I know the perks of dating me, but do you know just how spectacular you are? Only when you know yourself can you prove your worth to someone else.
We would all love to be a supermodel, but not all of us can be. Contrary to what most of us think, guys aren’t looking for the most beautiful woman to date. They look for a woman who grants them unconditional love, support, and is a little less critical than girls can often be. To supply that in a relationship is sometimes easier said than done.
No one is perfect, but there are things only you possess that no one else can or does, and that’s one of the perks of dating you. Specifically, because you are uniquely you. If you want to let a guy know the perks of dating you, show him what sets you apart from the rest of your kind.
Awesome perk-filled traits
Because girls have a tendency to act in a certain way, if you are different, point the differences out. When you are genuinely you, if you are not highly critical, you love with all that you are, and willing to forgive misdeeds easily, those are some of your best traits.
If you are not uptight, but fun and spontaneous, you are as good as golden. If you possess any of these 20 perk-filled traits, say them loud and say them proud!
#1 I will always support you. Guys want to know that no matter what they do, you will support them. They already have a mom and dad who are there to guide and mold them. Supporting them, without trying to change them, is what makes you a perk to his life. [Read: How to be the best girlfriend: 25 ways to leave him addicted]
#2 I think you are awesome. One of the biggest perks a guy can have is a girlfriend who thinks they are awesome. Of course, you aren’t always going to love everything about them, but on the whole, you tell them all the things you love continually, instead of pointing out all the things they can improve on—that is a huge perk.
#3 No matter how mad I get I will still love you. Unconditional love means loving someone even if they aren’t easy to love. When they are grumpy, ill-willed, or sometimes downright mean, a perk is to know you may not like them 100% of the time, but you love the essence of who they are.
#4 I promise not to cheat on you. The biggest perk that comes with any girlfriend is the one that doesn’t have the ability to cheat. Some girls have the capacity to jump ship from one guy to another when things get difficult, but if that just isn’t in your nature, then you are definitely a keeper. [Read: How to stop cheating for good: Let us count the ways]
#5 I want nothing from you but your love. There is a difference between loving someone for what they can do for you and loving them because of who they are inside. The perks of dating me are that I want nothing from you but a smile, some laughter, and someone to love me at the end of the day—always.
#6 I won’t smother you. The thing that turns a guy off the most is being smothered. Although we don’t consider it choking, not letting him go to guy’s night, requiring “talking about serious stuff” all the time, and asking questions, are not things guys don’t gain security or pleasure out of. If you are independent and happy on your own, but choose to be with him, that is a perk.
#7 I know what I want. I won’t say one thing one minute and then change it up the next. The perks of dating a girl like me are that you get the same, no matter what time of day or day of the month. I know what I want, period. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]
#8 I can be both serious and spontaneous. I can fly to Aruba for the weekend or sit on the couch for weeks on end. Whatever stage our relationship is in, I roll with it. The best part is that if I see a lull, I shake it up too.
#9 I try my best always to be kind. One of the perks of dating someone like me is no matter how pissed I get, and I can get PISSED, I always try to be kind and not say things I can’t take back. My motto is you can’t put a bandage on emotions, so don’t create wounds with actions or words.
#10 I am not a nag. I am not your mother. If you want to stay out until two am, I am not your Captain Obvious. Lay in bed and be miserable without me rubbing it in your face. You are a grown ass man, if you don’t always act like it, that is on you. No nagging here.
#11 I understand when you need space and respect it. One of the biggest perks of dating a girl like me, is that I know that sometimes when you get quiet, you aren’t thinking of me. I am not like other girls who believe that I am your universe. If you need time to be alone and decompress, go ahead and have it. I can find plans of my own.
#12 You always come first. My guy always comes first. If you need me I am there, no questions asked.
#14 I care about me. I am not maintaining my weight to keep you, I am exercising and working out because I care about me. If I am overweight and don’t feel good about myself, I won’t be very happy or nice to those around me. You don’t have to worry about me getting comfortable and settling for sweat pants *don’t even own them*.
#15 I won’t pressure you. If you aren’t ready for a long-term relationship or commitment, I won’t pressure you into it. Just remember, as many perks as there is to dating me, some other guy sees them too. So, if you wait too long, it is on you.
#16 I can hang with the guys. If you bring me along, I won’t be that annoying female who keeps asking questions about the game, or cheering like I really give a shit. I can just chill, hang out, and be one of the guys, which includes keeping my mouth shut.
#17 I don’t have to be the center of attention. Girls like attention, but I am not one of those girls who do anything for it. I won’t start a fight or create drama to get you to see me. The biggest perk of dating me is I am secure enough not to need all eyes on me. [Read: 25 ways to say “I appreciate you” without using words]
#18 I don’t emoji. If you can’t read what I am saying without knowing my intentions, then I say it to your face. A perk to me is that I think emojis are nothing short of passive aggressive emotions shoved in your face. If you have to add an emoji, likely, you are saying something nasty and want it to sound sweet.
#19 I won’t blow up your phone. I have a life too. I won’t be texting you 24 hours a day about trivial things you don’t care about. If I see something funny, I will certainly share. But, if I want to talk, I find that the mouth works much better. [Read: 10 big annoying girlfriend habits that guys hate]
#20 I don’t have a crazy ass family. I am not a daddy’s girl or following in my mom’s drama footsteps. I don’t have a brother who is obsessively overprotective or a sister who can’t wait to get her hands on you. When you date me, you don’t date my crazy family. In fact, you either really like them or probably rarely see them.
Girls are pretty predictable, and we all do some pretty irritating and annoying things. If you are one of the good ones who doesn’t come with drama attached, that is definitely a perk to any guy. It is okay to sell yourself sometimes. Not like really “sell” yourself *unless that is what you want to do* but sell yourself by pointing out all the reasons why you would make the best girlfriend ever.