Flirting Like Crazy Then Going Completely Cold!

flirting like crazy and going cold

Have you ever had a guy make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world and then suddenly go MIA? Here’s why that happens.

Men and women flirt in order to establish an initial rapport between one another. At this stage, you will be able to scrutinize whether a person is interested in you or not. Flirting can be a way to know a person’s intentions, but more often than not, it is just a playful way for people to express the fact that they like you.

How do I know if someone is flirting with me?

It is fairly obvious to anyone within a 50-foot radius whether two people are flirting. Sparks are flying, eyes are glazed over with anticipation, and the couple’s body language is showing all sorts of possibilities. That is the effect of flirting.

There are still times, however, when people don’t realize that someone is flirting with them. Some people can be too subtle, or maybe their idea of flirting is different from others. That is one of the downsides. Flirting is simply too vague to be considered as an act of actual courtship.

If you want to know if a person is flirting with you, the best thing to do is ask them: “Are you flirting with me?” Take note of the context. It should not be serious. It should be playful, but not condescending. Most of the time it even works as a way to flirt!

Signs that there’s some flirtation going on

If you’re too shy to ask straight out, just watch out for these subtle signs and gestures:

#1 Eye contact. If someone decides to flirt with you, this means that they are confident enough to look directly into your eyes. If they end up staring at your chest or ass, they’re not flirting, they’re just leering. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that work wonders]

#2 You, you, you. It’s all about you – how beautiful you are, how fitting your drink of choice is and how annoying these other guys are when they hit on you. A guy who wants to flirt will initially want to draw your attention in by noticing something about you.

#3 Compliments. This is a usual opener for guys who want to flirt. If he stays after he compliments you on something, as opposed to just asking where you shop and get your hair done, he is probably flirting with you. But beware of this sign, because sometimes a guy could just be looking to network or make new friends. [Read: 15 compliments he’ll remember forever]

#3 Humor. If a random guy goes out of his way to make you laugh or feel comfortable, he is probably flirting with you. If he’s a friend, don’t look too much into it. If he’s a friend with a girlfriend, get the hell out of there, before you assume the worst and he ends up confirming it.

#4 Attention. Some guys don’t know how to flirt, so they will try to compensate by just being in your presence. They might talk to you about anything random, but they need a little more help, if they want to express their true feelings.

[Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

What happens after a person flirts with you?

When it is all said and done – flirting, I mean – you and your potential partner can either decide to start dating or have a little fun. The catch is that, while you are seeing each other or spending time together, the flirting will continue.

The difference when you are flirting with a stranger and a person you’re involved with would be the frequency and the necessity. Flirting with a stranger doesn’t have to be long and arduous. Your goal is to get someone’s attention – not keep it.

When you are in a relationship, you will be required to flirt continuously, in order to make your relationship work. That does not mean that you have to prepare a pick-up line every time your partner gets out of bed in the morning. It just means that you need to keep the romance alive for the rest of your time together.

Couples give compliments to each other and praise each other’s accomplishments. They remember special days in their lives. They make each other feel cheesy, sappy and happy all at the same time. A loving relationship is filled with flirting – just not the kind you use to pick up a person at a bar.

Why do some people suddenly stop flirting?

If you are in a loving and affectionate relationship, flirting will never get tiresome. But some people are surprised when it suddenly stops, even before the relationship begins. It can be confusing, humiliating and painful, especially when you’ve developed feelings for the person you’re flirting with.

There is no single or definite reason why a person suddenly stops flirting. The only thing that you can be sure about is this: They don’t want to flirt with you anymore. It is usually their own decision, but some instances probably made them decide that it was not a good idea anymore.

If you are still wondering why it happened to you, here are some possibilities that can give you an idea why a person suddenly stops flirting with you:

#1 They found someone else. This is the most common reason why people suddenly stop flirting. They probably don’t want to hurt you, and would rather not make a big deal about it.

#2 They realized that they don’t like you that much. It hurts, but a person won’t make an effort to flirt once they don’t want to be involved with someone anymore.

#3 They got tired of it. Maybe it wasn’t in their personality to flirt at all in the first place. People can get tired of flirting when they’re forced to do it in a way that they’re not used to.

#4 They need to think things through. Sometimes a person can just shut down when they’re faced with something really important. If they think that things are moving too fast, they might just take a step back in order to assess the situation. [Read: 11 reasons he hasn’t called you back]

#5 They need to take care of some personal stuff. There are things that might have happened that does not involve you. It could be a family emergency, a work issue or maybe they’re just busy.

#6 They don’t know how to proceed. Flirting is just the beginning. If a person does not know how to move forward with your flirtation, they could retreat, until they find out what to do about the situation.

#7 They thought you weren’t flirting back. Flirting is a two-way street. You don’t have to be overly attentive or aggressive, but you do have to respond with the same sentiment. A guy can might decide to stop flirting with you, if they don’t understand or notice that you’re flirting right back.

What do I do when it happens to me?

Just be honest. It’s as simple as that. If you are asking this question, it means that you are probably feeling confused or hurt about the situation. It is only natural to feel that way, especially when you start liking someone.

You have nothing to lose if you ever decide to confront the person you were flirting with. A little bump on your pride and ego shouldn’t deter you from getting the answers you need. [Read: The crucial guide to surviving the hookup culture]

So, don’t worry if someone decides to stop flirting with you. That just means that you now have more time to flirt with someone who really cares.

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