Ignoring a Guy: How to Do It Right and Leave Him Chasing You

ignoring a guy

Guys have a way of acting as if they don’t need us around. But, try ignoring a guy and see what happens. It is an excellent way to get him and keep him.

Often the hardest things to do meet with the best rewards. When it comes to getting a guy to fall head over heels in love, sometimes the way to his heart is not through his stomach but by getting under his skin. Ignoring a guy may be the best way to pique his interest and have him begging for your attention.

6 great arguments for ignoring a guy

Guys are predictable creatures. If you chase them, they run. If you are too needy, they pull away. Because if you aren’t a challenge, you aren’t as attractive. Perhaps for instinctual reasons, guys love the thrill of the hunt. If you don’t make yourself hunt-able then you aren’t all that alluring. If you ignore him, trust me, it drives him crazy.

#1 Bring out the “hunter” in him. Men really are the “hunters.” There is nothing they enjoy more than chasing after something they want that they can’t have or catch. If you ignore him and make him feel as if he can’t have you, he wants you even more. I know, totally dumb. But the thing he desires most is usually the thing he can’t have. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

#2 Ignore him if he craves power. Guys like to feel powerful and successful. If you are something unconquerable, it will be all he seeks. If you ignore a guy, he feels powerless to win you over.

Wanting to be in control, it literally drives him nuts that no matter how hard he tries, you just really don’t care enough to acknowledge him. If you worry that he will give up and quit, think again. Ignoring him only makes him work harder. [Read: How to make him worry about losing you]

#3 Make him think you are something special. Usually, when girls like a guy, they can’t do enough to get their attention. Flirting, they hang on a guy’s every word and make him feel super special about himself.

If you want a guy used to girls falling all over themselves to capture his eye, you must set yourself apart from the rest by being what all the other girls aren’t.

Ignoring him confuses him to no end. The girls he doesn’t want, can’t seem to tear themselves away, and the one that he does, doesn’t want anything to do with him. It makes him think there is something special that you alone possess. It makes him have to have you. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and leave him craving for you]

#4 Make him crave your attention. Let’s just be honest. Guys crave attention and admiration. If you pretend you couldn’t care less about him, it makes him work overtime to catch your eye.

The more he can’t have your attention, the more obsessive he becomes. Ignoring a guy is like making him wait to have sex with you. If you don’t let him have the attention he craves, he craves it that much more. [Read: How to make a guy realize he’s losing you]

#5 Teach him not to mess with you. If you’re in a relationship with a guy who either doesn’t give you enough attention or with a wandering eye, show him what it feels like for someone to discount his feelings or make him feel less than.

The only way to tame a guy who seemingly can’t be bothered with your relationship is to show him the sting of what it feels like when you dump his ass. Shutting him out and ignoring him altogether makes him think twice about what you really mean to him.

And, it also teaches him that if he can’t get his shit together and start treating you right, you have no problem walking away and saying goodbye. To hold onto him, make him believe he is disposable, and, also, you are not. [Read: 15 shitty ways to lead a guy on and dish out revenge]

#6 Ignore him to keep the peace. Sometimes you must ignore a guy to keep him in line. There are many men out there who like to push their girlfriend’s buttons, especially when they look for a little drama.

If you are with a guy who cyclically does things that make you want to jump out of your skin, the only way to deal with it is just to ignore the behavior. Just like with little kids, if you cease to acknowledge their bad behaviors, eventually they stop acting out.

If a guy learns he no longer gets a rise out of you because you learn to ignore him, likely, he stops doing whatever it is that drives you crazy. And maybe, just maybe, you find some peace in your relationship. [Read: How to play a player – 12 ways to return the favor like a boss]

Ignoring a guy is a super powerful tool to grab his attention, keep his attention, or curb his bad behavior. Although guys usually pretend like they couldn’t care less if women are around, try ignoring him. What you will find, is he needs you a whole lot more than he lets on.

If you try to capture the attention of a guy who could have any girl he wants, be the one that doesn’t give it to him. Ironically, that makes him want you more and more.

[Read: How to make a man chase you – 15 ways to make him fall hard]

The thing most guys want most is the thing they can’t have, so be that thing he can’t seem to catch by ignoring a guy.

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Julie Keating
Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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