When it comes to sex, the big O is what we all strive for. But why wait for someone else to do it for you? Here’s how to give yourself an orgasm!
Masturbation is no longer something we need feel ashamed of. It’s no longer something that you have to do secretly, when you’re absolutely certain that no one will know. Nowadays, many people openly admit to giving themselves a bit of self-love now and again, and why not? Knowing how to give yourself an orgasm and learning about what makes your body tick, what turns you on, and what doesn’t can actually help you have a better sex life with your partner.
Learning how to give yourself an orgasm is all about practice. You aren’t going to give yourself mind-blowing pleasure straight away. That said, however, you are completely in control. So once you get going, it’s pretty easy to figure out what’s going to work and what leaves you feeling cold.
15 hot ways to give yourself an orgasm
If you aren’t sure where to start, then why not try these 15 tips and techniques to see if you can get yourself off?
#1 Tease yourself. Teasing yourself is a great way to build up sexual tension and desire. You don’t have to get right in there straight away, but you do need to get into the right mood. You should start by thinking about sex—think about what gets you feeling all hot and bothered. Concentrating on these thoughts and letting your imagination run wild will start to get blood pumping in all the right places.
When you actually get down to it, take it slow. Touch yourself and then stop. Rub all over your body—don’t just concentrate on the erogenous zones. When you feel yourself getting really turned on, ease off. And then when it subsides, start again. Soon, you’ll be pulsating with desire. Only when you can’t take it any more, allow yourself to take it to the next level. You’ll be sure to give yourself an orgasm in no time. [Read: How to turn yourself on with your senses]
#2 Learn about your body. To have great orgasms, you need to completely understand your own body and be in tune with it. Explore every nook and cranny. You might be surprised at which parts of your body are actually a turn-on when touched. You can also discover places where you’re ticklish, or maybe even where it just feels downright strange. Knowing your own body and exploring it is the best way to understand what it wants.
#3 Try different things. Great masturbation is all about experimenting and having fun. You don’t need to hold back—just do what feels right for you. Remember, it’s just you and your body. No one is going to judge or berate you, so if you have a notion in your head of what might turn you on, just go with it and see if you were right!
#4 Watch porn. A solo session watching porn can be a great way to quickly and easily reach an orgasm. Porn is designed with a sole purpose in mind: to make people feel horny! There is a huge variety of porn out there, so if you are new to it, why not take a look a several different kinds and see which one works best for you? [Read: 10 good reasons why women should watch porn]
#5 Do it in the shower. Did you know that the shower is actually a girl’s best friend? The powerful water jets that come from the showerhead can make a seriously good sexual aid. If you want multiple, intense orgasms *and fast!*, the shower is the best way to go. It’s hot, wet, and strong—what more could a girl want? [Read: Slippery when wet: Make shower sex sizzle with these tips]
#6 Use a vibrator. Nowadays, you can find vibrators in all shapes and sizes. Simply do your research and decide which one is best for you. Vibrators are specifically designed to help you give yourself an orgasm, so take advantage of them! You can also bring vibrators into your sex life with a partner, too.
#7 Do it at work. Bored at work? Not anymore! The next time you’re feeling a little uninspired at your desk, why not give yourself a great release? Doing this at work is a little naughty, which can be a serious turn-on and get you climaxing in no time at all. *Make sure you’re not jeopardizing your job for the sake of giving yourself an orgasm, though!*
#8 Think about your celebrity crush. The point of solo sex is to completely relax and go with whatever works for you. Being able to fantasize about the hottest guys in the world is all part of the fun! Whether it’s your celebrity crush, your best friend’s boyfriend, or that bartender you’ve had your eye on, imagining them while you’re going solo will make it feel all the more exciting and enticing! [Read: How to fantasize about someone else and not feel guilty]
#9 Do it somewhere weird. Just like sex, getting yourself off doesn’t have to be confined to your bedroom walls. Doing it somewhere a bit risqué can feel seriously hot. So the next time you get the urge when you’re out and about, why not find a secret spot and make it happen?
#10 Think about a girl. Okay, so this isn’t going to work for everyone, but one of the most common female fantasies is doing it with another girl. Even if you don’t want to act on it in real life, thinking about this fantasy could help you climax quicker than you ever have before. [Read: 10 reasons lesbian porn is way hotter than straight porn]
#11 Act out your wildest fantasy. Whatever it is that you’ve always wanted to do, why wait for the perfect guy to come along to do it with? There are plenty of fantasies you can act out by yourself, so just go for it! [Read: Fantasies for women: Top 10 female fantasies]
#12 Get completely naked. Learning to appreciate your own naked body can be a real turn-on and can help you orgasm quicker and more frequently. Get completely naked and spend time touching yourself all over. Appreciate how good it feels when you touch your body while giving yourself an orgasm. [Read: How to look better naked by using these 15 real life tips]
#13 Watch yourself in the mirror. Knowing what you look like when you masturbate can be very liberating and can help you feel more confident, not to mention being a huge turn-on.
#14 Film yourself. Why not go all-out and make a sexy solo film? Pretend you’re in a porn film or that you’re making a sex tape. Be as graphic, naughty, and loud as you like. It doesn’t have to be for anyone but you, so you can really go to town!
#15 Practice. Practice makes perfect, and this has never been truer than when it comes to giving yourself an orgasm. You may not get there right away, but if you keep practicing, you’ll soon perfect your techniques, and then… voila! You can have an orgasm any time you please! [Read: Going solo: The 15 sexy benefits of masturbation]
Learning how to give yourself an orgasm means that you will be in tune with your body and you’ll understand what you like and don’t like when it comes to sex. These 15 tips are great for experimenting, so what are you waiting for?
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Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...