Sometimes, men choose girlfriends because she makes him look good. If you see these signs you are a trophy girlfriend and nothing more, throw him to the curb.
Yes, you’re beautiful! There’s nothing wrong with your beauty, but what’s wrong is when a man is only with you for that one reason. You’re more than your face or body, right? You have a brain, a sense of humor, and a kind heart—you’re a person. If he doesn’t see you as a whole person but rather someone with a pretty face, that’s a problem. So, here are the signs you are a trophy girlfriend. [Read: 7 signs he’s interested in you for all the wrong reasons]
14 blatant signs you are a trophy girlfriend
Sadly, not everyone goes into a relationship for the same reason. Though you may be in it for love, he may not be in it for that reason. Now, not all guys are like this. But there are some guys who are into boosting their ego by having a good looking woman stand next to them.
Sure, when you read that line, you probably felt flattered by the idea that someone would want to be next to you. This isn’t because of you, it’s because of how you make them look and feel. He may buy you everything you want, but there’s a price. You better keep up the standard because he needs to look good. Ugh, isn’t this the 21st century? [Read: 20 ways to spot a prick when you’re talking to a guy]
#1 No talks about the future. If a guy really likes you, there’s no problem talking about the future with you. This doesn’t mean talks about marriage, but it could be about traveling or even your plans for the next weekend. If he doesn’t think of any short-term or long-term plans with you, he’s not serious.
#2 You feel like a rebound. If he just got out of a relationship, the chances are very high that you’re a rebound. They basically get a good looking woman by their side while getting over their latest breakup. Now, dating someone after being in a relationship isn’t a bad thing, in some cases it’s not a rebound. But, in reality, he’s probably scared to be alone. [Read: 12 ways to know you’re in a rebound relationship]
#3 You never met his friends. He has friends, everyone has at least one friend. The funny thing, though his proclaimed girlfriend, you never met his friends—not one. If he’s not introducing you to people important to him, it’s one of those big signs you are a trophy girlfriend and nothing more. He wants to show you off to the world but doesn’t want you to get to know his friends, because he’s not thinking of anything long term with you.
#4 You’re a girlfriend when he needs you to be. A healthy relationship needs to move forward. It doesn’t need to progress at the speed of light, but it should move forward. If your relationship isn’t progressing, he likes having you as a convenient date. He may call you his girlfriend to his parents or friends, but you don’t feel like one.
#5 No deep conversations. With some people, you speak about deep and serious topics. But with him, he likes everything light. A progressing relationship talks about serious things whether it’s about family, friends, or the relationship itself.
#6 He likes to go with the flow. How convenient, right? Keep your eye on this, because it’s one of those subtle signs you are a trophy girlfriend in his eyes. If everything with him is about going with the flow and taking things day by day, he’s either way too laid back or he’s just using you to get attention until he finds someone else.
He may tell you that he’s a man that lives in the present which is a load of shit. If he’s always up in the air it’s because you’re not a priority to him, trust me, he has plans and you’re not in them.
#7 They’re in love with themselves. When you sit next to them, they’re busy on their phone, texting whoever is on the other end. They don’t ask about your day or how you feel. But when you ask them, they have no problem giving you long answers without ever shooting the question back at you. It’s because they don’t actually care about you. [Read: 23 secret signs of narcissism people overlook until it’s too late]
#8 He doesn’t include you. See, he makes plans, but you’re not included in them unless he wants his ego boosted. When you are with him, you feel like a nuisance or a tag-along. He talks to other people, but you end up just standing wrapped around his arms in silence.
#9 There’s no respect. If you feel disrespected it’s because you’re a trophy girlfriend. Respect is one of the most crucial elements in a healthy relationship. Thus, if he’s not giving you respect but still wants to be with you, then it shows he doesn’t really care about you but rather likes the image of you.
#10 He doesn’t know much about your life. Simply because he doesn’t ask. If he wanted to know more about you, he would ask. But he just keeps things basic because he’s not interested in getting to know you. You’re just an ego boost until the next girl comes along. [Read: 22 secret signs you’re dating a self-obsessed egomaniac]
#11 He only ever compliments you on your looks. It’s all about your looks with him. He always compliments you on your clothes or hair, but the compliments never go deeper than that. If he only tells you that you’re beautiful—which you are, don’t doubt that—but if he can’t compliment you on other attributes you have, it’s because he doesn’t pay attention or worse, doesn’t care.
#12 He wants to control. If you feel the controlling vibes, first of all, it’s a red flag on its own. But additionally, if he makes you feel like you live in his world, it’s because it is his world. You’re just a pawn, just someone to make him look good and successful in front of other people.
#13 His profile is all about you. There are tons of photos of you all over his social media. Why? Because you’re gorgeous and he wants to show you off. But, here’s the thing, he wants to show you off because it makes him look good. It shows everyone else that he’s capable of getting girls like you to date him. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]
#14 You never see him. And when you do see him, it’s for an event or for sex. You don’t go for romantic walks on the beach. You don’t spend all day talking to each other. In fact, you don’t even know what he does during the day.