Some guys aren’t very expressive with their love. If that’s the case with your man, you’re probably wondering how to know if he loves you. Here’s how.
Not knowing whether or not your partner loves you is a little frustrating. It can also make it really difficult for you to gauge where your relationship is at romantically. Luckily, there are ways to learn how to know if he loves you or not. And truthfully, it’ll be pretty easy to tell.
Guys are more about actions than they are about words. While you may be the one to voice how much you care about him, he’d rather just do things that prove his feelings for you are there. I know how frustrating this can be – especially if you’re not good at reading the signs.
Why you should always know how the other person feels
The first few months of a new relationship are always a little rocky just because you have no idea where you stand with the other person. Do they want to be with you for the long run or is it just a fling for them?
Unless you straight up ask them, it’ll be really hard to tell. And even then, some guys get scared off when you try to determine the relationship too early. But it’s essential to know how you feel about each other. Knowing how they feel eliminates confusion and insecurities. Both of those can ruin a great thing if they’re not taken care of. [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]
How to know if he loves you by the things he does every day
Like I said before, men are actionable. They show you how they feel rather than tell you. But in order to know if he loves you, you’ll have to start learning how to read the things he does for you. Here are all the things a man will do if he’s truly in love with you.
#1 He supports your goals. This is probably the biggest indicator that he loves you other than him actually telling you. Your goals in life are one of the most important things to you. A guy who supports those goals clearly cares about what makes you happy.
#2 He’s affectionate. Anyone who’s affectionate toward you cares about you. However, you have to make note of the different types of affection. Some guys will only give you affection if it leads to sex.
But what about when you’re sick or on your period or can’t have sex with him? Does he still cuddle with you and kiss you randomly? If so, he loves you. Going out of his way to give you attention and affection is a huge sign of his feelings.
#3 You catch him staring at you. This doesn’t necessarily prove that he loves you on its own, but it does show how much he thinks about you. It just shows that he’s checking you out even if he’s not talking about it.
Some guys will be really quick to compliment you all the time because it usually makes you really happy – which often leads to fun in the bedroom. If your guy is checking you out without needing to talk about it, he loves you. [Read: 14 surefire signs your man thinks you’re attractive]
#4 He wants to be a part of your family. One of the best ways to tell how a guy feels about you is through his actions toward your family. Does he want to be involved with them? Does he attend your family functions even if it might be inconvenient for him to do so?
That selflessness when it comes to your family shows that he’s willing to be one of them. He wants to be a part of your family because he loves you.
#5 He makes an effort to be involved with your friends. This is another big sign that he has some real feelings for you. Your friends are really important to you. His involvement with them proves to you that he’s willing to make them important to him as well.
That level of commitment is a huge sign he loves you. It’s even better if he’s actively trying to form friendships with them as well. This also puts him on your friends’ good side, which can only help him win you over more. [Read: 25 signs he loves you even if he doesn’t say it]
#6 He gets involved with your hobbies. I’m not saying he has to drop his own hobbies and trade them out for yours. He doesn’t even have to do the things you. But if he’s actively involved in your hobbies by going to your volleyball games or taking an interest in the book you’re writing, he loves you.
He realizes that those things are vital to you. He knows you’ll be doing them for as long as you can. So getting involved is something he’ll do when he loves you because he wants to make sure you know he will be involved with that part of your life.
#7 He makes your date nights a priority. Too many relationships get damaged when couples get too comfortable and forget to actually nurture their relationship. Dates are important. Being intimate with each other and enjoying each other’s company alone is vital to a healthy relationship.
A man who takes that seriously is a man who wants to make it work with you. He’s a man who loves you. So if he’s making that a priority in your relationship, he definitely wants to be with you for a long time. [Read: 13 naughty date night ideas to spice things up]
#8 He wants your opinion on major decisions in his life. If there’s one thing you should pay the most attention to, it’s this. If a guy is asking for your thoughts and opinions when it comes to his career and other major life choices, it’s because he sees you in his life when he’s living out those choices.
He values your opinion and wants your help. This isn’t something a man does if he doesn’t love you.
#9 He tries to be with you often. AKA, he totally acts like he misses you. This is especially true if he’s been away from home for work or vacation and wants to go directly to be with you. Wanting to be around you just to see you is a huge sign he loves you. [Read: 14 signs your man really misses you]
#10 He wants you to get to know his friends and family. It may even be more of a sign he loves you if he wants you to meet his friends than if he introduces you to his family. A guy’s friends are like his deal breaker. If they hate you and you’re not into them, it can be a bigger issue than if his family isn’t fond of you.
And when he wants you to get to know them, it means he wants you to be in his life for a long time. It means he loves you.