 things about girls that sexually turns on a guy]
The good side of going down
Going down on each other is pleasurable and intimate in real life.
It can bring both of you closer and help achieve better orgasms.
After all, by lingering the penetrating finale and indulging in other things that can be just as much of a turn on, you can make sex wetter and last a lot longer.
[Read: How to look sexy while sleeping with your man]
But here’s where things get tricky. Not all guys go down there easily.
Some guys need a bit of prodding and head holding to graze down there. And that’s never a good experience, for both of you.
How to make him go down on you
Are you dating a guy who never goes down on you? Or are you in love with a man who thinks a small tickle for a second or two defines an orgasm inducing cunnilingus?
Fret not. You can change his attitude towards your vajajay and make him treat it with a little more love and respect in no time.
First of all, you need to know this. Guys like going down there. Trust me, it’s what they’ve dreamt of for a long time. [Read: Tips to increase your sex appeal]
They’ve thought of it as soon as they hit puberty and they’ve wanted to do it ever since they saw their first porno. But somewhere along the way, your man may have had a few bad experiences, either with you or with a past lover.
And one bad experience followed by many more bad experiences eventually may have blindsided your secret garden from his sexual view.
Tips to make him pleasure you down there
If you want to make him go down on you, firstly all you need to do is tell him. He really can’t forget a special permission like that.
If he goes down and resurfaces in seconds or avoids going down there, he may have a bad memory that needs healing.
Take it easy and just follow these steps to ease his face down your base.
#1 Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene. There really is no bigger reason for a guy to avoid your lady parts. The first impression is a lasting impression for your man when he brings his face down there. If it doesn’t smell right the first few times, you’ll have a hard time getting him to go down on you without using a leash.
Always remember to keep your privates clean and hygienic. It’s a first step that almost always solves your dilemma.
#2 Don’t make him drown down there. You may be having fun when he goes down, but that’s no excuse to firmly stuff his face down with your hands and suffocate him in the heat of the moment. And don’t keep nudging him downwards every time you make love.
When you force him, he’ll think of it as a chore and not something pleasurable and may even start dreading it. [Read: Tips on turning a guy on]
#3 Trim the bushes. Or raze the forest. Remember, the cleaner you keep it, the easier it is to manage your hygiene. It also makes it easy for him to find it when the lights get turned down. Unless your man likes a lot of hair down there, keep the hair to a bare minimum like a line of landing strip or get a Brazilian wax. He’ll love spending time with his face against your smooth, moist skin.
#4 Keep it fragrant. In the Kamasutra, it’s been mentioned that a beautiful maiden’s vajajay always smells like a freshly blossoming lily. Well, you don’t need to stick a lily down there to entice his nostrils. Instead, use fragrant body oils or use a flavored lube when you get into bed. Don’t use it all over your body, just use it where you want his attention. He’ll definitely work his tongue when you smell like cherry blossom or even a budding lily down there!
#5 Wear enticing lingerie. Avoid granny panties. However good looking your vajajay may be, everything needs presentation. You like your gifts wrapped and ribboned, so does he. Look good in bed and give him a chance to play with your silk lingerie before he takes it all off for you. Entice him to kiss you all over and make him take his time to get your naked. [Read: How to dress for sex]
#6 Watch porn together. Now all porn isn’t good. Pick a movie where the two actors are focused more on passion and arousal than just mindless banging. Watch the movie together in bed and play along with the same moves. And yes, that does mean you have to spend a considerable time blowing his whistle before he eats you out. [Read: Why men watch porn instead of their woman]
#7 Let him see your satisfaction. When he goes near your vajajay, gasp and moan softly like you’re experiencing a lot of pleasure even if he’s doing nothing to it and just playing with your navel. Raise your pelvis to let him know that there’s a sweeter, fragrant spot just below that would bring you more pleasure.
#8 Be coy and shy. When he goes down there after a hiatus, be coy and demure about it. Don’t get overexcited and stuff his head in or spread your legs wide and start acting like a horny tramp. Play it easy and let him know that you’re enjoying it. Run your hand through his hair and if he seems comfortable about it, guide him around with your hands gently and moan to let him know if you like something he’s doing.
#9 Restrict him. Restrict him from that zone now and then and he’ll like it more. If something’s restricted from a guy, he’ll want it a lot more. But unless you know he’s starting to enjoy going down on you, don’t restrict him just yet.
For starters, when he goes down on you for a while, bring his head up when you know he’s still enjoying it. But within a minute of him surfacing, sink in orgasmic bliss and tell him you miss his tongue down there already. He’ll realize how much you like it and go right into it again. Just as long as you stop him just before he’s getting tired or bored, he’ll always be ready for more. [Read: How to be a perfect seductress]
#10 Don’t be selfish. This is basic etiquette. If you want him to go down on you, you need to go down on him and give him a good time. If he isn’t taking a lead, you can go down first and wait for him to thank you back by lying on your back and allowing his tongue to wander all over you. [Read: 10 annoying girlfriend habits guys hate]
#11 Have great sex after he gives you an oral. By doing this, as thick as your guy may be, he’ll realize that going down on you will lead to better sex and better orgasms. And guys always have a huge ego when it comes to pleasing a woman in bed. If he finds a way to pleasure you more and give you a better orgasm, he’ll definitely do it just to feel good about his own sexual prowess. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for sexy loving]
#12 Thank him for it. Let your man know that you enjoy it when he goes down there. Sometimes, your man may not realize how good it makes you feel just because he doesn’t care if you go down on him. Thank your man for going down on you without making it seem like you’re manipulating him to make it a routine because you enjoyed it.
And that’s it!
If your man starts to like what he’s doing down there, he’ll go down on you even without you talking about it or maneuvering his head in the right direction.
But always remember this, he has to get over the things that were bothering him in the first place. Don’t use these pointers once and forget all about it. You’re not trying to trick him, are you? [Read: How to make your man happy in 20 little ways]
Make these tips a part of your routine. Your man will love you for it, and you most definitely will too!
[Read: How to keep a guy interested in you in 30 super sexy ways]
Just use these 12 tips on how to make him go down there and help your man ease himself and get over any hesitations he may have had in the past. And soon enough, he’ll want to spend more time down there than anywhere else!
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is this true??? that they want to go there…already??
Having my man go down on me is usually the only way I can have an orgasm so I’m thankful that my lover does it and loves doing it…I never have to ask .
yes haha I don’t know about other guys but oral is really something I wanted even in my younger years it adds to my ego when I know I’m doing great things with my tongue my girlfriend loves it.
Most men like the smell and taste of a woman, especially when she is at her peak point in fertility. If I want a guy to go down on me I will take my fingers and touch my own vagina. I’ll then have him suck on my wet fingers, put my scent on my neck, breasts, and stomach. It never fails they’ll follow that smell anywhere and I don’t have to say a word. Agree completely on the Brazilian, adds a whole new element to things.
This list is spot on, and goes for men as well. I keep my biz clean for my lady and she does the same for me. As long as she’s fresh and my mouth isn’t tired I could go on and on. Additionally, the part about mutual action is very important. Nothing worse than someone who won’t reciprocate.
Love the article! I agree 100%! As a woman I can’t imagine having my man digging through the forest to find my oasis. Keeping my self shaved helps me to stay clean plus it also lets me feel EVERYTHING he’s doing to me as well. It also lets me have a good view as well.
As a guy, here’s some thoughts:
- Yes, most guys like it, if he doesn’t like it then he’s not worth your time
- You don’t need to be bald, we also love shapes
- Be careful with your washing detergent. Some washing detergents in your panties can react to your juices and create a foul odour. It’s off putting
- Best feedback to show your enjoyment is letting your hips go wild.
- Best reward afterwards is a direct passionate kiss (pavloc + to a guy, a girl tasting herself is very kinky).
Why won’t my boyfriend give me head for the first time I’ve tried everything! It’s been five years!!
My guy first went down on me quite unexpectedly a little over two years into the relationship (which was quick considering we were 15/16). It seemed like he loved it and I could’ve gotten it as long as I wanted. Since then, it has been two and a half more years with the same guy and he has only done it a handful of times, with only one other time actually being good. I stay shaven pretty well for the most part, and even more kept up when I really want it, but he’ll just put it off and never do it because he wants to go straight to sex. I don’t find it fair because I never deny him a blowjob even though I keep asking him to please trim and he never does. It’s like he doesn’t care about giving me time to get wet because our foreplay is like two minutes and it’s all about stuff just to make him hard. Giving him a blowjob that leads to sex is like the only way I can get wet enough for sex to go really easy and smoothly. We do have great sex but I wish we could have longer foreplay so I can maybe orgasm for the first time ever.
my lover wont go down he finds it gross as in thats were you go to the bathroom? But i go down on him.
Normal, hetero guy manly men do love the taste and smell of a woman. If you have to “make” your man go down on you, and you want it, you got the wrong man. Remember the Christina song, “you gotta like what you do”?, that’s the one. When I was sixteen, my gynecologist, (who knows maybe he was a dirty old man, what did I know I was so young)asked me about what my boyfriend did to me; I told him and he “schooled” me, is the best way I can relay it. He told me not to be shy, that men love the smell, taste, touch, and sounds of a female. I sat there and nodded, dumbly, but it has served me well, bless the man. I married my boyfriend, eventually, and we’ve been together 40 years!
LOL all you have to do is ask
#4 use scented oils or lube — are you kidding?!
There is NO WAY we want to be eating cherry blossom or lily – the smell of a woman’s juices are a huge turn on. The taste is part of what makes is enjoyable for us guys.
My bf loves going down on me. All I have to do is touch my v*gina and he’ll suck it happily. Then I just put my fingers on my breast and lips and then off he goes kissing me and licking my breasts and swirling his tounge around it. It really turns me on.
If my woman asked I would drop everything to get some of that. I don’t even expect oral in return. Just let me have some fun pleasing her would be great. My problem is she doesn’t seem to want any … oral or otherwise.
the worst thing to do is to actualy go down on him when you know he doesn’t want to go down on you. He will just belive he can get it for nothing that you dont mind doying it and not receive it.
But the best thing to do is just to not go with guys who don’t want to …
Man this is terrible. People have it so easy all the time. It is like you go out and there is a horde of women just standing for you. Now all these poor young people are reading these articles and getting that desperate to try out all these “new moves” that they’ve learned from them. It doesn’t happen this way and this is not how it is. “Real life is different than porn movies”. Seriously? Great Saints remained abstinent all their lives because it is much too easy to go out and get yourself a girl, or a bunch of girls even. Do what is hard. And if you really want to like someone, don’t look at them for their body, look at them for their person, relate it to yours, be sincere and kind, a little smart and caring and don’t dump them after you’ve done the first thing you had wanted to do to them. Or don’t care about it at all; you’ll get a few chicks coming towards you anyways. And if you’re only attracted to the pretty ones, then become pretty inside.