When it comes to dating, being in the friend zone is the worst. Here’s how to get out of the friend zone with a guy and make him want you.
I think the most frustrating thing about being with someone new is that dreaded friend zone. You think you do everything right only to be referred to as his “friend.” Well, not anymore. Knowing how to get out of the friend zone with a guy may even help prevent you ever being there in the first place.
Sometimes it takes a while for a guy to realize he’s into a girl romantically. This is typically true if the girl is very much like “one of the guys.” He’ll friend zone her immediately and then she has to figure out how to get out.
Romantic feelings take time to develop
Sometimes they spark when you first meet, other times it takes a long time. When it comes to knowing how to get out of the friend zone with a guy, you first have to understand why he put you there.
Many guys think that if there isn’t an initial “spark” then they shouldn’t think of a girl in a romantic way. They put her aside in their mind as a friend and then have a hard time seeing her in a different light. A guy will also friend zone a girl if he’s known her for a very long time. Those feelings are just hidden. Your job is to bring them out. [Read: Romantic intimacy or sexual intimacy – which comes first?]
How to get out of the friend zone with a guy
Getting out of the friend zone with anyone is difficult. A guy’s friend zone is no exception. And that means you’ll have to put in a little work if you really want to make him yours.
Don’t worry, though. We have everything you’ll need to get out of the friend zone with a guy in no time. As long as you follow these tips and are sure he’s the one for you, you’ll get out.
#1 Stop talking to him about other girls. Don’t be the person he goes to in order to get advice about other girls he likes. He’ll never see you as one of those girls otherwise. That’s why you have to stop discussing his love life with him.
When he goes to you in order to talk about other girls, you know for sure he isn’t thinking of you in that way. So just ignore him when he tries to talk about those things. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]
#2 Look incredible. This may seem shallow, but it’s only because men are very visual creatures. While women tend to connect emotionally with people, men connect physically first.
That means if you look amazing and sexy to him, he’ll start thinking of you in that way. Many women just dress comfortably and wonder why their friend won’t see them as more. Look good and you’ll notice a shift in his behavior.
#3 Increase your flirtatious comments. You can’t expect someone to think of you as anything more than a friend if you don’t flirt with them. Flirting is basically the one thing that can make a guy see you as more than a friend.
So flirt with him! I don’t care how long you’ve been friends. If you get flirty with him, it’ll get the wheel spinning in his head. He’ll realize that you’re someone he could flirt with and be intimate with. You’ll know it’s working when he flirts back. [Read: 30 really sexy flirting tips for girls]
#4 Spend time alone with him. When you’re always in a group, it can be hard to get his attention. In order to get out of the friend zone with a guy, you need to be alone with him. That will make it a lot easier for him to feel the sexual tension and the connection.
It’ll also make it much easier for him to loosen up and accept your advances. So plan some time with just the two of you or even trick him into it if you have to. Make him realize that being alone with you is great.
#5 Ooze confidence. Confidence is sexy. Anyone who has a lot of it automatically becomes more desirable. If you’re not someone who’s naturally confident, fake it until you make it. Believe me, it’s possible.
Walk into his place like you’re the best thing in there – because you are. Make him realize what a catch you are and he’ll be all over you. If you have confidence in yourself, he’ll have confidence in the idea of being with you. [Read: How to build self-confidence like a pro]
#6 Talk about how “if” you had a boyfriend. This is a great way to make a guy visualize you as a girlfriend. When you talk about the things you would do if you had a boyfriend, it’ll make him visualize if you were his.
Saying things like, “Man, if I had a boyfriend I would totally make him breakfast in the morning,” will go a long way in making him think of you in that way. He’ll want to be that boyfriend. He’ll want that breakfast in the morning.
#7 Initiate physical contact. Physical contact is something that bonds people. If you’ve never so much as touched his arm, there won’t be a connection.
#8 Date other people. I know this sounds counterproductive, but think of it as showing him what could be his. Date other guys and you might just see him get jealous.
While jealousy usually isn’t the best way to go about things, it is effective. When he sees you with someone else, it may awaken his feeling for you. So don’t only have eyes for him and forget about everyone else. Show him that you’re not going to be around him forever. He’ll find you more desirable if someone else has you. [Read: How to make a guy jealous – 30 wicked ways to win his attention]
#9 Be sexual. This doesn’t mean you have to drop your panties for him. Really all this means is that you have to start making him think of you as someone he could have sex with. Make funny sex jokes. Say something when you think a certain phrase sounds dirty. Be sexy and build sexual tension.
If he starts thinking in a sexual way around you, those thoughts will start to become of you. And that’s a great way for a guy not to think of you as just a friend. So don’t hold back! Let your sexy side out. Don’t be afraid of your sexuality. [Read: How to build sexual tension the flirty way]
#10 Tell him how you feel. When all else fails, just open up and tell him how you feel. Don’t be shy or embarrassed. He’s a great guy – that’s why you like him! Just tell him that and say that you’re into him.
Some guys are clueless and just won’t pick up on other clues. It’s also known that many men like girls who like them. People are like this in general. So if he knows you like him in a romantic way, it could get you out of the friend zone. Knowing that you see him romantically can help him see you in the same light.