Does your guy want to take the relationship to the next level? As tempting as it may seem, don’t fall for the just the tip sex excuse unless you’re ready. By Alison Ricard
When you’re a young girl who’s looking forward to explore her sexuality, the world is an exciting and yet dangerous place.
You’re not ready for so many things, and at the same time, you can’t wait to try it all.
To begin with, you may start to date a guy or enter into an exclusive relationship with him.
The romantic relationship starts with promises for the future, and fuzzy skips and bounces in your heart.
And then it’s all about holding hands.
And after that, it’s about holding each other’s body parts.
And finally, the inevitable stage arrives in the relationship.
He wants to have sex with you.
So are you ready for that big step in your relationship?
And even if you aren’t ready, big chances are, you may fall for the infamous just-the-tip excuse and find yourself bedding a guy even before you know it!
What is just the tip sex?
Just the tip sex is a guy’s sneaky way of warming up to the big sexual act.
It’s where the guy inserts just a tiny bit of his member or just his little head into you down there.
If you’re still a virgin, chances are, you’ve already heard this line from your boyfriend or are going to hear it very soon.
Many girls are terrified by the thought of doing it for the first time. Just imagining something that snaky vanishing inside of you can definitely freak anyone out.
Will it hurt? Am I ready for it? Do I really want to?
Your mind may be full of questions, but nevertheless, the infamous just-the-tip excuse is a great way to test the waters without the fear of getting hurt. [Read: Is your boyfriend interested in you for all the wrong reasons?]
Just to see what it feels like…
As humans, we love exploring boundaries all the time, be it about outer space, alcohol or body parts. So it’s completely acceptable to feel curious about sex.
When both of you have fondled each other for a while, and want to take things further, it’s only a matter of time before the focus starts to go down there. The thought of having sex with just the tip inside of you is extremely tempting, especially if you’re too scared to go all the way.
But if you’re still not ready to have sex for the first time, don’t let your guy trick you into having sex with this excuse. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on instantly]
Why is just the tip such a common excuse?
Guys say they don’t manipulate girls, and they also say that they absolutely hate it when they get manipulated by a girl. But just the tip sex is the perfect example of male manipulation at its sexual best.
In the middle of some heavy petting, a guy may take his hands down there, and before you know it, he may start coaxing you to do it with him. And after you slap his hands away a few times, he uses the almost foolproof excuse of just the tip.
He may say something like “sweetie, let’s try it with just the tip, okay? If it hurts you even a teeny bit or if you feel uncomfortable, I’ll take it out… please… please… please…!” [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]
And that’s where a girl drops her guard and decides to give in because her guy seems to want to do it so badly.
Almost all the time, even if a girl isn’t mentally prepared to have sex, she may feel like she needs to accommodate her boyfriend’s wish, just to please him because it’s such a tiny favor and he’s such a sweet guy. After all, it’s just the tip, isn’t it? He’s not going in all the way anyway. It’s the least you can do for him, right?
The temptation doing it with just the tip
Almost all girls I know have fallen for this line when they had sex for the first time. Now I’m not going to say that the guy is at fault here, nor am I suggesting that guys take advantage of a girl’s weak moment.
All I’m trying to say is that the temptation of doing it with just the tip is just incredibly hard to resist. [Read: The right way to make a guy chase you to keep him interested in you]
And once you accept to have his little head inside you, it’s only a matter of time before he goes inching deeper one step at a time until he says “oops, look at that, the little guy’s all in already, isn’t he?”
Just the tip will always go all the way
Once a guy slips his little head inside you, it’s almost impossible to stop it from going in all the way within the next couple of days or weeks. Even if you stop him from inching deeper the first time, he’ll go just a little deeper the next time.
Just the tip sex is the perfect excuse to build the heavy petting and experimenting to have sex whether you’re ready for it or not.
Are you really ready for it?
Don’t fall for the just the tip excuse when a guy uses it on you. As irresistible as the chivalrous offer may seem, you still need to be mentally prepared to have sex and you need to be sure you’re doing it with a guy who respects you and loves you. [Read: The 7 stages of love for guys and how they really fall in love]
Your virginity may mean nothing more than a virgin notch on the bedpost to a guy who wants to bed you. But to you, it’s a special moment which marks the awakening of the sexual stage in your life. [Read: The 12 dating stereotypes of girls in a guy's mind]
Play it safe, take it slow and wait for a guy who appreciates you for who you really are. And if you feel like you’re too young for such a big sexual step, don’t succumb to peer pressure. When it’s the right time and you’re with the right guy, you’ll just know you’re mentally and emotionally ready to have sex with him.
When everything goes well the first time, you’ll even feel good about it instead of getting upset or angry with yourself.
So the next time you’re making out with a guy and he bats his puppy dog eyes and pleads to get inside your pants, even if it’s just the tip, don’t fall for the temptation. First time sex shouldn’t be planned in the heat of the moment. It’s something you need to think about when his hands are nowhere near your pants.
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