Is he shy or not interested? If you’re after a new guy and you can’t tell if he’s bashful or not into you, these tips will help decode his behavior.
Reading a guy’s signals is pretty difficult to do, but it’s made even more difficult when you can’t tell if a guy is just being bashful or if he just doesn’t care about you. So what’s the answer? Is he shy or not interested?
While this can be really hard to differentiate, you can tell the difference. These two behaviors may seem the same on the outside, but they’re actually very different if you pay close attention and use our tips to decode his behavior.
Don’t even bother with a guy who’s not interested
I’m not sure what made the idea of playing hard to get popular. I’m not even sure why women go for guys who don’t seem interested in the least. Maybe it has something to do with “winning” him over. Either way, you should never bother with a guy who isn’t into you.
It’s just a waste of time. Why do you want to spend your time pining over a guy who has made it clear that you’re not someone they want? You should never go for anyone who doesn’t put the same time and effort into you as you put into them. [Read: 20 reasons he’s just not into you]
Is he shy or not interested?
Guys who are shy can sometimes make the best boyfriends. The trick is knowing whether or not they want you to pursue them. In order to do this, you have to first determine if they even like you at all!
Although guys can be a bit harder to read than women, it is possible. Here are all the signs a guy is shy versus the signs he’s just not into you at all.
If a guy does any of these things, it means he definitely is interested in you, but he’s just too shy to make a move. Don’t be afraid to take the reigns with this type of guy and go for it. [Read: How to flirt with a shy guy and make him love you]
#1 He looks over at you often. This is a huge giveaway any guy is interested. However, but it becomes even more important to look out for if you think a guy is shy. If he’s really bashful and isn’t the type to put his feelings out there, he’ll still want to look at you – because he likes you! If you see him checking you out all the time even if he doesn’t talk much, it’s a huge sign he likes you.
#2 He blushes when you catch him staring. When you actually catch him in the act of staring, does he turn really red? If he does, it’s basically confirmed that he’s into you. He’s totally embarrassed to have been caught and if a guy is shy, he gets embarrassed easily. [Read: Why do guys stare at girls? Your questions answered]
#3 He waves or says hello but then is very quiet. If he does acknowledge that you’re around and tries to say hi but then disappears, it’s a sign he likes you but is just very shy. He can really only work up the nerve to greet you, but anything else it just too much for him. He’s so into you.
#4 You notice a shift in his mood when you’re around. If you’re confused if he’s shy or not interested, paying attention to his mood when you walk into the room can help. When a guy seems to lighten up when you’re around, it’s because he’s excited you’re there. Even if he doesn’t say anything to you, he likes you if his mood improves around you.
#5 He tries to talk to you – even if it’s only a sentence. If he’s making an effort to talk to you, then he wants to be conversing. Some guys are really shy and can’t get much more than a sentence out. Even then, it might be a little awkward and stiff. Just know that if he trying to talk to you, he’s into you. [Read: 20 signs he likes you with the very first conversation]
#6 He gets more talkative via text. When a guy likes you but is actually very shy, texting will make things immensely easier for him. So just know that if you are confused about a guy liking you, get his phone number. If he opens up a lot when you text and he chats for hours, he is SO into you. [Read: 11 steps for flirting with a guy over text]
#7 His body language says so. There are so many different ways a guy tells you he likes you without saying a single word. If his body is turned in your direction even though he’s looking away, he’s still directed to you. He’ll do this unconsciously. Another way to tell if he’s interested is just if he tries to be next to you often. [Read: 18 signs to decode his body language and read his mind]
#1 He says hello, but doesn’t talk to you even if he talks to others. This is just polite behavior. If a guy says hi but doesn’t make any additional effort to talk to you but he talks to others, he’s not interested. He’s not shy if he’s able to talk to a bunch of other people. So keep that in mind.
#2 You never catch him looking your way. Think about it. If you’re really interested in someone, what do you do? You look at them all the time because you find them adorable. Therefore, if you just think he’s shy but he never even looks at you, he’s just not interested.
#3 He doesn’t make a point to be near you at all. Even shy guys will wander over to you when you’re in the same place. They might not say anything, but they’ll be there. So if the guy you’re confused about isn’t anywhere near you, ever, he’s probably just not into you. [Read: 20 reasons a guy might be ignoring you]
#4 When you do talk, he keeps the conversation short. If you’re into him and you’re talking a lot and trying to keep a conversation going but he has no interest in it and even leaves as soon as he can, he doesn’t like you. It’s not so much that he doesn’t care about what you’re saying, he just doesn’t want to spend his time with someone he’s not into.
#5 His attitude doesn’t change around you. If he doesn’t change behaviors at all around you, he’s not interested. Guys sometimes can’t help how giddy or excited they act around their crush. But if the guy in question is just himself and doesn’t act differently at all, it’s because you have no affect on him. [Read: Why isn’t he asking you out yet? These 17 reasons why!]
#6 He walks away from you when you come near. This is just an obvious sign. If the guy actually just leaves whenever you go near him, he’s obviously not into you. This will most likely happen if you’ve been hitting on him or trying to show him you like him. He won’t want to address the issue so he’ll avoid it altogether.
#7 You’re always the first to text/reach out. If you do have his number and it’s always you reaching out first, he doesn’t like you. Guys will go out of their way to find reasons to talk to you if they’re interested. You won’t have to be the first to try and start a conversation – even if a guy is shy. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes you through texting]
#8 You feel shut out. When he’s basically turning his back on you and shutting you out, he doesn’t like you. This is a major sign you can’t ignore. Even a shy guy will try and get you to talk to him. So if a guy is being obvious about not talking to you, it’s because he really doesn’t want to.