The 30 Best Subtle, Obvious & Really Sexy Flirting Tips for Girls

Want to grab the attention of a special someone? You need to up your flirting game. Here are some flirting tips for girls to help you do just that. 

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Many people have the entirely wrong idea about flirting. They assume it’s something you’re either great at, or terrible at. The truth is, everyone can flirt and with a few flirting tips for girls, every single female out there can flirt up a storm, whether they believe in their flirting game or not.

Flirting is the best way to get someone’s attention. It shows them that you like them, that you have your eye on them, and it encourages them to start flirting back.

You see, flirting is a game that’s played back and forth. You can try flirting with someone who doesn’t seem to be reciprocating in the flirting stakes, but it will probably end up being a car crash.

That’s why you need to make it very clear that you’re not just being friendly and you need to do it in a way that encourages them to respond. It sounds hard but trust us, it’s actually easier than you think!

[Read: How to tell if a guy is flirting with you – The crystal clear signs you need to keep an eye on]

To be a master flirter, you need confidence

Before we start introducing you to the best flirting tips for girls, you need to know one thing – you need to be confident. Even if you don’t actually feel it, you need to fake it. Flirting without confidence is like trying to eat noodles with your fingers – messy.

The more you tell yourself that you’re feeling confident, the more you’ll start to notice the first twinges of confidence heading your way.

It won’t happen straight away, so stick with it. Of course, there are some things you can do to encourage confidence to grow.

For instance, you should make sure you’re comfortable in what you’re wearing and you choose something that makes you feel confident. Choose a setting that you’re comfortable in too. Also, have a few tips to back up your flirting game, so you know you’re onto a winner from the start.

Flirting confidence is like a muscle. You need to flex it occasionally to make it stronger. For that reason, you need to start practicing, right now! [Read: How to flirt with a guy friend and get him interested in dating you]

Understanding the art of flirting

When you’re a girl, it’s easy to flirt with a guy and get him to respond to you. You might not think it is, but trust us, it’s much easier than you could ever realize.

Yet, never overdo yourself before he shows his reciprocation towards you. Always make a guy feel like he’s doing the hard work and he’ll show more of an interest in you.

A guy’s mind is simple. He wants the attention of all attractive women. If he knows you like him already, he’ll lose interest in wooing you or impressing you.

If it seems too obvious that you like him already, he knows that he doesn’t have to work harder to get your attention and he’ll forget all about the chase. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never ever like you]

There are three main types of flirting you need to bear in mind.

1. Subtle flirting

If you don’t know a guy too well, always be subtle while flirting with him.

He has to know you’re interested in him, but he should never realize you’ve fallen hard for him already. [Read: How to flirt with a sub subtly without really flirting at all]

2. Obvious flirting

Once a guy starts flirting back or tries to get your attention, it’s completely acceptable to start flirting more obviously with him.

While subtle flirting may make him wonder if you like him, obvious flirting moves will let him see that you’re definitely interested in him in a more-than-just-friends kind of way.

3. Sexual flirting

Sexual flirting is right there at the top of the flirting ladder. It can be outrageous and overtly sexual, and as long as you’ve built the sexual tension up, it’ll make any guy want to do things to you right there. [Read: Sexual flirting – How to step up from regular flirting & naughty it]

You can sexually flirt with a guy anywhere you like, but as a word of caution, indulge in sexual flirting only when it’s just the both of you and no one else around.

If other guys do see you, sexual flirting can come off as a slutty thing, and it may not help your goody-two-shoes image with the rest of the guys. [Read: How to be a seductress without being obvious]

After all, all guys absolutely love girls who seem coy and cute at first sight, and turn out to be wild cats in privacy. So keep it that way and you’ll have an easier time getting any great guy’s attention. [Read: Why are guys so attracted to shy girls?]

So how do you go about using these flirting tips for girls? Well, start slow and subtle, get cute, take a more obvious turn and if you’re really sexually attracted to him, use the sexual flirting tips to turn him on in no time! [Read: How to look cute – 25 super-sweet ways to exude cuteness and melt any guy’s heart]

The best subtle flirting tips for girls to get him interested

Still getting to know a guy?  Use these subtle flirting tips to draw him to you and fall for you without even realizing it.

1. Smile happily while talking to him or waving out to him. And giggle now and then coyly at his jokes.

2. Stare deeply like you want him while talking to him. And glance at him now and then when he’s not close, but look away when he looks at you. It’s all about making him curious. [Read: 10 eye contact flirting moves that always work]

3. Whisper in his ear like you have a secret to tell him when both of you are alone in a crowded place. Just make sure your lips *accidentally* touch his ears.

4. Lean on him with an excuse while talking to him by adjusting your heel, or losing your balance, or while walking through a crowd.

5. Flick your hair to the other side slowly with one hand while talking to him. Guys are suckers for this move.

6. Act cute when you talk to him. Keep your finger on your lip while thinking, or look down and smile coyly now and then.

7. Compliment him and speak highly about anything he does. He’ll love spending time with you. And make sure you ask for his help now and then, he’ll feel more manly around you. [Read: The damsel in distress and why men find them so irresistibly attractive]

8. When you’re walking away after a conversation with him, turn around and look at him, smile flirtily, and walk away. This move always makes goodbyes feel so romantic!

9. Play with something slowly and sensually as you talk to him. You can use a glass, your phone, a pen or even the corner of your shirt or your hair. Just be subtle though, unless you want to get sexy with him. [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually when he sees a girl]

10. Touch him gently on his arm or shoulder while talking to him, or tap him from behind when you surprise him from the back. This is very subtle and yet very memorable.

Obvious flirting tips for girls to let him know you’re interested

Do you know the guy well? Or have you warmed him up to like you by using the subtle flirting tips? Use these tips to raise the temperature.

1. Place your palm on his cheek or jawbone while complimenting him for something he’s done especially for you. It’ll make him work harder towards doing more nice things for you. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]

2. When both of you are standing together, clasp his hand gently while saying something close to his ear. It’ll seem accidental, but his heart will still skip a beat.

3. Find an excuse and bend down low in front of him. Pretend to be busy and allow him to take a good peek down your cleavage.

Look up suddenly and catch him doing it. Taunt him for it and make him feel awkward. It’ll build the sexual tension up in no time because both of you know he’s interested in your body.

4. While sitting next to him or across him, slide your foot closer and ever-so-slightly touch his foot while appearing busy doing something else.

Pretend like you haven’t noticed though. Every guy loves a flirty accidental footsie. You can do the same thing with your arms or shoulders too.

5. Give him a lingering, soft hug while saying goodbye. But make sure you’ve lifted your chest high enough for him to feel your breasts against his body. [Read: The reason behind why guys like breasts like crazy]

6. Flaunt yourself. If you’re wearing something rather exciting, ask him what he thinks of your new short dress, your legs or even your cleavage. “You don’t think my shirt’s too low, do you?” is a great line with a naughty answer waiting around the corner.

7. When you’re sitting with him and there’s no one else around, tell him something personal about your body and appear awkward about it.

Wearing a short skirt and saying “you know, I have a mole on my thigh” will always make him wish he could sneak a peek through your short skirt.

8. Talk softly about something romantic or sexy while sitting with him. Turn towards him slowly when he’s next to you, and say “why are you staring at me like you want to kiss me?”

Put him in a spot without ever revealing that you want to kiss him. His sexual awkwardness at the moment may make him bolder and he may end up saying that he actually wants to kiss you. [Read: 6 ways to get any guy to kiss you when you want him to]

9. Scribble a note on a paper napkin for him and give it to him after kissing the paper with your lipstick-stained lips. It’s bold, but if you want to be obvious, do it.

But want something more subtle? Use a paper napkin and press it over your lips to pale the shade of your lipstick.

Use the same note to write something for him on the other side, and pretend like you didn’t realize it’s the same stained napkin. He’ll definitely think about kissing that paper napkin when you’re gone!

10. Ask him to sniff your new perfume on your hand. But don’t use any perfume on your hands! When he says he’s not getting any fragrance, pretend like you’re surprised and ask him to smell your neck for the fragrance.

A slight accidental nudge when he’s sniffing could make him plant a kiss on your neck. By accident, of course!

You could also wear a low tee if you want him to take a peek when you tilt your face upwards and stretch your neck for him to smell your fragrance. [Read: How to keep a guy interested in you in 30 super sexy ways]

The really naughty, sexual flirting tips for girls to get him hard and sexually excited

Being subtle or obvious is one thing, but sexual flirting is a whole new sexy game. Try these tips to turn a guy on, or do something a lot more. It’s bold, but really, what else could you expect from sexual flirting?!

1. Place your hand on his thigh while talking to him. Let it linger for a bit, but while taking your hand off his thigh, move your fingers closer towards his package for just a fraction of a second before taking your hand away.

2. When you’re saying goodbye to him, give him a hug and kiss him on either side of his cheek. But as you kiss him in a hurry, kiss really close to his lips or actually kiss the corner of his lips before walking away. You’ll definitely leave him feeling stretched in his pants. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on immediately]

3. Grind him if you’re clubbing with him. Even if you’re in an elevator, try to stand in front of him and use the crowd as an excuse to press your butt against his package *accidentally*. [Read: How to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly]

4. Walk up from behind him and say hi, and place your hand almost on his butt, but just a little higher than that. Don’t try to take your hand off quickly. Slide it away as slowly as possible.

5. Compliment him sexually. Tell him his pants make his ass look sexy. Or turn that into a question. When you’re sitting with him, go close to him, smile mischievously, and ask him if he’s having an erection because his pants seem stretched and his crotch seems big.

6. Sexual text flirting. This is a sure-fire way to get into each other’s pants. Text him late at night and talk flirty with him. It’ll definitely go somewhere sexual within a few days. [Read: How to text flirt with a friend and do more]

7. If both of you have gone out together at night, take his car keys and drop them down your shirt and into your bra while walking towards his car, accidentally or very obviously.

You can say an ‘oops’ or give him a flirty grin and ask him to help you take it out. It doesn’t matter who takes it out because what he’ll remember is the fact that his car keys just touched your breasts and how he’s holding those lucky keys.

8. Tell him you had a dream where both of you were making out with each other. [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

9. Go out with him and spill something like ketchup or chocolate on your tee shirt. Luckily for you, carry a spare tee shirt in your bag.

When he’s dropping you home, get into the backseat of his car, ask him to look away while you change your tee shirt. He’ll definitely take a peek, and you can make sure you give him an eyeful.

Want to take this a notch higher on the scale of sexual flirting? Take your bra off while changing into your new tee shirt. *Why?! Because you’re so naughty, that’s why!*

10. Take him shopping with you. Leave a few buttons unbuttoned when you come out of the dressing room.

Or try something rather revealing and tell him you’re feeling awkward to come out because the shirt is see through, and ask him to take a peek through the dressing room curtain and give his suggestion. You could also give him a little peek while changing by pretending like you didn’t notice he was still around!

[Read: 33 sexiest ways to seduce a guy who isn’t yours yet]

Do these flirting tips work?

They work, and they work like a charm!

You may think these flirting tips are easy to read, and a guy may know what you’re up to.

But honestly, if you use this right, no guy would realize you’re actually holding the reins to the flirting game. He’d assume he’s getting lucky, or that he’s the one who’s doing all the flirting with you.

So just take it easy, keep it subtle, and work your magic. You’ll realize how powerful these flirting tips are in no time, just as long as you go easy with these tips, and keep things subtle.

[Read: How to attract men – The MUST-KNOW psychological secrets no one wants you to know!]

And that’s how it’s done! It doesn’t matter whether you’re looking for the best subtle, obvious, or sexual flirting tips. As long as you know what stage of flirting you’re indulging in with a guy, these are all the flirting tips for girls you need to get him interested, turn him on and do a lot more too!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...