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Are you or a friend turning into an attention whore? Use these 16 surefire signs to know if you’re craving for attention in all the wrong ways! By Cheryl James

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There’s an attention whore in all of us.

But in almost all of us, it’s just a small part of who we are.

Most of us can live without extensive attention from the world, and we can get along just fine as long as we have a few friends we can rely on.

But there are a few others who completely need the attention of everyone in the world, every ear they can possibly scream into.

Welcome to the world of the attention whores!

[Read: Signs you're making an attention whore your priority when you're only an option in her life]

Who is an attention whore?

Before we go any further, let’s make sure we’re on the same page.

So who is an attention whore, and what does it really mean?

Do you have a friend who sticks up a new self portrait with her boobs almost sticking out *unintentionally, of course* on a social site like facebook or tumblr every now and then, and posts ridiculous things like “Hit like if you think I’m sexy” or “OMG, I look so friggin’ ugly!”

And then this friend waits a while until all other friends start giving her attention online and telling her she’s really pretty and sexy or that she doesn’t have to change a thing?

Or have you come across outlandish posts in social networks where a person says something ludicrous like “I’ll slash my hand if I don’t get 1000 likes, I swear!”

Well, ladies and gents, that’s the attention whore, and truth be told, that is the extreme side of attention whores.

There are other milder kinds of attention whores too. And there’s a huge chance that you know one of them already. [Read: 20 signs you're a people pleaser and don't even know it!]

Types of attention whores

All of us know of at least one attention whore, be it the mild or the blatant kind. If you don’t know even one attention whore in your group of friends, *shudder* you’re probably that annoying attention seeker and don’t even realize it!

There are two kinds of attention whores, the one who really needs attention because they’re lonely. And the second kind, the ones who just need attention.

The first kind is borderline acceptable. I mean, they’re lonely and want friends. And since they’re incapable of social etiquette, they rely on threats to hold on to friends and meet new friends. [Read: How to make friends when you can't find any friends]

It’s the second kind that’s a pain in the rear, the kind who is whoring for attention because they thrive in it. They constantly want the world to revolve around them.

Why is it wrong to be an attention whore?

If you’re someone who loves attention and thinks no harm can ever come off it, well, you’d obviously wonder what’s wrong with it. But in reality, being a desperate attention whore can do more damage than good to you.

Unless you’re earning money off your attention seeking ways on a reality show, it won’t help you in any way. Your attention whoring ways will leave you feeling insecure, make your friends hate you, and eventually, no one will even trust you or even care for you.

Being an attention whore, you’d hurt too many friends that truly care, because you’d never really be close to any of your friends. Without realizing it, you’d find yourself using your trustworthy friends and disposing of them when you don’t need them in your life. You pretend like everyone is your best friend, and just to win over a new friend, you usually ignore an older friend who stood by you when you had no friends or support. [Read: 10 types of toxic friends all of us need to avoid]

You’d hurt and piss off too many innocent and loving friends along the way, and eventually hurt yourself because the only people who’d stick to you would be other attention seekers who think just like you, and display fake affection to win people over, just like you.

And even if you do realize you’re wrong eventually and try to go back to your true friends who put up with you each time you treated them like trash, it may be too late because they probably don’t trust you anymore. [Read: 13 happy things you need to have a happy life]

16 signs you’re an attention whore

Attention whoring is a way of life. Even if you are one, you may never realize it and you may assume everyone else is jealous of you because you’re getting the attention of the world and you’re so popular.

But if you find yourself losing a lot of old friends too fast, and if you feel hurt when someone you meet for the first time doesn’t like you, ask yourself if you’re relying too much on the image you’re portraying to the world and less on who you really are, to define yourself.

The ego of an attention whore is huge, and also extremely fragile. And especially with the advent of social sites, the urge to become famous could cloud your rational judgment, and the fear of losing all those facebook friends could scare you to death.

So do you want to find out if you’re an attention whore? Use these 16 signs to find out if your mind is already stepping into the glamorous and fickle world of attention whoring.

#1 Status updates. You frequently add vague status updates on facebook, knowing fully well that most of your friends won’t know what you mean or what you’re trying to say. And yet you pretend like it wasn’t meant for everyone, or worse, you wait until loads of people start asking you what you meant before you explain yourself. [Read: 10 big annoying girlfriend habits that guys hate]

#2 Problem solving. You intentionally flaunt your problems and issues to everyone, be it scars or love triangles. You share your issues with online friends you barely know even though you can’t get any real help there.

You love playing the victim and you shamelessly crave for sympathy. But really, if you truly want to feel any better, talk to a good friend over phone or in person. Flaunting your heartbreaks or scars online or in public won’t get you anything more than stares.

#3 Your new look. You upload new photos on facebook all the time, letting people know every single thing you’re doing, including hanging out in the toilet!

#4 The wannabe braggart. You brag about something when it’s not really such a big deal. I’m an emo chick… I’m a metal chick… I’m a gaming chick… Wow, really? The world doesn’t give a rat’s rear end, you know?

#5 The group photo. You don’t realize it, but you always claw your way to stand in front of the group every time someone tries to take a picture of the group.

#6 The sore loser. You just can’t accept it if a guy hits on your friend instead of you when the two of you go out. You think the guy’s a loser, because you’re so much better, and it’s his loss he can’t see that! [Read: 10 ways to stop being jealous of someone else's success or achievement]

#7 VIP treatment. You want all the attention when you go to a new place. If your friends get more attention that you, you think the place sucks. But if the manager or the chef speaks a lot more to you, you fall in love with the place even if the food sucks.

#8 The real life. Even if it’s your best friend’s birthday and all of you are dining out or having a party, you try your best to be the life of the party and hog the attention with your antics. And even if someone brings this to your attention, you get angry *because you’re only trying to ensure that everyone has a good time*.

#9 You’re nice to everyone. Not because you love all people or you’re a politician, but because you want everyone you meet to love you and crave your attention! You go out of your way to be really nice to people you meet for the first time, and end up taking all the good friends who know you for granted. [Read: Signs of bad friends and circumstances when you need to end a bad friendship]

#10 The temperamental you. Your mood swings change constantly. You could be in a heated argument with your best friend or your sister, but if a new friends walks past you or calls you over the phone, you can change your attitude almost instantly and become really nice while talking to them.

#11 The center of the world. You feel really miserable if you aren’t the center of attention with your friends. And if two friends of yours make secret plans about something without telling you about it, you feel deeply hurt.

#12 You’re important. Your problems and moments of happiness should be shared by all your friends. If you break up or get into a new relationship, all your friends have to feel your pleasure or pain, or you believe they’re terrible friends.

#13 You white lie. You make up stories about boyfriends, vacations or shopping sprees every now and then just to look cooler than everyone else. You constantly have the urge to feel superior to all your friends. [Read: How to stop lying and feel more comfortable telling the truth]

#14 Fishing for compliments. You need others to tell you that you look good to actually feel good about yourself. You work out, strap on a revealing dress or dab yourself with makeup, click a picture and post it on facebook with the line, “Gawd, I look so ugly in this pic…” [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read their mind better]

#15 The unwanted attention. You talk about all the guys that give you so much attention, and how you so totally hate it. But surprisingly, you don’t ignore those guys either.

#16 You ignore your friends. You ignore someone who really likes you all the time, be it a friend or a crush that’s actually really nice. And when no one’s around to keep you company or when you feel bored and alone, you call these friends and try to win back their attention. [Read: How to stop a selfish person from hurting you]

Being an attention whore could give you a lot of happiness, but you need to remember that this burst of happiness is only momentary for as long as the fifteen minutes of fame lasts.

Do you think you have a friend who’s an attention whore? Or do you think you have an attention whore in you? These 16 signs will definitely draw out the people pleaser in you, and help you change yourself for the better.

[Read: 25 memorable life lessons to perfect your life]

If you like being an attention whore in a fake world, be so at your own risk. But if you want to come back to reality and hold your true friends close, change now before it’s too late!


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  • Nika
    November 22, 2012 | Permalink |

    wow! that was really enlightening. I didn’t even realize I was an attention whore. but now I understand why I seem to lose friends quickly. I am definitely going to change for the better and hold my true friends close. Thanks!

  • I'm one too!
    November 24, 2012 | Permalink |

    I don’t know if I was hinted at, but a friend of mine shared this page on FB. As I read it, I was laughing at these pathetic people who crave for attention until I read the signs.

    I think I may be an attention whore, and I don’t know if my friend shared this page just for me to read, or it was just a big coincidence. I’m constantly trying to make sure everyone who meets me for the first time have a very good impression about me. And I’ve had old friends who always tell me I’m changing and never concerned about old friends and soon as I meet new ones.

    I see myself in so many of these signs. I’m hurt now, because I don’t have any true friends, only fake friends who just love complimenting each other just to hear a compliment back in return. I suck. Will I ever get back my true friends?

  • Bea
    November 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    I was hoping you could do a post soon on how to deal with these people if you find it impossible to just get away from them in your daily life, or maybe on how you can be more patient, I definitely need it.

  • Same (But I'm a guy)
    December 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    It seems that as a guy, I was an attention whore on Facebook. I didn’t realise why people didn’t talk to me.

    Then I realised the tons of opportunities I had that I didn’t took at school, to build a connection with one person and then move. I lost that chance and I regret it.

    I was the worst attention whore on facebook, and a drama king.

    So in the end, it is my fault and I am willing to change. Life isn’t easy. You cannot have one thing only in life, you have to have a balance of everything in life, not just craving attention and sitting there all closed not open and talking to yourself.

    And you have to bite the bullet and put yourself in. Even if they are fake friends, you need to try to be better.

  • Same (But I'm a guy)
    December 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    After the facebook emo updates, I quitted it. 3 times. Reopened. Then lately I finally placed my account down.

    Even now, I am being it. I will change and put attention back into past friends, and I won’t just sit there with my eyes on the screen all the time.

    I need to unlock my personality.

  • Alex
    January 5, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’m deactivating my fb now. I’m an attention whore and didn’t no it “sad”. :(

  • suzy
    October 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    My ex had almost all of these listed.

  • hatt
    December 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    pretty lame of you so blatantly use the term “attention whore”, putting down sex workers, when this entire website is dedicated to sex…

  • molmol
    April 6, 2014 | Permalink |

    I was once nearly an attention whore but thankfully I realized it and then changed. about having an attention whore as a friend, yes I do have one. and pretty much right to your statement, most of her long time friends dislike that characteristic of hers… pretty much right, it is lucky that I escaped from being one…

  • arferdog
    May 9, 2014 | Permalink |

    Every woman alive can be accused of being an attention whore. If she has a social media account (no matter how she uses it), if she has a blog, if she’s a member of Toastmasters or does any kind of public speaking, if she asks for help, or if she’s just having a good time dancing in the park, then some jerk is going to call her an attention whore for it.

  • Yup
    May 25, 2014 | Permalink |

    #17. Identifying their audience: Threatens to clean out/discard social friend connections. Waits for friends to beg to not be eliminated.

    #18. Social Suicide: Says they need a break from social media or is considering deactivating social account. Waiting/hoping for “why what’s wrong?” Or “please don’t go” type responses. Or desperate to get people to interact more directly out of concern. They announce their false desire to withdraw.

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