Although guys are usually easy to figure out, some women aren’t so sure. Use these 16 signs to know for sure if a guy who’s around is attracted to you.
You must be somewhat familiar with NBC’s classic hit television sitcom, FRIENDS. If you’re not, it’s never too late to jump on the bandwagon. One of the recurring characters is Gunther, the sweet manager of the Central Perk coffee shop, who was totally in love with Rachel Green, one of the main characters.
Over the span of 10 seasons, we witnessed him doing everything, from watching her from afar, to adopting her cat—despite being allergic to felines. If Rachel had been paying any attention at all, she may have just ended up with Gunther instead of Ross.
My point is, sometimes you have to pay attention to the signs if you want to know if a guy is attracted to you. Some guys are afraid of getting shot down, and won’t come right out and say that they like you. Instead, they will drop hints left, right, front, and center, in the hopes that you’ll notice and make a move. In the end, it’s up to you to decide if you want to pull a Rachel or take a guy’s interest to the next level.
Whether you like him back or not, there’s really no harm in knowing if a man is attracted to you. If you play your cards right, you may even be able to use this newfound knowledge to your advantage. Just be sure not to hurt anyone in the process, because karma can be a real bitch. [Read: 11 ways to know if a guy is into you but is too chicken to admit it]
16 clear signs to know for sure if he’s attracted to you
Once you are absolutely sure that he likes you, you can make a move accordingly. Here are 16 giveaways to watch out for:
#1 He only has eyes for you. There may a hundred other people in the room, but you’ll know when a guy likes you if he only has eyes for you. A Giselle Bundchen lookalike may walk by, and he probably wouldn’t even notice her. That’s when you know that you’re at the center of his world. He’ll also hang off your every word, laugh at your jokes, and find every excuse to be by your side as often as he can without coming off as creepy.
#2 He initiates communication. It could be anything, from sending you a hello email, to a how-are-you text message, to just walking up to you at a party. In any case, you’ll know that he likes you when he makes the first move to contact you. He’s unconsciously marking his territory and letting you know that he exists. [Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]
#3 He is always happy to see you. The same way you would be excited to see your crush, he’ll light up when you walk into a room. You can tell if he genuinely enjoys your company, as it will shine through in his face and body language. He’ll seem very happy to see you and will pepper the ensuing conversation with stuff like, “Wow, I’m so glad you could make it,” and “I was worried that I would miss out on the pleasure of your company.”
#4 He finds reasons to make physical contact. When a man is attracted to a woman, he’ll make every effort to touch her. If he places his hand on the small of your back, you’ll know that he likes you. If he leans in close while talking to you, he probably likes you. If he makes an effort to stand close to you the entire time you’re near, he definitely likes you. Everything, from the subtlest hand brush, to leaning into your personal space when chatting, are signs that he is attracted to you. [Read: 13 signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
#5 He dotes on you. A surefire way to tell if he’s attracted to you is to take note of how often he dotes on you. For example, you’re at a party and he makes a beeline towards you to say hi, he doesn’t leave your side, he engages you in conversation throughout the night, he always gets you a drink, and at the end of the night, he walks you back to your car. These little actions are signs of his affection. When a man shows that he cares about your comfort and safety, it proves that he’s interested.
#6 He finds excuses to stick around. One guy wanted to ditch plans with his best mates who were in town for the weekend, just so he could take me to the airport. I knew how important the meet-up was to him and didn’t accept his offer, but I knew that he was interested the moment he made up an excuse to spend time with me instead of them.
#7 He plans outings. It’s a fact that people only make an effort to spend time with those they care about. If a guy plans an outing, and invites you and no one else along, he probably likes you. For example, he will invite you for an excursion that he could very well do alone, such as heading to IKEA to pick out shower curtains. He will find any excuse to get you to spend time with him, even if it’s doing something as silly as furniture shopping. The invitation is usually coupled with a plea for help or advice. [Read: 15 ways to tell someone likes you for sure without asking them about it]
#8 He practices chivalry. You will know that a guy is attracted to you when he shows it through chivalry. Guys know that women love being pampered, so they’ll try to be a gentleman as often as they can. Holding doors open, pulling out chairs, and letting you order first are several examples. He’s trying to impress you, so just go along for the ride and enjoy it.
#9 He makes an effort to look good. Women aren’t the only ones who preen and primp for a crush. If a guy likes you, there’s a very good chance that he’ll make an effort to look and smell good for you, especially when he doesn’t do it on a regular basis.
#10 He wants to know more. He’ll ask you about your likes and dislikes, and he’ll be very curious about your background. He’ll want to know everything about you, such as what you do for a living, where you grew up, and all of that basic, background information. He will dig around to find out more about you in his bid to figure out if he should pursue you. Think of it as him doing primary research. [Read: 10 super subtle gestures that someone’s really into you]
#11 You catch him watching you. It’s not easy hiding the fact that you like someone, because you won’t be able to take your eyes off them. Guys are no different. If he likes you, you’ll catch him looking at you all the time. If he’s feeling particularly brazen, he’ll even make eye contact and hold your gaze.
#12 He shares his feelings. When a guy shares personal details with you, there’s a chance he’s attracted to you—or, at the very least, is very comfortable with you. Sharing is his way of connecting with you on another level. The moment a guy bares his soul to you and seeks your advice, you can bet that he’s somewhat interested.
#13 He compliments you. If he likes you, he’ll compliment you as often as he can. You can expect sweet comments on your looks, on how soft your skin is, on how pretty your eyes are, on how great you smell, and all the usual suspects.
#14 He is protective. While you may not be together, that’s not going to stop him from being a little jealous and protective. If he sees another guy talking to you, he’ll cut in or join the conversation. If he sees someone giving you a hard time, he’ll take things into his own hands, and won’t leave your side for the rest of the night.
#15 He uses body language. Paying attention to nonverbal communication is a great way to tell if he’s attracted to you. When standing, if you notice his arms are always at his side, with his open palms facing you, he’s projecting openness and willingness to have you close by. If his arms are crossed in front of his chest, then he’s not interested. When sitting, if he has his legs open, he’s unconsciously letting you know that he’s interested, whereas if his legs are crossed, you can count on the opposite. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]
#16 He aligns his interests with yours. When you notice a guy aligning his interests with yours, there’s a chance he’s attracted to you. An example is when you tell him how much you enjoy doing something, and he loves it too. Don’t feel creeped out; he’s just trying to let you know that you have stuff in common, and that if you ever wanted to, you’d have plenty of fun together. [Read: Does he like you? – 18 body language clues that just won’t go wrong]
It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that a guy is attracted to you. It gives you the power to determine if you want to pursue it and take things to the next level without worrying about getting laughed at. Plus, you get to enjoy being wooed and flirted with, which is always fun. Just be sure not to hurt him—or get hurt—in the process!