I like a guy and it seems like he likes me too, but he would never talk to me. So how do I know if he likes me? Well, here’s what I did to find out. By an Anonymous Kitty
Have you ever come across a guy who seems to like you, but never really does anything about it?
Well, I had to deal with that recently.
I joined a new workplace a few months ago, and everything was just perfect.
I loved my job and all my new friends.
Everything seemed fine for a while, and about a couple of months ago, I started noticing this silent nice guy glancing at me now and then.
He would look at me constantly *my compact mirror helped me catch him often*, but would look away as soon as I looked straight at him.
And surprisingly, this wasn’t in college. It was actually at work.
Can you believe that a grown man could actually behave like a shy, prepubescent child from school?
[Read: Shy guys who won't ever make a move]
I started talking to his friends a lot more. And the closer I got to his friends, the more he avoided me!
Sometimes, when I would sit close to him, I swear I even caught him sweating and wiping his forehead nervously.
I liked him and his raw innocence attracted me even more. Somehow, he felt like a real virgin when it comes to matter of the heart and to sex. And something about that made him all the more appealing and sexy.
I found out later that he would talk about me with his friends, as his friends would constantly nudge him when I was around. Even when we walked past each other and I waved at him at the cafeteria, he would smile at me sheepishly, and look away immediately. It was so funny and yet so cute. [Read: How to get a guy's attention in any circumstance]
He would talk to all other girls, including my girlfriends, but never with me. After a couple of months of waiting to get him to open up, I was really frustrated. I was angry that my own girlfriends were getting his attention and yet, he was pointedly avoiding me.
I didn’t want to ask him out because I wasn’t sure he liked me in the first place. I was never the one who would make a first move. My ego was too big to get spurned by a guy, let alone a shy guy who didn’t have the cojones to even talk to me. [Read: How to get a guy to ask you out in 9 sneaky ways]
One day, when I was sitting with him and a rather talkative guy at lunch, I asked the talkative guy out for coffee after work. Just to annoy the shy guy even more, I even held the talkative guy’s hand and told him I really liked spending time with him. As soon as I did that, the shy guy looked at me with a shocked and pained expression, got up and staggered away. [Read: How to make a guy jealous and get his attention]
And that’s how I know he likes me!
Shy guys make girls feel more courageous and daring. I don’t know why that happens, but all girls know that.
As soon as I saw the shy guy walking away, I got up and walked up to him, half running and before I knew it, I was yelling at him!
“What the hell is wrong with you? If you like me, why the hell won’t you just ask me out…?!”
He looked at me, grimaced a bit and said exactly what I wanted to hear.
“I like you so much it scares me… I’m afraid I’d lose you if I ever ask you out” he said firmy and yet nervously.
“But I like you too… I’ve always liked you and have waited for so long for you to ask me out…” I said without thinking.
And that was the first time I ever asked a guy out. For a second, I wanted to hold myself back and take back my words, but looking back at the incident now, I’m happy I didn’t. Ten minutes later, we were officially going out with each other. But what a pain the whole ordeal was.
Was it worth it? Yes. Could he have worked his balls up to ask me out earlier? Of course, he could have!
We’re now dating each other, and thankfully though, this guy isn’t as shy as he was at first. It took a few dates to get him to open up. And now, he really can’t stop talking. [Read: What to say to a guy you like to make him like you more]
How to know if a guy likes you
If you’ve ever been in a similar situation where you think a guy likes you, but you’re just not sure, use these easy pointers to decode his behavior, especially if he’s a shy guy who can’t work his courage up to talk to you.
Watch his actions
#1 Does he glance at you often when he thinks you’re not looking? [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]
#2 Does he talk about you with his friends?
#3 Does he get nervous around you?
#4 Does he behave differently around you than the way he behaves around other girls?
#5 Does he get bothered when you flirt with other guys?
Then, in all probability, he has some feelings for you. How much does he likes you? Well, I can’t say for sure. But he definitely seems to be interested in you.
How to get him to start talking to you
Do you like a shy guy who seems to like you but isn’t making any moves to get to know you? Use these pointers.
#1 Give him a few opportunities to talk to you. Smile at him and let him know you’re approachable.
#2 Get some alone time with him. Walk past him when you’re by yourself and he’s alone. How does he behave?
#3 Initiate a conversation with him. Ask him to help you with something, or ask him about a common friend. [Read: 15 safe ways to start a conversation with a guy you like]
#4 Flirt with him and make him feel special. Be warm when you speak to him, and if he’s a shy guy, you can definitely go overboard and even compliment him or tell him he’s sweet. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]
#5 Let the word reach him. Put in a word through a common friend that you find him sweet and dateable. Perhaps, that’ll give him some courage to talk to you.
[Read: Tips to make a guy like you by making him want you]
And that’s how I got to know that he likes me. If you’re ever in a similar situation, try using these pointers. It may just work for you too!
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Oh my days..I’m in the exact same predicament except in my case the shy guy has started to avoid me even more it’s just getting ridiculous. When i try to initiate some conversation it’s like he can’t get away from me fast enough! One time i approached him and asked him how he was but he couldn’t even look at me in the face. It was so awkward i had to keep it short as i could sense he was feeling very uncomfortable around me.
I dont think he’s prepared todo anything about it as he’s had many chances to talk to me but he’s too nervous from within. Even if i leave him to own devices, he still wont talk to me. Infact he gives all his attention to other girls but when it comes to me he just doesn’t want to converse. He doesn’t realise that when he does this it makes me feel like he doesn’t want me at all. I’m in a no win situation because i can’t even approach him and tell him how i feel because he already runs a mile as soon as he sees me
Is it really normal for a guy to avoid you like the plague if he has feelings for you?! He’s started to make me feel alienated.
hey girls! so im a sophmore in high just moved from greece last year… i have a ?? …lol
…so this guy at my grade always looks at me and when i came back from greece one week into school i switched one of my classes 1st day and he was in my class i also sit infront of him .. so 2 days later the teached to him to share a book with me and he was trying to show off at me he was telling his friends he has to work now and his friend was acting smart so his was like “why are you trying to show off to the ladies” and showing at me with his eyes…. from then on he always asks me to help him and i always catch him looking at me ..he also gives me a calculator and brings p my papers so i dont get up sometimes…. btw all the girls think his cute and his popular even tho he still acts kinda nervous and looks shy when not around his friendsso idk if he likes mee caz im just me !! ..please give me our opinionn !!:)) thanks
Hiya im a 28 old women. I started college and there is a young guy in my class 10 years difference i noticed he stared and looked at me alot. I did look at him too blushedat him. As the months went by he would do the say looking. Hes never spoke to me before i thoughr i would email him and say my friend said she thought your into me? He didnr say no but he has a gf and i said if u wanna get to know me more just ask me an ill let u know he said not really. An he talks to him girl friends and he looks at me and he smiles at his friends and cheers up. He sits always on a table facing me so he sees me then if someone sits in his view of me we cants see eachother. What does this all mean?? As im getting the feeling he does like me or doesnt?? He also added hes happy taken. But he gives these looks like ill undress us or something?
I’m 29 and the guy that’s not showing me any attention is a past lover from high school. We recently hooked back up but I am also in a relationship of 8 years with2 children. After the past lover and i hooked up, he had began to limit our conversations and communications. Is he waiting for me to leave my current bf? I think he needs to say something or is he waiting on me to make the first move?
Hi. I have a story to tell and it has been bothering alot. So im a shy girl and i think im socially awkward. And theres this guy in one of my class, we know who each others are but we’ve never really talked. Jst for a sentence or two when we had to work together in class. And the weird part is that im a party girl i go out almost every weekend. So is him i guess…? Idk . But the group he hangs out with go out alot thats how i met him outsiide of school. So we met once at this halloween party. I was goin to get a drink at the bar and he was standing there . I walked to te bar and then he started saying hi and stuff and so i was like “i didnt know u party” eventho i alrd know haha. Anyways so we talked a bit about his sister shes my friend. And thts it. Convo ended that night. I made out with this guy, and he saw it as well.
So jump to the the passed saturday. I met him again at this club, well it was his friend bd so they went out and celebrate. My girlfriend who hangs out with that group called me to join her so thats how i came to meet him tht night. So this is how it all started: im not sure if hes drunk or not; the guy approach me and started begging me to dance with his friend , the bd boy … So i was like what?! No way i kept rejecting and gave him a big NO. Then he was like “i hate you” (jokingly hopefully) . Guess what he sais next: “then can u dance with me?” I was shocked so i said NO. But i actually wanted to dance with (i did not want to look like a cheap slut whom he could dance/hookup with whenever because he alrd saw me making out with another guy at halloween party) so then i rejected him. He also unbutton his shirt for some funny reasons LOL. He kept on approaching and asked my girlfriend for help and told her to come and ask me if i want to dance with him again and again. I kinda wanted to at the end so he came to me and we danced for a bit. His friend called him and told him(i think) that they had to leave. Without saying bye he jst ditched.
On monday , which is today, first thing in the morning, his sister came to me and she went like “i know the story u and my brother danced” i was like yea he was soo drunkk (i thought he was) but then the sister said “noo he was nst tipsy” day went by him and me had a class together. It was so awkward due to the fact that we didnt alrd talked before saturday nite happened. But it felt even more awkward since we danced. Im not sure about this at all but i feel like he was blushing. We met glance once then i looked away i was too shy (he smiled i think) then nothing happened.
Just to add on to that, this guy im talking about, in my opinion has been looking at me quite alot. And once we worked together and talked he blushed.
I couldnt stop thinking about him now idk why:( i think i might b falling for him. I dont want to end up being hurt again this time. I hav no confidence and im really shy i dont kno wat to do…plz help??
Yes, I have a huge problem with men like that. OMG! these men become inpatient, upset, and think that I can read their mind. I am going through a medical issue and these men expect me to just say ” Hey how is it going! Not happening !! Oh my Goodness. Wow, I just have one thing to say to them, they will Never ! get anywhere with me. Then, someone else will beat them to the punch then they can have the pleasure of “Kicking Themsleves In The Ass !!!. I am just being honest! Approching me and breaking the ice would be a wise thing for them if they are interested in me.
hi i m piyali 23 years. i m studying MBE .i met a boy some months ago .during our fresher”s meet there is a tradition that girls have 2 give red rose 2 senior boys any one they like. i gave to most shy boy of our senior class. when asked y i gave him rose i told that he is so sweet and quiet.he felt happy. he started calling me after the meeting.actually he doesn’t talk with girls much.one day he passed by me.my friend was also beside me.she burst out laughing as she thought he won’t talk with me.sometimes when i am with my friends he just smiles.just few days ago i was about to go 2 my class he was standing at the corner.he kept staring at me.his friends were also standing besides him.one of his friends shouted “hey you why are you looking at the girls.”?.we (me n my friends) laughed a lot.whenever he passes by my classroom looks back everytime. i don’t know why he behaves likes this?
I studing nursing,i met him a year now,we are friends,i love him ,i have done thing to show much love but have not told him yet,he like me friendly but have not made any attempt to propose love,am patient ,i think he is shy.