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What to Do if You’re Raped on a Date

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What should you do if you’re raped on a date? Could you be in the middle of a date rape if you feel dizzy in a club? Here’s everything you need to know about what to do in a date rape, even if you think it’s too late to do anything about it.

Click here to read the introduction, Date Rape Facts and learn how date rapes occur in the first place.

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Can you get raped on a date?

It is very important to be alert and careful when you’re out, even if it’s with a friend. If you feel nauseous, dizzy or start blacking out, ask a trusted girlfriend to get you to a safe place immediately, or call someone who can help you, even your parents.

Don’t hesitate at these moments, even if it’s just a hunch.

Don’t accept a lift or help from anyone else. There is every possibility that the very person who wants to help you could turn out to be the potential rapist.

Most of the times, almost always, date rapes happen at a known place, either your house or at a friend’s place.

What should you do if you’ve been raped on a date?

First of all, remember that it’s not your fault that it happened. You were either forced into it, knowingly or unknowingly, or you probably weren’t in a state to prevent it.

Rapes are usually never reported because of all the guilt. You might feel dirty, ashamed and violated. But you should know that rape is a crime too, and just like in any other case, the attacker is the only one who should be ashamed.

Do you think you’ve been raped on a date?

If you have been raped or wake up with flashbacks of a possible rape, get to a hospital or a doctor as soon as possible. Don’t wash or change your clothes. Contact the police immediately and insist that urine and blood tests be taken.

If you were drugged and forced into the act, the evidence of the drug usually stays in the body from 5 to 8 hours up to 48 hours, depending on the drug used. Get checked for sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy and consider having an AIDS test.

It might be hard to get over the thought, and you may suffer from a lot of guilt and extreme reactions within you. You might lose your confidence, feel worthless, or go into depressions. If you feel any of these emotions, it is very important that you seek counseling, or talk to a trusted friend or a family member.

How to avoid getting raped on a date

It’s a very well known and clichéd adage “it’s better to be safe than sorry”, but it’s one of the things that you should understand.

Tip #1 Always trust your instincts. They may seem too farfetched at times, but most of the times your instinct never lets you down.

Tip #2If you feel someone is creepy, don’t put up with them, and don’t accept drinks from them, or stay around them.

Tip #3 When you’re at a pub, always keep the drink with you at all times, even if it means hitting the dance floor with a drink in your hand.

Tip #4 If you have to visit the loo, maybe you should think about ordering another glass when you come back to your table.

Tip #5 Don’t share or swap drinks. It’s fun to try out the different cocktails all of you are having, but you never know where things might just turn wrong for you.

But even with all this in your mind, if you are ever a victim of a date rape or a sexual assault, remember that it’s not your fault and the best way to deal with it is by reporting it to the cops.

We all know that most girls who get raped on a date never reveal it, but why let some pervert get away with a cheap dirty trick that could scar you forever, when you have a choice to put him behind bars.


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  • Annie Chang
    December 2, 2010 | Permalink |

    Thanks for providing the tips. They’re very helpful for anyone who’s experienced rape or just have no idea about what to do if they ever get raped. Date rape is a scary reality and something that women still don’t know how to deal with. Your tips and pointers definitely open up a path to understanding how often this can happen and how common this scenario really is.

  • Slapper
    February 11, 2011 | Permalink |

    What about the scientifically proven fact that women like it?

  • ray loza
    November 7, 2011 | Permalink |

    i take no rape article serious that only refers to rapists as men and rape victims as women. women are rapists as well and men are rape victims also. try pointing out the entire truth and gain some credibility!

  • Lydia R.
    August 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    Ray Loza, why would a woman like something that she has to be forced or drugged into doing, something that leaves her so ashamed that she can’t even report it…. you are horrible

  • roba
    November 6, 2012 | Permalink |

    Lydia, your ignorance is pretty saddening. Try to get some real facts and then talk. People like you, who don’t believe that men can be raped, should seriously break a leg and limp forever

  • Annie
    April 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    Speaking as someone who had actually been date raped, if this happens to anyone, I agree that you have to report it.
    The rapist will be the only one who pays, I never reported mine because I was just 17 at the time but a year later I regret it.

  • Jess
    July 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    Slapper, I would like to say all women do not enjoy being raped. In fact I know of none that do. Even if they do enjoy it, they still said no. That should be respected. This goes for men and women. You need to work through some things, I’m sure. Praying for you.

  • Jane
    October 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    I had a friend who was frequently asking me to be intimate with him and I kept firmly saying no and kept brushing it off. He asked me one day to meet him an isolated, unfamiliar place and he raped me, I was so scared of him hurting me or abandoning me in the middle of nowhere that I decided to be nice to him just to confuse him so that I could return to my car safely and get home. He introduced me to his brother and I had a long distance relationship with his brother while he acted as a caring brother-in-law. He took advantage of me after breaking up with his brother when I was depressed, saddened and confused. I never saw it coming. I would say watch out for guys who are hot tempered, act like spoilt brats, aggressive, demanding, self-centered and seem to have a nice side while a nasty, disrespectful, weird side pops out now and then. Please be careful, if in doubt, ask someone who knows him well what is he really like when he isn’t with you. Don’t be a heroine to a guy who finds it difficult to make friends.

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