Knowing how to reject a guy is never easy. There is no perfect way to turn down a guy, as each guy is different. But here’s a list of ways that would definitely help you get the point across, the nice way and the harsh way.
Rejecting a guy can be a sensitive matter. And it completely depends on the guy and how he’s pursuing you.
Some guys may be understanding enough to back away when you tell them you aren’t interested.
But some guys may need a firmer response to get the message across.
If you want to know how to reject a guy, here’s a list of things you can do to get the message across. Start with the first one, and work your way down the list.
Somewhere along the line, you’ll surely find a point that can harden his heart and make him move on. Whew!
How to reject a guy nicely
Now all guys aren’t bad. You have to understand that a guy may be persistent only because he likes you a lot. In some cases, the guy may be genuinely nice and may only want you to get to know him better.
But whatever may be the case, if you want to turn down a guy, use any of these pointers as you see fit.
#1 Tell him the truth
This is plain and simple. If a guy that you’re not particularly interested in asks you out, tell him straight out that you aren’t interested in him. You don’t really have to be rude at first unless he’s persistent. You really don’t owe every guy who falls in love with you an explanation about why you’re uninterested in him, or why you want to reject him.
#2 Tell him you’d want to be friends
If you want to reject a guy, but are not sure you want to lose him, tell him you don’t want to go out with him right now, but would love to be friends instead. This is best used when you’re not sure yourself. Take a bit of time to figure it out, and depending upon how things go, you can always change your mind! [Read: How to ask a guy out like a classy girl]
#3 Make it clear
If the guy you rejected asks you to go out with him again, it’s time to be firm. You’ve already been gentle before. So this time, tell him clearly and firmly that there’s no way you could ever like him back. And also tell him that you’re starting to get irritated with his behavior.
Many guys have an annoying habit of wanting to know the logical reason behind why you’re rejecting them. They want you to explain it, and even if you do, they want more explanations. So instead of getting yourself in a bind, just make your rejection clear and don’t go into elaborate details. He’ll never be happy with your answers, no matter what you say.
#4 Tell him you’ll dislike him
Some guys get scared of this one. When he persistently tries to ask you out, tell him you’re starting to get annoyed with his behavior. Tell him that you’ve started disliking him, and the more he asks you out, you’ll only end up hating him.
#5 Pretend to be saddened by his proposal
If a guy’s rather persistent, but yet, quite kind and nice, have a talk with him. Tell him that you’re getting upset and saddened by his persistence. Tell him you’re having a difficult time getting through the day because of his incessant proposals.
When you show your sensitive side to a nice guy, there’s a good chance he’ll back away even if he still wants to ask you out repeatedly. [Read: Signs a guy is really into you]
Now some guys may be nice, but their persistence can be really annoying. Avoid the guy, and make it obvious that you’re avoiding him. If he asks you about it, you can tell him that you tried everything else, but he’s just not getting the point.
#7 Don’t speak to him alone
Guys like it when the girl they like has a conversation with them alone. It shows preferential treatment over other guys. So avoid giving away any signs that could be taken positively. Avoid the guy, and even if he tells you that he wants to speak with you alone, don’t give him a chance. Tell him you’ll speak with him alone only when you’re convinced he’s not hitting on you. [Read: Do guys like shy girls and find them attractive?]
#8 Be rude
If being firm doesn’t help, be rude. But play hot and cold. You don’t want to upset psycho boy! Yell at him and shout at him. Tell him you hate him.
And then soften up and appear sad. Say “I just wish you’d understand. I really don’t want to yell at you, but you’re making me helpless. Why don’t you get it, I don’t like you and I never will…”
And then, start yelling again. Being overly rude to a guy can at times make him vengeful and quite scary. You wouldn’t want that, so showing him your softer side in the middle of all the yelling will actually make him feel guilty instead! [Read: A date rape story]
#9 Cut him off from your social circle
Call him up and tell him that you can’t stand his behavior anymore. Tell him that you’d want to be friends and nothing more.
Tell him that you’re going to take him off your friends’ lists in social networking sites. Tell him you’re going to avoid him if you meet him. And tell him you won’t answer his calls anymore.
And finally, tell him that you’re willing to be friends only if he can look at you as a friend and behave as one. Explain to him that he can call you again the day he can look at you as a friend and nothing more. If he can do that, tell him, only then can you both be friends again. [Read: How to manipulate men]
#10 Ignore him
The final frontier that will always work. If you’ve tried all of the above points, then this should be your last resort. After you’ve cut him off from your life, ignore him completely. Walk past him, and don’t wave or even look at him. If he confronts you, be nice and warm though. Don’t be rude.
Being completely rude when he tries to talk to you will only make him pursue you more. Speak to him like he’s a five year old. Explain to him nicely that you’ve already told him what he has to do. Both of you can be friends only if he promises to look at you as a friend. And then tell him you’re sorry, but you really can’t talk anymore and walk away.
Think about this, no guy who really does like you would want to be a friend and forget all his intentions. So asking him to be a friend is probably going to be one of the hardest things he can do. [Read: Are you more than friends?]
And on the other hand, if you tell him you never want to see him or talk to him, it would only make him want to pursue you more, as he really has nothing to lose. Use these tips on how to reject a guy, and use the line that seems appropriate. But always remember, guys can’t take rejection, so reject a guy in a manner that makes him feel like he’s at fault and he’ll back away even before you know it!