How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love


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how to get over a guy

Are you still trying to cope with the pain of a sudden break up? Want to know how to get over a guy? Here’s everything you need to know about how to get over a guy you like, the easy way!

Knowing how to get over a guy can be simple and fun, if you know how things really work in love and figure out how to confuse your heart into having a happy time, until it forgets all about your ex boyfriend.

Here’s the introduction that you just have to read, how to get over a boyfriend, before you start reading these pointers below.

And if it’s a crush you’re dealing with, and not an ex boyfriend, read the feature on is it a crush or limerence?

#8 Use your freedom

When you’re in a relationship, you end up doing a lot of things together as a couple.

While this is a good thing, you also end up missing out on a lot of things that you enjoy. You may like watching a good play, or perhaps a concert, but your boyfriend may not have liked them much.

So now that you’re all alone and single, do all the things that you’ve never been able to do.

Watch the movies that you love, read books, go online for a fun flirty chat with someone, call up guys that you used to have a crush on, meet new people, and do just about anything that you love. [Read: How to flirt by touching]

The world is your oyster, and there are so many fun things and so many cute things waiting just for you. Why miss it all out by moping and crying in a dark corner. If you really want to know how to get over a guy, go on and enjoy the world and everything it has to offer, and you’ll see how happy a place the world can be!

#9 Don’t call him

Now, if you’ve been following all the earlier points, you’d see your whole life turn around in less than a couple of weeks.

You’d find yourself happier and so much more fun. But that’s not all. The scary part comes when you’re alone, even if just for a couple of hours. That’s the time when you end up thinking about your ex boyfriend. As hard as it may seem, don’t call him. Each time you feel like calling him, call another guy who likes you, or who flirts with you. Within a few minutes, you’d forget all about your ex boyfriend. [Read: How to text flirt with a friend]

By calling your ex boyfriend, you’re only going to make yourself look weak and you’ll also give him a chance to smirk to himself and stomp you all over.

You should never let that happen because that will only shatter your heart even more. So the next time you think about calling your ex boyfriend, do something else to keep your mind occupied.

#10 Party hard!

If you want to get over a guy, there’s nothing like clubbing and partying with a great looking crowd to get you out of the dumps. Gather a group of your friends and paint the town red.

Go to a happening joint and dance like you’ve never danced when you were a couple. See a cute guy? Make a flirty pass at him. Laugh it off with your friends. Have fun, and have loads of it. Just a pointer here though. When you’re partying, don’t ever get drunk. You have to avoid getting drunk at all cost because a break up and booze can be a lethal combination. [Read: Should a girl accept a drink from a stranger?]

You may end up spending the night with a guy you don’t like, or even if that doesn’t happen, the hangover can make you feel terrible in the morning.

#11 Have a rebound relationship

If you’ve done all of these earlier points and still feel heartbroken, then perhaps, you need the mother of all pointers to get over an ex boyfriend. You need a rebound relationship. [Read: How to get a guy to like you]

Now many people would advise you against it, but we say otherwise. Most girls avoid falling for a rebound relationship because they assume they’ll fall head over heels in love again with a new guy. But hey, if true love has to happen, it will! And if it’s not, you don’t care. Just have fun. Rebound relationships can rekindle that lovey feeling, and you’d end up forgetting all about the break up in the first place. [Read: Is he the guy for you?]

But always remember that this is a rebound relationship. If you have to, you can also tell the guy that you’re not looking for something serious and just want to have some fun for a few weeks or a month. Now that should clear that up!

#12 Be the winner of the game

Now we’ll tell you the final thing you have to know about break ups and ex boyfriends, if you really want to know the secret behind how to get over a guy. You have to remember this one because no one will ever tell you this secret truth.

The winners in love win. The losers in love suffer. [Read: Things to know before thinking of dating your ex again]

Do you understand this? Well, we’ll make it simpler. After you break up, if you ask your boyfriend to get back with you, or if you call your boyfriend over the phone and cry for hours, it makes you look weak. And he will never want you back again because he knows that you still crave for him.

Knowing you’re so madly in love with him makes him stronger, and gives him the strength to move on. When you’re the one who’s pleading, it makes you weak, and makes you fall in love with your boyfriend even more!

The person who’s having more fun after a break up has the advantage and will get over the break up way faster than the person who’s crying and moping. It’s a psychological advantage. [Read: How to get over a broken heart]

So as long as you keep a happy face and have a lot of fun, and never let him know that you’re hurting inside, you’ll be able to move on in a matter of weeks!

[Read: Tips to love again after being hurt]

Understanding how to get over a guy is easy. But taking the right path and following these steps on how to get over an ex boyfriend is the hard part. Get that right, and you’ll wake up the happiest person in the world in no time!

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  • rachel belser

    Thx for the advice ..I’m going to try to stick through the steps

  • rheanna

    I don’t think its true to have a rebound relationship. When you just get out of a serious relationship your still somewhat unstable and needy so u attract the wrong kind of guy. For me the rebound relationship made me just want my ex more because I felt like he was such a better bf.

  • obona

    This is great advice. No contact is crucial and quite difficult, but I think so worth the trouble. In regards to rebound relationship, I agree they can be great. You just need to be sure to be sure that you don’t hurt yourself or the other. I fell a little for a rebound but it happen pretty quick and I realized what I was doing. He was, incidently, also on the rebound. We are friends and the sex was great. Having a cutie across the table trying to kiss you really helps. Just, again, be careful and honest with yourself and the other.

  • ellen

    you know what makes this process a hell of a lot more difficult?…
    1. i literally know no one else in this city except my ex-boyfriend. i have no friends no family not even a pet to turn for comfort. I am completely alone. DOn’t have school or a job to go to. It’s just me.
    2. I can’t just go dance my night away at the clubs because i’m underage
    3. No one knows how truly sad and miserable I am, except for him. But his sudden new girlfriend means he can no longer call me to tell me how much he will always love me.

  • anthony

    I find myself abusive to my girlfriend and I want to stop I need help

  • muftah alhuruf

    it s just not that easy..its been a year now that im fighting to get over my crush..i ve tried all tbhe above but it doesnt seems that just letting time to fly and take away this feeling.. everyday i m fighting wit myself to forget him but it is so damn hard..i know love come and go..but i dont when is it this love will go

  • Mia

    I have a huge family secret and I told the guy I was with for more than a year and not he told his new girlfriend and everyone else..

  • mary konscol

    Hi my name is mary and I was in a relationship with my ex for 2years and 10 months so the day after we broke up he went and got a new girlfriend and of course I know her so yes I was mad them for being sneaky about her wanting him and he wanted her as well but now we are friends and she dont know that he is still friends with me I dont wanna tell her then ill lose him for ever but I do still love him with all my heart and soul I really think I would even die for him I never felt like this with any body hopeless in love with this man and need to know what to do please help me out with advice what should I do let go or keep fighting for him

  • candy

    my ex and i have separated for abt 5 months now and still can stop thinking abt him. have tried to forget him but cant. maybe i will just try this tips and see if it will help. i really hope it worked