So, you wanna keep him interested but not sure how to keep a text conversation going with a guy? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there.
You know, people say texting can be quite harmful to a relationship, and I agree in many cases. However, when getting to know someone, texting is a really valuable tool to use. You have time to think about what you’re going to say, you don’t have to deal with any awkward silences, and you’re through all the small talk right away. That is why you need to learn how to keep a text conversation going with a guy.
But what happens to most of us when we text is that we tend to overdo it and become a bore. Texting is addicting and when you’re texting someone you like, sometimes we freeze and only write “lol” or “yeah” or we send essay-length paragraphs. I still don’t know which one is worse. [Read: 15 easy conversation starters with a guy you like]
How to keep a text conversation going with a guy
But there are some things you can do to keep the text conversation with a guy flowing smoothly. Things that you’ll have to be aware of when texting him so that you keep your cool even though you’re freaking out. So, what do you have to do when texting a guy? Slow down there, don’t worry, I’m going to tell you everything there is to know about how to keep a text conversation going with a guy. It’s not as hard as you think it is.
#1 Relax. I know you like this guy, but if you’re freaking out already and you haven’t even sent a text yet, it’s not going to go well. You’ll overthink what you’re saying and it won’t be the natural you speaking. So, just take a breath and chill out for a second before talking to him. Sure, he’s cute and all that but he’s just a guy. Repeat to yourself, “He’s just a guy.” [Read: How to start a conversation with a guy]
#2 Conversation is a two-way street. This is the important part when you’re talking to a guy. You need to make sure the conversation is going both ways. If you’re the only one talking, then you need to back off. Don’t be the only one talking.
If you’re asking him questions but he’s not giving much back, then he may not be interested. If you only talk about yourself and forget to ask him questions, well, you come off self-absorbed.
#3 Stick to your style. Don’t try to change the way you text to impress him. Keep to your own personal style and stay true to that. But this also means you need to be aware of the way he writes. You may use emojis when you speak which is fine, but if he doesn’t, don’t assume that he’s not interested. Everyone has their own style when it comes to texting. [Read: How to decode and use emojis correctly]
#4 Know when to stop the conversation. Just because the conversation is dying doesn’t mean that you aren’t connecting. Don’t try to force the conversation to continue. Instead, when you see that it’s dying, tell him that you have to run or go to work. It adds some chase to the relationship as you’re the one letting go of the conversation rather than him.
#5 Throw in a couple voice messages. Now some people really don’t like them or they’re unable to listen to them because of work. But, overall, voice messages are great. They’re another way to add a personalized touch to your texts. Plus, sometimes your thumbs get sore, so, give them a rest by sending a voice message.
#6 Go easy with the replies. What I mean is, don’t send eight texts in a row because they’re taking more than two seconds to reply to you. Play it cool. Remember, outside of the texting world he also lives an actual life. So, if he doesn’t reply for a couple hours, don’t think of it as the end of the world. Just because there’s a lag in response time doesn’t mean he’s not interested in you or the conversation is over. [Read: 13 rules you HAVE to follow when a guy stops texting you]
#7 A proofread goes a long way. You may not think of it, but rereading your text message before you send it goes a long way. When excited we think quicker than we type, so, make sure your sentences make sense. Before pressing send, double check your message to make sure it flows smoothly.
#8 Ask questions. If you want the conversation to keep going, then ask him a question. But there is a fine line here. You don’t want to have it look like a job interview, so throw in a question here and there, but don’t constantly ask him one after another. He’ll get scared and create distance between you.
#9 Stay positive. He isn’t your boyfriend, so you’re still trying to get to know him and see where he stands with you. Keep the conversation in a light tone. Of course, if you have a bad day, tell him but keep the whining and complaining down to a minimum. No one likes sitting through a conversation with someone spewing negativity. [Read: How to be a positive person and find the silver lining]
#10 Get to know him. When it comes to knowing how to keep a text conversation going with a guy, don’t be shy to ask about what his interests are, if he plays sports, what movies he likes, etc. This is a good opportunity to filter out the basic information about him and see if you generally are interested in the kind of life he lives. Of course, you don’t have to ask him straight up if he likes movies, but you can ask him indirectly by commenting on a movie you watched and then see what he says.
#11 Keep the overanalyzing to a minimum. I know this is going to be hard because we all overanalyze. But seriously, try to keep it down to a minimum. Don’t read over his messages, again and again, trying to see the emotion behind it. Just leave it. Listen, if he talks to you, you already know he’s curious, so that’s a good start.
#12 Don’t be so quick to answer. You don’t have to always answer his messages within seconds of receiving it. Remember that people pay attention to the patterns of others. Get him used to you not quickly replying to messages. It gives him the idea that you’re busy and also gives you the time to think about how you reply. [Read: 15 ways to get a guy to fall hard]
#13 When in doubt, call him. If you tire of texting and sending voice messages, just call him. At some point, you realize you spend a lot of your time texting each other. This is when you transition to a phone call. Of course, you can still text, but if the conversation keeps going on and on, just pick up the phone and call him. It’s easier on your thumbs, give them a little rest.