The truth is that hitting on guys is actually quite difficult. Most of the time, they can’t even tell. Here’s how to hit on a guy so he’ll understand.
When you’re out and about and see a hot guy you like, you probably walk up to him and hit on him. Then you feel disappointed when he brushes it off and your self-esteem takes a hit. You know the funny thing about all of this? Guys usually just have no idea you’re hitting on them. Which is why you need to learn how to hit on a guy in a way that he’ll understand.
Why guys have a hard time knowing when a woman is hitting on them
Honestly, it’s mostly because they just don’t believe it. In their mind, they’re the ones who are supposed to be hitting on you. It’s hard for them to believe a woman would walk up to them and start engaging in a conversation simply because she’s attracted to him.
Those types of guys are usually the good ones simply because they’re not full of themselves. They know that a woman talking to them doesn’t equate to attraction so when a woman really does find them attractive, it’s a little hard to believe. [Read: 15 sweet ways to tell a guy you like him and win him over]
How to hit on a guy so he’ll understand that you’re into him
There are a lot of missed opportunities when women hit on men who have no idea that’s what they’re doing. Guys don’t overanalyze everything a woman does. Therefore, he probably doesn’t really think of the exchange you had as you being into him.
If you want to know how to hit on guys in a way that’ll actually show him your level of interest, you’ve come to the right place. Here are our tips for showing a guy you like him while you’re hitting on him.
#1 Smile a lot. Smiling is universally seen as a positive thing. You don’t go around smiling at people you dislike or don’t want to talk to. Usually, guys will be able to tell, at the very least, that you’re enjoying talking to them.
But sometimes you need to take it a step further. And by that, I mean you really need to be smiling and happy around him. If he sees how excited and happy being around him makes you, he’ll start to think that you might actually like him. [Read: 6 baby steps to learn to smile more]
#2 Initiate physical contact. There are some people who are generally more touchy-feely than others. Their touches don’t usually mean anything significant. However, for most people, physical touches mean you feel close and comfortable with someone.
And if you’re already touching a stranger’s arm and bumping shoulders with him, it’ll send a pretty clear message that you’re interested. Just make sure not to go overboard because that might seem a little too desperate.
#3 Give him a compliment about his looks. Guys aren’t always super clueless. In fact, if you tell him how great he looks, he’ll probably get the hint that you like him. The problem with this is that it can be tricky to do and girls don’t often have the guts for it.
#4 Talk about getting together “sometime.” This is a line guys usually use on women but it definitely works on them too. If you’ve been talking for a little while and you’re not sure he’s picking up your hints, tell him the two of you should go do something together.
Make sure you say it in a way that suggests it’s a date. Otherwise, they may just think you’re inviting them to a group event or something that doesn’t show you like them.
#5 Be overly flirting. I’m not really one for condoning exaggeration, but in the case of learning how to hit on a guy, I’ll make an exception. Since guys have a hard time knowing whether or not you’re actually flirting and not just being nice, make it super obvious.
#6 Avoid subtleties. The time for subtleties is NOT when you’re trying to pick up a guy. Hitting on guys requires you to be obvious. And although you don’t want to throw yourself at him, you also can’t expect that you just saying hello is enough to make him realize you’re into him.
Try being upfront and obvious with the things you do. If you’re giving him a compliment, make it obvious that’s what you’re doing. He’ll pick up on all those hints and maybe he’ll even make a move.
#7 Ask him about his life. Asking someone deeper, more personal questions is a surefire way to get them thinking about you in a romantic way. Plus, when they realize you actually want to get to know them on that level, they’ll pick up on the fact that you’re hitting on them.
#8 Tell him he’s funny. Guys love making girls laugh. That’s especially true when it’s a woman he also likes. If you really want to make him think about you in a romantic way, tell him he’s funny.
#9 Approach him first. Who says women have to wait for guys to approach? If you see a guy you think is attractive, go up to him. Approach him and introduce yourself. Hell, you can drop more than one hint at a time just by saying, “Hey good lookin’,” as you introduce yourself.
The fact that you approached him and called him attractive should make him realize how you feel. You can even take it a step further and touch his arm. All of those will almost guarantee that he understands you’re hitting on him. [Read: How to approach a guy you like and remain calm all the way]
#10 Tell him you like him. If for some reason a guy is so clueless he still hasn’t picked up on the fact that you like him, just tell him. Come right out and say it. It doesn’t have to be anything complex or complicated.
Just say something like, “I like you. Let’s get together sometime,” will make him realize it for sure. You can even flat out ask him to go on a date right then and there. Truthfully, guys like this approach way more than any of the others ones.
Some guys can just be clueless. If you want to make him yours, you’ll first have to figure out how to hit on a guy in a way he’ll actually understand. These tips can help him realize your true feelings.
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