How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You: 21 Ways to Charm Him
We all want guys we like to fall head over heels for us, but sometimes it’s more of a challenge. Here’s how to make a guy fall in love with you.
Let me tell you, if you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, well, isn’t as hard as you think it is. You’re probably trying to think of the algorithm, but there’s no need. I figured it out after many years of failure.
Just look at all the guys lining up at my door. I’m kidding, it’s just the pizza guy. I know, this is as good as it gets for me – at least he brings me food, right? True love.
Actually, when I was younger, I was handling guys the wrong way. I would stalk them *I still do, just changed it to virtual stalking*. I would constantly message them – I was perfecting the skills of looking creepy.
21 tips for how to make a guy fall in love with you
I learned from my mistakes, and there’s a reason why my first minor relationship was when I was 19-years-old. So, I’m here to help you surpass my amateur ways and get him ooh-ing and ahh-ing over you.
Like I said, there’s no algorithm to it. You just need to put yourself in their shoes.
#1 Don’t get discouraged. Maybe you’ve told him how you felt and he’s rejected you. I know, it hurts. Trust me, I told my best friend I loved him and I was not given an ideal response – it killed me. But listen, this doesn’t mean they don’t feel anything for you.
That also means you shouldn’t tie yourself to him. He could genuinely not be interested in you or there could be other reasons why he won’t come forward with his emotions. Whatever it is, do not lose hope on love, because whether it’s with him or not, you will find it. [Read: Want to be irresistible to me? 14 tips to hook any guy]
#2 Be yourself. I’m going to tell you things you should do, but listen, don’t do any of these things without being genuine. If you’re not yourself and you’re trying to get him to fall in love with you, it’s not going to work.
I mean, sure, you actually might get him to fall for you, but he won’t be falling for the real you. If you don’t like wearing makeup, then don’t wear makeup. If you have a high-paying job, don’t dumb it down so you can look less powerful. Whatever you are, just be you. This is the most important thing to know when learning how to make a guy fall in love with you. [Read: How to attract men in a way they can’t resist]
#3 Take care of your appearance. You don’t have to slap on a full face of makeup, but just look clean and presentable. Don’t take this as some sexist comment, it’s not. You want the guy you’re interested in to look clean and put-together as well, right? If you take pride in how you look, this shows that you’re confident – a huge turn on for men.
#4 Have mutual friends. The chances of falling in love when you have mutual friends are much higher. You trust your friends, and the friends that your friends have are usually very similar. Also, people trust their friends. So, if your friends tell him that you’re a great girl, there’s a higher chance for him to initiate something with you.
#5 It’s all in the smile. I know that girls are into mysterious guys. However, for men, it’s completely the opposite. It’s even scientifically proven that smiling increases your attractiveness to the opposite sex.
That being said, don’t do those phony smiles – that’s not fooling anyone. Plus, you look creepy if the smile doesn’t reach the eyes. This one is a pretty easy tip for how to make a guy fall in love with you. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]
#6 Show kindness. Men are looking for partners who are kind and nurturing. At the end of the day, we’re biologically wired to look for a suitable mate, so they’re subconsciously looking for mother material. Sorry to break the news. So, if you want him to see that you’re caring, show it. Now, don’t become a nun, but you can do something that shows your softer side.
#7 Mirror him. Yeah, who would have thought that this would work. Now, this doesn’t mean to mime him. For example, you can start by walking at the same pace as him. This subconsciously shows that you two are in sync. However, as time passes, you’ll see him matching his pace to yours – a great sign that he’s into you. [Read: Does he like you? 18 signs to decode his body language instantly]
#8 Show interest in animals and children. If you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, this is a good place to start. But personally, I would show more interest in animals before hitting on the kids topic. I mean, if you love dogs, he’ll get the idea that you’re a nurturing person.
Unless you want kids relatively early, I would ease up on it. Women who own animals are usually seen as better partners, seeing that they have experience taking care of something else other than themselves. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance]
#9 Get physical. This doesn’t mean hooking up with him on the first date. This just means that you want to limit the amount of light between your bodies when you’re sitting on a park bench. You can tell the difference when friends sit beside each other and when lovers sit beside each other. So, sit close to him because it’ll show that you’re interested and also increase the connection between the two of you.
#10 Get it while it’s hot. Who would have thought that getting a warm drink with the guy you like would increase the attraction between you two? Well, it does. It’s called priming. So, if you get a drink with him, get something warm – it shows that you have a warmer personality. [Read: 14 ways to show a guy you like him, and still be a tease]
#11 Be adventurous. Shockingly, there’s a pretty high correlation between sexual arousal and anxiety. So, my suggestion is to take him out of his comfort zone. Go to the amusement park or bungee jumping. Something that’ll spark his adrenaline.
#12 Make it red. You know that red is a sexy color, we all know it is. That being said, men perceive women who wear red as being sexier than those wearing another color. I know black works for any occasion, but maybe it’s time to try on something more striking. Mmmm… red… now that’s how to make a guy fall in love with you.
#13 Fill the void. Okay, that sounded depressing. What I mean by that is most people, when looking for partners, are looking for someone who makes up the qualities that they don’t have. Makes sense, right? It’s all about creating a balance. So, if he’s shy and you’re outgoing, great! [Read: Do opposites attract or push people away?]
#14 Keep some mystery. Listen, I know you want to tell him how crappy your last relationship was, but how about we save that for the third or fourth date. You can keep some things to yourself. Men find a little mystery to be alluring. You want him to be curious and interested in getting to know more of you.
#15 Let him take the lead. You don’t have to let him take control all the time, but you should let him make some effort. If you’re chasing him, he won’t be appreciating it. So, let him chase you. That’s definitely how to make a guy fall in love with you. [Read: Why do men like a chase? And how to use this in your favor]
#16 Patience. You need to have patience. Not just with him, but with life in general. If he’s not responding how you’d like, be patient. That being said, if it’s like a year without the response you want, perhaps back off. Men need a lot of time before making big decisions, so don’t try to push him.
#17 Don’t be jealous. If you want him, you need to calm down with the jealousy. If a girl’s talking to him and you’re glaring at him from across the room, well, it’s not a good look for you. No guy wants a girl who’s a stage 5 clinger. I mean, would you want a guy like that? Exactly.
#18 Be confident. No one wants to be with someone who plays the victim or damsel in distress. You’ve probably heard the word ‘needy’. Let’s keep that word far away from being associated with you. Be confident, and he’ll see it. Love yourself because you don’t need him… you really don’t. [Read: Tired of chasing? How to make a guy want you instead]
#19 Trustworthy. When men are looking for someone to fall in love with, they want someone they can trust. Same goes for you. So, you need to show him that you’re trustworthy. Of course, he needs to do the same. If he doesn’t trust you, he’ll always be hesitant about what to do with you.
#20 Independence. A guy wants a woman who looks like she doesn’t need him. There’s a reason why there’s that saying that nice guys finish last. They’re too nice and look like they need you. Why do the cocky guys always get the attention? Because they act like they don’t care. Same for you… you’re an independent woman with her own life.
#21 Being captivating. He has to be drawn in by you. Listen, he needs to be able to feel safe and open himself to you. Once he opens up to you, he’s well on his way to falling for you. So, you need to hook him, and you’ll do it after following these tips.
If you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, just follow these tips. However, remember, if you want these tips to work, you’re going to have to be yourself. If he’s not interested in the real you, move onto the next guy.