20 Sure Reasons Why a Guy Could Be Ignoring You!

reasons why a guy could be ignoring you

Is a guy you really like ignoring you? You’d definitely know why he’s behaving this way using this list of 20 reasons why he could be avoiding you!

Is a guy ignoring you or giving you the cold shoulder all of a sudden?

I get it, it feels miserable.

But to actually get to the bottom of it all, and try to bring some meaning to all the confusion, you need to clear the clutter in your mind, and think rationally.

Before we go any further, here are a few questions you need to ask yourself.

Just how exactly is this guy ignoring you? Can you think of the ways?

Did he show interest in pursuing you at some point in time, only to ignore you completely right now?

Does he say he loves you, and yet, ignores you?

Understanding why and just how you’re being ignored can actually help you streamline your thoughts and focus on the problem, without really letting the other confusions get in the way.

[Read: Why isn’t he asking you out? – 17 reasons why!]

Why does a guy ignore a girl?

As a guy, I can tell you this straight away. Guys don’t ignore girls, especially if they like them.

It’s not easy for a guy to play hard to get, and it’s almost impossible for a guy to tease a girl and ignore her if he truly likes her. Of course, if he’s just toying with her feelings, then perhaps, he may find it pretty easy to take it easy, play it smooth and mess her mind up until he drives her crazy in love!

But in all other circumstances, guys almost always wear their hearts on their sleeve, and they’re pretty vocal about their feelings for a girl they consider special. [Read: How guys really fall in love – The 7 stages of love for men]

The 3 big questions to ask yourself

So if you believe a guy you like is actually ignoring you, you need to ask yourself these three questions in the first place.

#1 Is he really ignoring you? Has he shown significant interest in you that leads you to believe he has feelings for you in the first place? Or were both of you just in a scenario where he had to spend time with you, and now that the moment has passed, he’s moved on with his own life? [Read: 20 circumstances when a guy may never ever want to date you]

#2 Why do you think he’s ignoring you? Did you notice any clear signs recently? Is it something you said? Focus on all the ways he’s ignoring you, and ask yourself if you’re sure you are being ignored. And try to recollect the time period when he started backing away from you.

#3 Does it matter? This is the most important part of it all. Of course, it hurts and annoys you that you’re being ignored by a guy you think is pretty special. But in the grand scheme of things, does it matter to you? Do you see this guy as an integral part of your future? And finally, is he worth the effort you’re putting into trying to understand why he’s ignoring you? [Read: 20 ways to stop thinking about someone you still like a lot!]

Do you really need to know why?

Sometimes, trying to understand why a guy is ignoring you is just not worth the effort. You could ask him, but in all probability *if he’s truly ignoring you*, he may just lie to you and pretend like everything’s normal. *while continuing to ignore you at the same time!*

So, the bottom line here is that you can never really know why he’s being distant for sure.

But here’s the catch, the reasons why a guy ignores a girl aren’t many. And unless this guy is from another planet, in all probability, you’ll know just why he’s choosing to pretend you don’t exist just by reading a few signs and making your own deductions. [Confession: I miss him so much but I don’t think he misses me at all!]

20 sure reasons why a guy could be ignoring you

When a man ignores a woman, there’s a very good chance that it’s just one of these 20 reasons. Sometimes, it could be more than just one of these 20 reasons too. Now all you need to do is read these 20 signs and using the earlier questions, try to see where this guy fits in the scenario of the ignoring game.

#1 He’s losing interest in you slowly. He was infatuated by you when he first met you, but as time passed, he’s probably getting bored or has found something better to do.

#2 You misunderstood him. He isn’t interested in you in the first place. He never really liked you “that way” but you just misunderstood him and assumed he was in love with you. [Read: Does he like you? – 18 body language clues that’ll give the truth away!]

#3 Light love. He’s more easy going about love, and takes it easy in the relationship. He probably doesn’t read fairy tales or romance novels, and doesn’t really think a relationship is that big of a deal just yet.

#4 Awkward! He doesn’t really like you, and feels too awkward to admit it. He’s flirted with you, but now his wise mind has convinced him that ignoring you is a better alternative to telling you that he’s not interested.

#5 The good life. He’s got something more exciting going on in his life, and he’s forgotten about you, at least at this point in time.

#6 Confusions. He’s confused about his feelings for you, and he’s decided that taking a step back and avoiding you for a while can give him the time he needs to make up his mind. [Read: How to read mixed signals from a guy and turn it into love]

#7 Expectations. You think he ignores you if he calls you over the phone less than three times a day. He thinks speaking to each other once a day is being clingy! Both of you have different expectations from each other, and one of you ends up feeling ignored.

#8 Moral dilemma. He’s cheating on his girlfriend or wife with you, and as the noose gets tighter around his neck, he thinks walking away from you is the best thing he can do. [Read: A guy with a girlfriend likes you… now what?!]

#9 He doesn’t care. He’s probably not ignoring you intentionally. He just doesn’t care enough about you to think about you or your opinions.

#10 Space. You’re too clingy and needy, and he just wants his space. And you think he’s ignoring you. [Read: 13 clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid them]

#11 Imbalanced love. You just love him more than he does. And no matter what you do, you’ll always be the one feeling miserable. [Read: The 20 kinds of lovers that exist in the world]

#12 The busy guy. He’s truly busy, and as much as he wants to spend time with you, he’s just got other priorities that need his time and attention.

#13 The love triangle. He’s started liking someone else, and you’re taking up less space in his thoughts. [Read: Love triangles and its confusing complications]

#14 Not into you. He was never into you, and you’ve just been misreading the signs all the while.

#15 The honorable guy. He’s realized that you actually like him and he doesn’t want to lead you on.

#16 Priorities. Both of you have evolved over time. He has different priorities in life now, and you’ve just been dropped down a notch or two. [Read: Should you ever make someone a priority when you’re only an option to them?]

#17 You’re too easy.  Sometimes, a guy likes a good chase to know that a girl is worth it. And now that he’s snagged you easily, he doesn’t find wooing you or impressing you much of a challenge. [Read: How to attract a guy and make him stay in a way he can’t resist!]

#18 Wandering eyes. He thinks the grass is greener on the other side. Even though he likes you and thinks you’re a very nice person, he thinks he can find someone better.

#19 The scary kind of love. He likes you too much, and it scares him. He thinks it’s better to ignore you now, than fall madly in love with you and get walked all over by you in future because he doesn’t believe you would love him back. [Read: How to get a shy guy to talk to you and ask you out]

#20 He’s just a selfish guy. He’s used you, and now he’s over you. He probably hops from one girl to another. He sees no reason to stay in touch with you and pretend like he cares!

Reading these 20 reasons why a guy could be ignoring you can hurt. And just writing it down makes me feel bad about it. But you know what, we’ve all been there. Now all you need to ask yourself is what you intend to do about it. [Read: 13 easy ways to avoid falling in love with someone you like]

Is this guy worth pursuing? Or should you keep some distance and ignore him back?

There’s a big chance that ignoring him in return may actually make him want you back, just when you’re on the verge of completely getting over him! Sucks, but almost always true!

[Read: How to stop feeling ignored by the one you love – 10 simple steps!]

Use these 20 reasons why a guy could be ignoring you, and ask yourself where you fit in the picture. And now that you can decode what’s on this guy’s mind, ask yourself if pursuing a guy who ignores you is worth the effort at the end of the day.

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23 thoughts on “20 Sure Reasons Why a Guy Could Be Ignoring You!”

  1. ignoredgirl says:

    Good article
    Just what I needed to help me make a decision

  2. E says:

    I had this girl who approached me and her energy was so intense and she was so close to me I freaked out and ran away lmao.
    She started working in my area and now I’ve just blatantly ignored her & I feel like complete crap about because I think I might be madly in love with her and I’m in denial.
    Almost like I know something is going to happen and she seems flirtatious and when I sense it I run away.
    I got a girlfriend and been with her for over 15years and have had some back and forth issues with trust when I caught her talking to many other guys more than one occasion thru few years & when it happened a part of me felt like it was extremely needy and now I got trust issues with her we have split few times but I always went back why I dunno.

    I want to smooth it over with this other girl but I’m scared even more now because she has done everything she can to pull me in & I feel like when I see her I got this bitter skowl on my face and she sees it and thinks I dislike her & it hurts that I act the way I do. I jus don’t want to lead her on & then back away or nowhere for it to go as I would feel more disappointed there was no where to go with it:( (yes a man with morals )
    Seems all these women keep trying to get some grand reaction out of me @work & now I’ve out up some ruthless guard because I feel like I’ve been talked about & I’m over the top nice so much it made me sick & ppl make me out to be this absolute prince & maybe in a sense I am. But I hate being made a big deal about and don’t like large amount of attention because I’ve been extremely shy most of my life.
    What ppl are making the big deal out of annoys me because its my heart on my sleeve and when Things in my current relationship are sour that part of me comes to life & it’s 2 sides of me an extremely flirtatious and over the top kind person which must be my part of my ego. So for all the women who think he ignored me he doesn’t like me YOUR WRONG! I like her a lot but my morals are extremely strong & I can’t be acting flirtatious if there isn’t anywhere for it to go. My only fear is by the time. (if there is a time)
    it might be she will have moved on if she hasn’t already & that intense feeling when I see her will be gone:/
    It’s hard being in a not to good long term relationship and having feelings for someone else especially when you’ve never said but a few words to them.
    It gets worse and I want to stop avoiding her but don’t want her to think I’m some player either:( decisions. I’m so back n forth about my relationship I feel like going off the deep end.

    If your being ignored by a guy like me then u got no idea that deep down I want it to be. sad Ate up fool I am. Should I stop ignoring her or just act the way I feel.?

  3. cheryl jean ingram says:

    Men ignoring women so! Does not drive us crazy in love. It pisses us off until we give up permanently and find someone worthy of our efforts.

  4. D says:

    To E… On Dec.15th
    Wow!!…i say go for it….you only live once….I’m learning that right now at 44….im currently being “ignored” by a guy…I’m going to step back and give him space…i think his feelings are very deep for me and he’s not sure of what the hell to do…space.space….ill give the man space
    As for you if you not happy with your current gf then why stay?..comfort?…change??.nobody likes change but it is a empowering feeling to change….I’m in the process too…good luck

  5. AppleCinnamon88 says:

    I don’t know what’s wrong but I think I’m just going to disappear now. It really hurts my feelings alot but Im sure I’ll be ok soon. This guy has been amazing, dating for 4 mos. and we talk almost every day. Everything has been smooth, no cracks along the way. But he’s been slow fading all of the sudden and it sucks. I sent him a text message that was funny, a joke that was between me and him and he read it but didn’t say anything back. I sent him another message 2 days later and asked if he wanted to talk and I got nothing..air silence. Right before I sent the joke, he had messaged me saying that he missed me, sent hearts, told me how special I was, made plans and blah blah blah. I responded like I normally do and it took him 2 days to reply. I asked him if I was bothering him too much and if he need some space. He said that I could never bother him and that he’s always glad to hear from me. Then I sent the joke and he didn’t respond. Then I asked if we could talk and, again, nothing. So its been 4 days since then, still no word from him. I understand that we all have our own ways of dealing with things so I won’t get too mad at him. He could be dealing with something that I don’t know about. But not responding to our inside joke is just…well, is sending a harsh signal. All in all, even if he disappears for good. I am very glad that I met him. He really was one of the best guys I’ve ever met and I enjoyed my time with him. I do appreciate how good he was to me in those 4 months. I just wish he could’ve talked to me about what’s going on. I don’t know, maybe he’s noticing that things are getting serious and is backing away. That’s kind of sad when you think about it. But if that’s what he wants, then so be it. I just hope he knows that I’ve never been easy to get back a second time around. You can ask my 2 ex boyfriends who both haven’t stopped trying to get me back and its been years since we broke up. Men are always surprised because Im so nice and easy going, they think that means they can come back when they like. They’re always in total shock when that isn’t the case. So depending on how long he disappears, I will definitely be straightforward with him and tell him that his behavior greatly effected our relationship.

  6. Tine says:

    I have a HUGE crush on a guy who I have met and known for a good three weeks. We caught each other’s eyes the first day we met and we both caught feelings for each other, we started of with friends with benefits (no sex) but just kissing and things like that until the moment my feelings grew stronger for him! I told him about it and he said he feels the same way *im hoping he was being honest* but he says I feel the same way too but love takes time! We use to hard out talk and things like that but sadly now he’s been ignoring me and doesn’t text me as much and I don’t know why! It’s seriously hurting me????????????

  7. Tiffany says:

    So me and my husband have been seperated since november. I left because he started staying gone all the time and leaving me alone with no way to get anywhere and he would never talk to me while he was gone. After four months of not talking at all and him not being around for my pregnancy we finally started talking again, only because I followed him and made him talk to me. We have talked abt four times the past month and each time we talk he acts like he wants to work things out. He will say that he wants to work things out but he needs time to think abt it or that he thinks if he gets back with me ill just leave again in a few months. When we are done talking and I leave he gives me a hug and a kiss everytime and tells me he loves me and that he will talk to me the next day to give me an answer on if we are gonna work things out or not and then I never hear from him. He just refuses to talk to me. He doesnt call or answer his phone or reply to texts even if they are about the baby. I dont understand why he makes it seem like he wants to work things out and kisses me and tells me he loves me when I leave just to completely ignore me once im gone??? Seriously we are having a baby together at the end of may and we are married so why is he acting like that?! We need to figure things out before the baby is born.

  8. M says:

    I just don’t understand… Why not be honest with each other? In the name of humanity!
    I mean… No one like being hurt, but sometimes… It hurts less when a guy who keep ignoring you just tells you … That he’s busy with his life and there’s no place for you.. It hurts less! Because it’s once and for all. And you’re done. You can recover, move on.
    But when a guy ignores you but still sometimes reply that he’s busy, got serious problems …
    Without explaining anything. Without asking how are you doing… That’s just wrong!
    Especially when a guy can see clearly that she’s worried and she cares about him.
    The perfect answer I ever got was that he’s just switching off sometimes.
    But he want me in his life. Then he’s ignoring me again. But got time to change a profile pic, got time to check Instagram photos.. But he hasn’t got time to reply.
    I’m a very patient person, but so very intense…
    And emotional. Easy to hurt. And I can’t even say anything about his ignoring me because when i do that it pushes him more further. But I just can’t take it no more.
    He wasn’t like that. I don’t know him long enough… But I know he’s a shy and private person? Afraid to get close to anyone. With trust issues, and bad habits.
    But I’ve accepted all his weirdness, I was patient, I was kind.
    But all I got was words like he doesn’t need anybody.
    And he assures me that I don’t need him. And he’s not good for me.
    Well that’s great. But why he decides what’s best for me? Bullshit.
    The real meaning of words like that is that I’m not good for him. He had fun, liked my company, but he doesn’t care enough. He needs to focus on his life. And I’m no longer fun cause I have expectations. So I end up hoping I’ll hear from him again… And I still try to make him text me … But it’s not going to happen. The truth is, if he’d wanted it … He would do it cause he used to. An now … Well, I guess for him long term friends lasts no longer than 6 months. Before even getting to know me well.
    I fell broken. I’d rather get a text with a goodbye than no answer or lies instead.

  9. Tlynn says:

    I met this guy when I least expected it. We both graduated the same year and never knew each other at the time. Twenty years later we meet at a grocery store in town of all places. I’ve played the romance game a couple of times before, but this was so very different. I felt my heart click, then a bang like a starter pistol. It’s not something I can define as a crush. It was too fast to be one. When I think of a crush, I think of something gradual. He is not the type of guy I would normally have my eyes on. There is just something about him though which caught my attention. He’s incredibly sweet and very sensitive, unbelievably artistic which is what got me hooked when I first saw his name mentioned. Since September, things have been pretty crazy. He has helped me tremendously in seeing the light within our own town. He broke down my ice fortress which I had put up for over two decades by making a move that changed me for the better. I absolutely adore him for who he is and how he treats others around him. His own mom says he has a shy streak. Things started to get a little odd about him starting in December when I wanted to get my picture taken with him. Nothing bad. Just a nice shot of me and my new friend. He panicked. In February, we had a misunderstanding where I expressed my disappointment in something he had done. I saw him at the end of the month and he apologized to me profusely, at least three times and blurted out how the last thing he would ever want to do is upset me. He went on to say how “He would be one of the nicest guys I would ever know.” After that, he clammed up. I saw him a couple of weeks ago at two back-to-back events. He didn’t know I would be there. When I said a simple “Hello” to him, he looked at me shocked. We chatted only very little. I get along magnificently with his parents to the point at this event his father hugged me, then his mom did. He did give me a hug at the end of the night. The second event he was very cold. His demeanor had changed when I tried to talk to him. He only answered me with very short responses. I give him lots of room. I’m not a clingy gal at all. I’m very old fashioned and never make the first move. Oddly though, as much as I have kept my distance from him, he has wound up standing either directly in back of me to chat with someone or has stood side by side with me when I least expected it. There were plenty of places for him to sit or stand instead. When it comes to social media, he won’t “like” any of my posts or comments. He simply shut off for no reason. We were at another event this week and this time I gave him the cold shoulder. It hurt like hell, but I knew it was something I had to do. I truly do adore him though. I simply can not figure out why he’s doing this to me. Is it shyness? Is he really cold? Does he have any kind of feelings for me? Did he feel something the moment we met too? I do not know what I did wrong in the first place.

  10. tiara says:

    there is this guy that i like. he has been our neighbor since i was 12. our parents are best friends and we had a very close friendship. he is a nice guy and everyone loves him because after ten years of trying to have a child finally his mom got pregnant with him and he is considered a miracle. we were the type that bantered all the time jokingly and all that but we never really hurt each other. I moved to another country with my family but we visited every year and our parents being best friends always hanged out and so did we. untill 3 years ago everything was good. but one day we got into a big fight but the next year i visited home everything was fine and went back to the way it was. so last summer i went back again and all of a sudden he was ignoring me and only me. he was okay with others. it was very weird sometimes joked around but it was so rare of him to ignore me like that. and he is not like that with others im very confused and because of my feelings for him im afraid of asking him why he is ignoring me. it really hurts me, i want us to be friends again even if i cant have him romantically i want to go back t being good friends.

  11. CD says:

    Your missing a lot from this, what about the possibility of the guy being mad at the girl or heard her friends talk bad about you, which has turned the person off

  12. DonShady says:

    didn’t you forget somethin that it’s waaay more important than some of there..
    #21 You’ve hurt him too much : he loved you so much and you didn’ show some love back , he finally knows that there is no way to live happy with you hurtin him and he decided to disappear and wait for time to heal him. you are a bitch

  13. Debasish Mishra says:

    Damn Right !! and this post is basically portraying a thing that they guy has lost interest in the girl…yeah well no one likes to eat shit everyday…
    there is a saying A guy should love less and understand more & A girl should understand less and love more…..there are bad guys Yes….but a clap cant be formed by just using one hand…..

  14. DonShady says:

    True, but i just had to say that so girls know that sometimes it’s probably becuz of somethin they did and it’s up the them to fix it.

  15. Melissa says:

    Hmmm, this is sad. But it made me think, for sure. Articles like this are definitely interesting to read. Thanks!

  16. Scarlett Erza says:

    Now I’m more confused than ever. At first he was very into me. We talked a lot. We enjoyed being together. We have a lot of things in common. Even playing video games- like fifa. For he’s the star player and the team captain of his club. My messages for him were all answered. But all of the sudden for somehow he just ignored. He’s not answering my messages anymore. But whenever I ignored him in return or hinted him I was not feeling good when he’s ignoring me. He immediately apologized. And just when I thought we’re good again, he ignored me again. There was a time when I didn’t send him any message, but a day before his birthday he replied my message that I sent him more than 2 weeks ago. Like he’s reminding me that tomorrow’s his birthday. I always have a gift for him for his birthday. He even included a smiley face icon with blush, when he didn’t do it before and he didn’t do the same to others who messaged him on his timeline. I thought maybe he was just mistaken. I don’t know. I thought, “Maybe he likes me, too.” But according to our common friend, he said he needed time for himself. He just wanted to be alone for now. He wanted to be wiser in choosing the woman to love. His ex-girlfriend cheated on him before. And the last girl he dated had another boyfriend. When he thought he was the only guy in her life. He was badly hurt. His friends tried to introduce him to other girls and did set up date for them, but he kept on refusing. And he said he’s not in hurry to have a girlfriend and focus on his career for now.

  17. Jr says:

    how about this one? she has had to much dick and he lost interest – doesnt want to lead her on. lel

  18. help? says:

    so this guy defentily likes me because he told me lol he at first was saying talking to my crush hint hint cough (you) to wyd and i said hey on snapchat and he saw it and hasnt answeredd for 30 mins sometimes he answers fast, a few to 10 mins but this time 30 mins and hes asked me if i would rather kiss him or somene i like and i told him idk cuz i talk to him on text and snapchat but not a school yet so i told him i really didnt know and said sorry if i am sounding needy but i need to know because a lot of girls play me and that he didnt want to sound like a jerk and that he trusted me but this morning he didnt answer and on snapchat you can see when they answer maybe im just worring to much but any ideas….

  19. Emily says:

    These all sound like douchey reasons to ignore someone. Also why bother with a guy like that? He sounds like a total and complete, selfish asshole.

  20. Lily says:

    So there’s this guy that I sit next to in lab which my friends claims “likes” me. Ever since then, I’ve been started to observe his behavior around me. We’re always walking towards each other in lab and we’d have eye contact with each other. He always says, “We’re a team.” He’d slide in between me and this other guy when we were talking and asked me if I could share a slide with him. He’d help me out. Just in general he’s been within my space and view. And my close friends would tell me that he’d come closer to me and one of us would pull away from each other. But all of a sudden, he was ignoring me in lab the other day by talking to one of my close friends and to the 2 other guys in our group. I started to feel just a little pang in my heart that other day because he was just doing his own work and not really helping me as usual. But then towards the end of lab, I wanted to ask him for a car ride home which he agreed to do. But then this other guy in our group offered me a ride instead because he lived closer to me. I may have started to develop some feelings for him…but at this point, my heart and mind is still confused.

  21. rpr says:

    yeah, surprised this one wasnt in there. if a girl doesnt reciprocate, if she ignores him, disrespects him, even if she might have shown signs of interest at points, a guy in their right mind will not stand for it. guys, like girls, dont want their efforts humiliated and their hearts broken. this should really be amended into the article

  22. bellab6 says:

    this is the most stupid article i have ever read (i can say this because i am backed up by my brother)
    boys can still be into you. Some boys can be really shy! and some actually can be playing hard to get… all these theorys are just driven by negatives that you are too easy or clingy or he is a douche, there are other more positive ideas rather than ones that will make you loose hope…
    all in all, this article is trash and maybe you should ASK him what the matter is

  23. Insidious Sid says:

    #22 She comes across as any one of the following: Selfish, entitled, spoiled, flighty, psycho, dramatic, or just your basic attention seeker judging by the number of men circling around her at any given moment. Some women are just not worth all the competition and fuss, even though her girlfriends will always tell her how amazing she is.

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