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Are you having an affair with a married man? Married men and affairs are torrid and tricky affairs. And as complicated and tricky as it can seem, it can be a lot worse, says Rebecca Paul as she narrates her own tryst with a married man.

Having an Affair with a Married Man | Married Men and Affairs

Having an affair with a married man or falling in love with him has got to be every girl’s nightmare.

Surprisingly, a woman never really intends to fall in love, it just happens.

And however hard you try to hold back, the slide in most cases is just too steep to resist.

If you aren’t already involved with a married man, you may actually think this is funny and repulsive.

Now why would any woman want to pick a guy who’s already been taken, when there are a million single guys around?

But, hey, hardly any of us practice what we preach, do we?

Having an affair with a married man

There’s something about a married man, or even a guy who’s got a girlfriend, for that matter.

Maybe it’s the fact that he’s unavailable that makes him so appealing, but whatever the reason may be, they are.

In my life too, I’ve had my own share of commitment issues, married men and affairs.

Not on my part though. It was just that I’ve always found myself liking guys who were in a relationship already.

But trust me, I really didn’t want that kind of relationship in the first place.

Love, lust and affairs with married men

The first time I ever fell in love with a committed man was when I was in high school. I had a great guy friend who was very sweet and charming, and not to mention gorgeous and a great sense of humor. I never ever looked at him as anything more than just a ‘good friend’, and things between us were pretty.

Eventually, this bloke hooked up with a girl and she started hanging out with us all the time, which was all cool. [Read: How to know if a guy likes you]

A couple of years later, during the New Year party, things got weird. All of us were out together, everyone except my friend’s girlfriend, as she had to spend the night with her parents and cousins who had come down for an extended vacation.

We were having lots of fun,we were quite drunk [Read: How to avoid a hangover] and when the clock struck midnight, I felt someone’s lips over mine and I was pressed. A static moment of darkness and confusion later, I see this guy pal of mine kissing me! He just smiled at me, and started hugging me again. And I just didn’t know what to say or do. The worst part, we didn’t speak about it ever again, and just let it go.

Committed boyfriends, married men and affairs

Nothing really happened, but that incident sort of blew up into a catalyst for a few more things to roll. Each time his girl was around, he was quite normal, but when it was just the both of us, he used to side up to me, a lot closer, clasp my palms, stroke my hair, and basically, all the damn works! [Read: Emotional affairs]

I liked the attention. Anyone would!

We wouldn’t talk about it or plan it ahead. It just used to happen, so it didn’t make me feel awkward, just moist inside my chest. I felt bad about what I was doing, but I couldn’t hold myself back from him. I actually began looking out for opportunities when it could just be the both of us. We even started meeting over in my place or his, on the pretext of doing homework, and a few months later, his pelvis was often moving in synchronized motion against mine.

I am having an affair!

I loved it, and the best part was that we weren’t talking about it, which was ‘cool’. We were just friends. But then, you know how the story goes.

I fell in love with him and asked him to break up with his girlfriend. He didn’t. I was pissed off. But we went on with it. One fine day, his girlfriend caught us. Five years later, I had lost two good friends, one guy and a girl, one screw buddy [Read: How to get a fuck buddy] and one devastated girl pal. [Read: Best friends becoming enemies]

Somehow, I never wanted to be there. I knew what I was supposed to do. I was a nice girl who believed in moral issues and karma.

But the lure grasped me in and took me in too far deep. That incident was my first time, but it definitely wasn’t my last. I had two more affairs with married men over the next decade, and all the time, it was the same story of friends, sweet talk, touch, kiss, make hay. I have a great life, don’t I?

Having an affair with a married man is easy. In most cases, married men and affairs just go hand in hand. They’re always looking out to give attention and there are always girls waiting to receive any attention.

But now I’ve made up my mind never to have an affair with a married man, however charming he may be in the first place, or however much he sweet talks me. But then, I had told myself the same thing many times before, even before I hooked up with my first committed man way back in high school.

I have a lot of things to tell you, if you’re having an affair with a married man or want to know about married men and affairs that are just waiting to happen. But this was just my first story in many to come. Click here to read about what falling in love with a married man can do to you.


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  • Stace
    January 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    Just ended an affair with a married man and I am married myself. I am really confused and he claims to have been too and after not talking in a couple months. This week, Talked to him again because we do business at work but just haven’t had to deal with him when others have been dealing with him. But I got the call this week and he said he still thinks about me daily and things aren’t any better with his wife but has been a living hell. I said I’ve been ok as me and my hub went on a two week vacation together. I am confused once again but know we will not start up an affair again. Said we should talkas friends once a month or something and he misses e, etc.. I need help and have much more to the story if there’s any way you can contact me….id love to hear your stories and how you got it through to your head this ws crazy

  • ron wilson
    January 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    break off the relationship or end the marriage do not hurt your husband if you want to stay in your current setup. the pain is to great for him i know. ron

  • Joe Teamo
    January 22, 2013 | Permalink |

    Herbert Javer had a long term extramarital affair (6 years) with a young black woman who was 26 years younger and had an abortion with his child

  • riley
    February 24, 2013 | Permalink |

    I can’t say for sure what you should do. Can’t say for sure if its infatuation at this point? If it is, break it off. You might get hurtb in the long run if you get caught. And even if you don’t, you will be plagued with guilt everyday. Then you will be the secretnin his closet and you wilk live to resent that feeling if you start to care for him.
    If things progress and HE has true feelings for you, tell him to get a divorce then come talk to you. Trust me, its not easy seeing a married, or separated, or even soon to be divorced man. Save yourself the heart ache and have him come clean first and THEN see how much you guys click and how much he really wants to be with you.

  • riley
    February 24, 2013 | Permalink |

    Just re read your post and saw that you’re married too. Def you need to ask yourself if you’re happy in your marriage or not. This affair may cloud your judgment at this point. So write a list of the pros and cons of your marriage. Maybe there are things that aren’t perfect but that you and hubby can work on together. Don’t give up because you think your marriage isn’t perfect. If you find that you still want the affair despite your marriage being decent, then don’t be selfish. Tell your husband you want out…regardless if its for the affair or not.

  • fionafiona
    March 13, 2013 | Permalink |

    if they doing it with you they will do it to you believe me it all good at first then they move on to the next one

  • emily1987
    April 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have been having an affair with a guy for 4 years we used to work together, I met him after my ex had an affair, and the girl ended up pregnant, that was the end . This guy has just made me move on, but im confused and don’t know what todo.

  • trish
    April 10, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hey, im married and had an affair with a married guy. The sex was so so amazing. After having been monogamous for a long time, it was like rediscovering sex. My husband is no angel. Ive caught him cheating on me a couple of times and i can honestly say that the infidelity helped me to get over it and forgive him. It was like taking back my power. I felt so sexy and confident after!

  • max
    April 10, 2013 | Permalink |

    Take it easy

  • rhinny
    April 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    I been having An affair with married man for 3yrs and now his wife is away for 3 weeks and he’s been coming ova everyday and its kinda affecting me hard now. Falling for him even more and goin crazy at the same time so I turn to drugs to clear my head otherwise I don’t stop thinking about him.

  • Htown
    April 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    I do not remember when mine started . It’s not all just about sex we have an amazing friendship . however when that happens its wonderful.

  • Carol
    May 29, 2013 | Permalink |

    Thank you for this informative article. This article was as though it was written about me. I recently met a man, from Facebook, and yes, we met for a drink, one day. He was so charming, and kind, and after being hurt in the past, I fell for him, but still was scared. Then, he wanted sex. The first time together. We didn’t, only kissed and fondled, in his car. Now, I had to find out from a friend, who went on his Facebook site, that he was married. He lied to me. I confronted him, and he apologized. He wanted me. He is now calling me, everyday, unless, his wife is there, and of course, no evening calls. He calls to talk sex. I never did this, before. I am scared, and yet, I have a love for him. I can see, now that this is a situation that I have to get out of. He tells me that he loves me, and asks if I am in love with him, and said that he knows that I am. I asked him if he is with me, and all he says is that he loves me, but it will take time to fall in love with me. Then, today, he tells me, that he “will have to have sex with his wife tomorrow”. He wants to meet me, always in the daytime, and now at a movie. He wants me to wear no underwear. Please help me!

  • Laura oglesby /Chattanooga
    June 30, 2013 | Permalink |

    Affairs w married men are fun. You make them feel emotionally dependent on your love & affection and you’ve got good sex on your timetable and time for fun when they’re busy w family. Make him constantly think of you and lead him around by his penis. Unless wife finds our, it’s great fun & a self esteem builder. I’m short and SLMOST dumpy yet my married man is nuts about me. I had two but one wife found out. I’m not going to have children & don’t want long term relationship so married men are perfect. Lots of hotel time!

  • Heartbroken
    July 17, 2013 | Permalink |

    Both of us are married and work together in different states. Told each other we were the love of each other’s lives– best friends, strong connection and said one day we would be together after our kids were grown. Until one day his wife stole his phone and accused us of an affair. Bottom line…immediately he changed…I am now just a co-worker and he will not answer any personal questions directly, but on occasion would call to tell me he missed me. Too hard to be around him, so I left the company we worked for and he never even said Goodbye. I think I was fooled into thinking I was more important than I was…my heart is broken and having a hard time getting over it. I have never done anything like this before and know that I got involved for Love. Having a hard time understanding why he wouldn’t just be honest and tell me what happened (vs. immediately cutting me off) or at least wish me well in my new career search. Thoughts?

    Also, my marriage has been bad for years and in process of leaving. This is a good thing!

  • OakTree
    July 26, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have had a number of brief affairs with married men and when I was younger, it was hard to keep control over it, but now it is exciting. I am not interested in anyone knowing or seeing and I do not want to go out anywhere with him. I am only interesting in having him in private. Infact, I would be mortified if anyone saw or found out, I would feel violated. When it’s secret, it’s exciting and having him touch me is exciting because he belongs to someone else. Though I do find him attractive and there is a lot there, I may not want him at all if he were single because he’s too demanding and not my true love. There have been times when I’ve felt the danger of falling for him, so it’s important to keep the perspective, never forget he’s married.

  • spj
    October 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    Oh I know the heartache ..excitement..the thrill all too well!!! And it seems thats all i ever attract nowadays,

    So i have learned …and may I share this:

    1. Whether we like it or not most men will always look for excitement outside their marriage

    2. Ladies…you are not his wife. you are his mistress….dont EVER forget that. in fact every now n then remond the married man, that way the two of you wont get carried away

    3. When all secrets are out….dont expect him to leave his wife. If he wanted to he would have filed for divorce within a week of meeting you.

    ….he is having fun with you so dont expect more than that!! And do look out for the available dudes out there

  • Janet
    November 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    I had been seeing a married man for 2 years, it was just sex they did split up for a year. I tried to stop it and so did he but he kept coming back. His wife found out and she rang me it was really hard but I tried so hard that it was nothing more than business as they had a business, as I didn’t want to split them up! we haven’t spoke for 3 weeks now. Do you think he will want to see me again. part of me misses it but the other half knows its best left, maybe that’s what hes thinking?

  • anna
    November 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    i in love with a married man for 16yrs and got a daughter for him now his wife no that he has been seeing me,i so hurt and blue i dnt went to lost him

  • anna
    November 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    give me an advice what shall i do

  • Rebecca
    December 8, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have fallen in love with a married man. He and I have been having an emotional affair for a few months. We have kissed, hugged, talk , and get lost into each other’s eyes. He tells me how he wishes we could have met under different circumstance. He loves his children and will not progress the relationship to sexual one. We remain friends . It’s very hard to let go when being when that someone feels so….right on every level. I love him enough to let him go. Otherwise he’ll give into temptation and feel guilty for having an affair with me. The biggest sacrifice I’ll ever make is letting him go b/c I know in my heart that I will always love him and always wait for him … Keeps me from letting others in….

  • PrettyGullible13
    December 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    Rebecca, I can relate to what you are going through. I recently feel in love with a MM also. We spent lots of time together. Talking, laughing, sharing our deepest thoughts and our frustrations about our marriages. We never used harsh words about our spouses. We both have young children whom we love dearly. He suddenly stopped making time for me and then would reappear with something like, “I miss you, the talks we had, the things we planned on doing together and so forth.” Of course my heart raced in anticipation of his words. He set up a few dates only to cancel 3 more times. I let go and it’s hard but I know it was all so wrong. I miss him very much but I will not allow myself to be hurt like this again nor be in the position of causing hurt to his family. Rebecca remember the heart is meant to be shared. Just sometimes it is a challenge finding the right one to do that with.

  • maria
    January 1, 2014 | Permalink |

    I met this married man at work..and we ended up having an affair ..it went on for a year ..until his wife and employees found out. Also found out that there was another female employee that he had been having an affair before. I got crazy upset and decided to break it off..and i phoned his wife to let her know that i was going to stop seeing her husband and that i was not the only one that he had been sleeping with at work. The wife cursed me by saying bible quotes and stated that my children will pay back on my wrong doings. About a month later i became gravely ill and ended up in the hospital. Ever since then my health has been poor and now i am on disability and cant work.

  • Melissa
    January 5, 2014 | Permalink |

    After two years of marriage, my husband and I decided to have a child. I came off the pill. For three years we tried with no luck. Tests revealed no problems with either of us.

    One week in 2012 I had to attend a conference. A nice man befriended me and over dinner at our hotel, we talked about ourselves, his kids and work. It was a totally innocent evening. We parted company but I found I could not get him out of my mind. We met again the next evening. Needless to say the attraction was mutual, and we ended up spending the night together. I left his room the next morning feeling utterly exhausted and awfully guilty.

    On returning home, my husband and I continued as normal, trying to get me pregnant. I cannot describe the excitement when we finally discovered at long last I was pregnant. Everyone was happy for us. But life can be very cruel. My world came crashing down when I finally gave birth to a beautiful healthy girl, and had to explain how a blue eyed blond with a fair haired husband could give birth to a dark skinned baby.

    My husband was shattered and left me. My family could not forgive me. Friends shunned me. My baby’s Nigerian father is unaware I gave birth last year to his daughter. If it hadn’t been for the support of my incredible sister, I don’t know how I would have gotten through this ordeal.

    I learnt a big lesson … that no affair is worth it.

  • Myra
    February 7, 2014 | Permalink |

    Is there a book about a girl who falls in love with a married man?

  • Karla
    February 12, 2014 | Permalink |

    I’m the wife… My husband and I started our relationship in an affair. we divorced our spouses my years later and married!!! Things went well until I found out he had been having an affair with not one but two co-workers. One my have a baby with him. The other he is still seeing she is 20+ years younger ! She thinks this is a game . He will not stop seeing her and tells me ” NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE” I have only been with two men in my life …. I’m a broken woman I love this man so much. Our life together is older then she is.. CARMA IS A BITCH!!!!

  • Dan
    March 17, 2014 | Permalink |

    Well, as a MM having an affair with a MW some of these comments I don’t like. They are geared towards the man as “never changing” and always doing this no matter what. I am here to say that I have never had an affair and never intended. I met someone and we were struck by lightning. Within 2-3 months I knew I was in love and so did she. We held off on saying it because there as so many distractions and peripherals and white noise, we just had trouble weeding through it all to figure out what was real and what was not.
    Well, we have said it, almost daily for months now. We are deeply, madly in love. We are both married and both have elementary aged children. We also both plan to leave our spouses when financially it is feasible. Hopefully it does not take long because I can’t fathom not having her in my life daily, just to be near her, knowing she’s there.
    If this ended tomorrow I am still planning on a divorce regardless. She has opened my eyes and made me rethink my life. I don’t think I have ever been in love before this, not to this extent anyway. I may have thought I was, but it was never anything like this. She says she feels the same.
    We have come to the conclusion that you only live once and we are not going to waste it in loveless, sexless, romanceless marriages because that is what society says to do. I will be there for my children every step of the way. That is the only difficult part, but I think me being happy is an important element to being a great father. I plan to have them half the week and ALWAYS be here for them.
    I simply can not deny me and her a chance to be together

  • Sasha
    April 9, 2014 | Permalink |

    I think women have affairs because there is a void there husband cannot fill. We are human and we make mistakes no matter how good of human beings we are. I will tell you all one thing and this applies to both women and men when you truly love someone with all your heart you won’t cheat on them, if you do your relationship with your spouse is lacking something. Married men can be enticing but we women need to realize our self worth is worth much more and it’s not worth the karma especially if his wife finds out and curses you day in and day out. If you truly love the married man let him go and do it the right way if God meant it for both of you to be together it will happen. If he’s not leaving his wife for you then you know deep inside it really wasn’t worth the pain. Remember there is always one person out there that will love you like crazy it’s just a matter of time until you find them. If your tempted set him free and because you did the moral thing good things will happen to you, trust me. Good luck everyone’

  • Patrick
    April 15, 2014 | Permalink |

    I had a child out of wedlock couple of years ago,I love my son,but I don’t like the mother cos I don’t appreciate her because I don’t like her attitude.pls advise me on what to do.

  • laura
    May 7, 2014 | Permalink |

    Let me just say this to you adultresses and adulterers, you are a disgust to the vows of marriage, in the bible it says “in matthew 19:6 so they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what god has joined together, let no one separate.” A married man or woman will not leave their spouse for you, if they were going to leave you wouldnt be having “an affair” you are just a distraction to the ho hum everyday life of them to bring a little excitement for the thrill. Youll always be the bridesmaid never the bride. You cant turn a hoe into a house wife and if for some chance you gind true love and marry, expect karma 10 fold. Your husband or wife WILL cheat, your life will be the same as those you chose to hurt. Dont think for one minute this doesnt pertain to you! Yes, you.

  • Kate
    May 15, 2014 | Permalink |

    ‘IF we were to put Go’d’s name to the very idea of Love, then no one would ever divorce!! Saying that someone having a relationship whilst already married- well, thats just ridiculous. There is a reason it is called ‘falling for someone’. It happens NATURALLY and you cannot hide from the freight train. However, you can overcome it.
    I had an affair with one of my closest friends last summer…. I didn’t want it too happen, and kept trying to push the guy from my life- deleting his number, trying to remind both of us why we were married to the people we are- but he just kept coming back saying he would die without me in his life. Eventually I was in so deep I couldn’t tell which way was up or down. I came clean to my husband, unsure of the outcome. I was expecting too find myself divorced- but my husband listened to everything, spoke to the other guy (who did not come clean to his mrs) and stood by me. Thats Love. Knowing that people make mistakes and having the courage to stand by them regardless. Im pretty sure that was the lesson Jesus was teaching when he told the disciples to love Peter after he had denied Jesus… I love my husband. That does not mean that we are destined t be together forever. It means that we want to have a go at making things work.

  • Tara Emnett
    May 28, 2014 | Permalink |

    I was married and had an affair with my married boss who is 14yrs older than me. We both have children , so what will my future look like?

  • sejatoo
    June 6, 2014 | Permalink |

    Pls need help, I’ve been to my husband when I was 21 for 11 years now. Ihave only been with 2 men, my hhigh school sweetheart and ma present husband. The problem with my husband is that he doesn’t kiss me or hug me unless he want to have sex with me. We have 2 kids both under the age 10. Last week I met with my high school sweetheart after 12 years of no contact, I went crazy, hugged and kissed him. I was like a crazy teenager, I told him how much I missed him and that he will always be my soul mate. I feel guilty and afraid to meet with him again. I have never cheated on my husband before. So confused. Please help

  • Karla
    August 1, 2014 | Permalink |

    WOW…. u sound like me!!! I have only been with two men. I met my 1st husband at 15 years old we had a very chaotic relationship, after 17years I left …… he was cheating with several women . I did start an affair also…when I left I did so to be with the other man. It was so hard ….this man had a different life style, I had to understand!!! so not the life I was used to! well long story short …. He is cheating on me and has been for years. we have been together for 29 years now, and every day is an emotional rollercoaster!!!! PLEASE THINK HARD !!!!! once u do this u can never undo it. I feel for u I really do ! guilt and fear will be ur friend for a long time I know,
    I just about started an affair with an old friend not long ago, the feelings he made me feel again was so good!!!!! we never had sex but came close so, I do understand BUT!!!! He was seeing other women !!
    GOOD LUCK!!!!

  • Karma
    September 6, 2014 | Permalink |

    Unbelievable ! After being married to a man for 15 years I found out that he had been cheating on me. The pain and psychological damage caused by his affair was so deep I didn’t recognise my 3 children. I was suicidal and completely psychotic. It’s been 2 years since the revelation and has been a slow uphill battle back to normality for my mental state at least. All you women and men, whether married or unmarried, when you cheat on your partners or have a relationship with someone who is married and help them with their cheating – stop glorifying it. It is the most cowardly thing to do. If you want to have a relationship with someone else be dignified enough to end your first relationship before you do so – whilst you are having fun and living the high lives remember you have no right to force your spouses or partners or people who have done you no hurt to force them to live a lie and damage them to such an extent with your betrayal. And if it’s so wonderful -why do you have to keep it a secret? karma is a bitch. And what goes round comes round really fast nowadays.

  • Nonya
    September 24, 2014 | Permalink |

    See im like in a bit of a pickle im not looking for commitment and ive been somewhat messing around with a married man…. I work with him which makes it even more interesting hiding and being sneaky none of my collugues have a clue. At first it was just flirting it felt wierd knowinh he is married and all but now its alot more then that. I know and we have talked about it he cant go anywhere more because he already has his life made with his wife of 12 years he rarely talks good about her i know they have been having problems since before i met him. I have tried so hard to stay away but idk the chemistry is just too strong we both cant stay away amd we always find ways to be alone and just talk and hold hands. I cantell he gets mad and jealous when i talk about other guys or if someone flirts with me. And honestly i get a little jealous too. But idk what to do anymore i love my job and i like him as my boss but i dont want to stop this thing we have going on. At first i would feel horrible and would get so panicky but now its just so natural.

  • Ally
    October 23, 2014 | Permalink |

    Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. There are so many things that I want to say, but I am most curious why every story was about married people. I found it interesting that there were no boyfriend girlfriend situations? This is actually the norm with regards to infidelity. There appears to me more focus on extramarital affairs or infidelity in marriages? I believe that any couple that is in a relationship together no matter the title, should do all they can to be truthful with themselves and thier partners. We all make mistakes in life. What counts is that we learn from them. I accidentally found this site while trying to search for m_gonzalez@ discreet.mail.com. I found this when I came home after a weekend away to my sons wedding. It was written in handwriting that no one my boyfriend and I know behind the kitchen trash. I showed him he said he didn’t know where it came from. I replied, but it’s in our house. He became agitated and said email it and ask. I replied okay. I googled it and it’s everywhere but with different names, links, sites etc. I know he’s lying and it’s not the first time. I have been accused multiple times. He’s even gotten so crazy that he’s called me a whore he’s so convinced! I am not the type and I would like to think I’d confess. I have found several things before. I told him a while back with the first suspicious event that if he cheated or is seeing someone tell me and I’ll leave. Or if you can’t bring yourself to speak the truth and you are being unfaithful, this has never happened to me before so I’m not sure how I’d react but just this once I’ll give you a get out of jail card. End all of it now! Call them, email them change your number whatever! If you love me and yourself you will end it. If you don’t you will not pass go or collect $200. I love you and I may be blonde but stupid, blind am not! Make your choice. That was it. I used to be in love with him and he with me. Now I just love him and when I ask him if he loves me he says, I don’t know if I love you, but I care for you like a person. Gee, thanks Charlie Brown. Really. I’m sure you are all at the edge of your seats for my next word right? So in June suddenly he says, I don’t think we should be living together and I don’t want a girlfriend. I sAy why? He says because we fight. I say we fight because you randomly accuse me and then I accidentally find things laying around the house or condom wrappers and broke off manicured nails in the back seat of your truck, suddenly you go from wanting me around to saying I’m insecure because I ask you if you want me to go with you? Whoa!! Easy girl..lol. Nether one of us we’re looking. I was single and the happiest I had ever been in my life and he said he was too. I met his friends and family he cleared one drawer two drawers and finally I’m living with him and his children and mother. He says I love you to me first, he asks me to be his girlfriend first. He wanted me, he wanted us. I hesitated at first because I wasn’t sure I wanted a 15 year marriage or a 14 year boyfriend again? Yep 2 relationships prior both long term. I can commit and be faithful. It doesn’t mean I don’t get bored or curious or appreciate some occassional smile of “eye candy, ” I’m human. Anyways I threw caution to the wind told myself not to let the past affect my future or I may very well miss out on true love.
    I’m unemployed, no jobs in the area, applied for food assistance lost my house I raised my 3 children and had sleepovers with my 3 grandsons and in an instant my world collapse. With tears in my eyes and no money or gas In my untagged uninsured car I went to the store rum stet behind Walmart, stuffed as many boxes as I could and quietly began extracting me from what I considered to be our family and our home. I did this as discreetly as I could over a week or so as I didn’t want to upset his kids. I asked him if he told them. No. So I did calmly and with as much love as I could. I told them what he said and why he said it and I told them that I did not agree with it but that I would honor his decision. First day I was packing he said why are you doing that now.? I said you know I’m in financial despair it may take me a while to find somewhere to go. He said there is no rush. He’s always saying no rush. When he broke up with me some 17 months later, he said I still want to date you though. I said did you break up because you want to be single and date others or because we fight? Because we fight. True? Or false? That’s rhetorical of course. Guess what? I’m still here. We have the same boyfriend girlfriend relationship and nothing’s changed but him dethroning me and removing my title . Oh and sometimes I refer to him as my boyfriend and he quickly reminds me I’m not. We fuck every nite and when he’s one and done I’m ready to start all over. He said he’s never met anyone who likes sex more than him. I made him agree that until I move out we will be true to ourselves and eachother. No sexting, texting, cheating, slip and fall into any assholes or vaginas ect ect he agreed. Btw I said this because he told me that just because we…?! Wtf?! Broke up doesn’t mean you can fuck anyone or your on your ass on the curb! Nice! Cl ass ic! Hey buddy! Looks like you should’ve been the blonde and I should’ve been the brunette?! Love stinks! That’s why I named him stinky! To be continued if you’ll have me?

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