If you want to surprise your man with all your sexy lap dance moves, these tips on how to give a lap dance will make sure it’s a night he’ll never forget.
If there’s one thing all of us ladies agree on, it’s the fact that we want to do everything we can in order to please our significant others. We can go to great lengths in order to make sure they’re satisfied – with every aspect in the relationship.
It’s not because it’s our job to please them, it’s mainly because it makes us happy to see them happy – about anything. We actually get joy out of doing whatever we can to please them. That’s why we’re always looking for new and interesting ways to spice things up in the bedroom, too.
When did the idea of sexy lap dances begin?
When you think of a lap dance, I’m assuming your mind is filled with images of a strip club with half-naked women grinding on perverted old businessmen. Am I right? Well, it’s likely that lap dances within a relationship could have been around for many years without anyone knowing, because it was in private.
However, lap dancing in a club setting and being paid for it has been around since Medieval times. Women of lower classes would perform for men for a fee. Although prostitution was also linked to these types of establishments, it is where stripping and giving lap dances are most likely to have started.
How to give a lap dance and give him and unforgettable night
There is a lot more strategy to a truly sexy lap dance than just being able to wiggle your hips to the thumping beat of a erotic song. If you want to know how to give a lap dance that he’ll never forget, you’ll need these tips.
#1 Get his mind in the right place. Giving your man a heads up that he’ll be experiencing something fun and sexy that night is a perfect way to initiate his sexual anticipation.
You don’t have to give him an exact itinerary for the night, but sending him naughty clues throughout the day should be enough to peak his curiosity. Even just a snapshot of a lace corner from your outfit would suffice.
#2 Set the mood. You can’t give him a sexy lap dance without creating a hot and steamy atmosphere. You have to set the mood so the second he walks in the door he knows he’s in for a wild night. Keep the lights low, the music at a soft but audible decibel, and leave a single chair in an empty space so he realizes what he’s in for. [Read: How to grind for a guy sexily and discreetly]
#3 Get a hot outfit. I don’t mean that you should go spend a ton of money on some lingerie that you feel weird and uncomfortable in. You should wear something that not only you feel sexy in, but something that he really loves seeing you in – and out of. You can even wear a sundress if that’s what he really likes!
#4 Take on a dominant attitude. A sexy lap dance is all about power, and women hold all of the power during this sex act. So you have to become a dominant, in-charge woman. Pull him into the house, demand that he takes off his coat, and shove him onto the chair that you’ll be using for the dance.
#5 Set the rules. Since you’re now in charge, you get to make all the rules. If you don’t want him to make a peep throughout the whole thing, tell him that. If you don’t want him to touch you at all, then make sure he knows. And make sure he knows that if he breaks those rules, he’ll have to pay.
#6 Loosen up a bit. If you haven’t ever given him a lap dance before and you’re more than a little nervous, have a drink! Hell, have two and a shot on top of that. Lap dances can only be successful if you’re relaxed and willing to have a good time. If you fear that your nerves will hinder that, then drink up. You’ll be feeling relaxed and ready to dance in no time!
#7 Pick sexy music that you love dancing to. I add both sexy music, and music that you love dancing to, because the goal of this is to ensure that you’re comfortable enough to let go and have fun. So throw on some mood music that you love so your dance moves seem genuine and effortless. [Read: The absolute lovemaking playlist guide you need]
#8 Start off very slowly. You should start dancing while you’re still standing a couple of feet away from him so he can take in the whole view. Then slowly dance your way toward him with slow and seductive moves. [Read: 50 kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]
#9 Undress slowly and teasingly. Don’t just rip all of your clothes off at once. The point of a proper lap dance is to slowly remove pieces of clothing in a way that makes him WISH he could rip them off. To do this, take off an item of clothing every couple of minutes, while never removing your eyes from his.
#10 Spend equal time on and off his lap. I know that this can be confusing since it is called a “lap” dance, but trust me. Really great lap dances do a lot of teasing, and you want to make him crave actually having you on his lap.
To do this, stand over him with your back to him. Give him some sexy visuals of your backside dancing before leaning back and touching his lap. Doing things like this will give him equal viewing time and touching time – two things that can work together to create a powerful lap dance he’ll never forget.
#11 Gauge his reaction and adjust accordingly. Some men prefer to have the lap dancer facing the other way so they can get a view of their booty, while others prefer to have a woman’s boobs right in their face. Make sure you’re gauging your man’s reactions and adjusting your body accordingly so he has the most pleasure. [Read: How to ride a man and look sexy doing it]
Tips to avoid looking silly
Even after having all of those amazing tips, you may still feel a little silly going for something so risky like a sexy lap dance that you’ve never done before. These tips can help ease some of that anxiety.
#1 Practice by yourself before the real deal. To get more comfortable with your moves and finding the right pace for taking your clothes off, practice when you’re alone. You can even practice in front of a trusted friend and get some of their advice if you’re feeling really anxious about it.
#2 Make sure the chair is sturdy. I can’t tell you how many friends of mine have tried giving their boyfriends a sexy lap dance only to end up breaking a chair or falling over in it. You want to ensure the chair can hold the weight of both of you. [Read: Fun sex games to play with your boyfriend]
#3 Don’t try to do too much. Don’t try belly dancing like Shakira if you really don’t have much mobility in your hips. Just do what you can to feel sexy. Don’t go overboard with the music, outfit, or dancing. Simple is always best.
#4 Just have fun! Don’t think so much about your insecurities! Lap dances are supposed to be fun. If you’re having a good time, then it is guaranteed that your lover is going to have an amazing time, too. So relax and just have fun with it!
Giving your man a sexy lap dance that he’ll never forget is one of the best ways to get the night moving in the right direction. And these tips on how to give a lap dance the right way will ensure you look amazing, and he’ll remember the night for a long time to come.
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Bella is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog, p...