How to Get a Guy with a Girlfriend

how to get a guy with a girlfriend

Have you ever met a great guy and found that everything’s perfect, until you find out later that he already has a girlfriend? Read how to get a guy with a girlfriend the easy way.

Click here to read the introduction on how to steal a guy.

It sucks when this happens, but every time you do meet the perfect guy, there’s a good chance’s he’s already in love ‘with the wrong woman’.

You may know he’s the man you want, and you may be convinced that you can be a much better girlfriend than his annoying girlfriend-present.

Find out how to get a guy with a girlfriend and turn his present girlfriend into girlfriend-of-past with these simple steps.

How to get a guy with a girlfriend

Read the first five steps on how to steal a guy before you read these next five steps to get a guy with a girlfriend.

It’s simple and easy. But steal a guy only if you love him and find that he’s in an unhappy relationship. There’s really no excuse for breaking a relationship up to cure your own boredom.

#6 Have great conversations with him

In the first five steps on how to get a guy with a girlfriend, you would have seen how important it is to make a great impression and make him fall for you. Now we go into the serious stuff. The guy you like may think you’re attractive and smoking hot, but as visual as men are, it’s not enough to win him over.

A guy may get attracted to a lot of girls, but he doesn’t fall in love with all of them. Emotional compatibility is of great importance for a guy.

When you’re spending time with him, have a light hearted conversation almost all the time. But every once in a while, talk to him about something serious and even intellectual. Create interesting conversations and let him see how smart and aware you are. Ask him about his job or what he plans to do in the next few years. Talk to him about his goals and dreams, and about yours too. And always offer some great pointers that can help him, and ask him for a few pointers on your goals too.

[Read: Are you more than friends?]

You don’t always have to talk about games, bikes or cars to win a guy’s attention, unless you like them too. By talking about things you don’t know or by trying too hard to please him, you may just end up coming across as too eager to please.

#7 Flirt, but don’t tell

Now you’ve wowed him with your looks and your emotional intelligence, and he’s probably wishing he could be in a relationship with you. But the truth is, he’s not in a relationship with you just yet. So don’t break the suspense bubble by telling him that you like him. [Read: How to date a friend]

Both of you share a flirty and uncertain relationship with each other. By asking him out or telling him you have a crush on him, you’d end the confusing uncertainty and become the girl who has a crush on a guy with a girlfriend. And once he knows he’s won you over, he’ll lose the interest to impress you.

Always play coy, but stay mysterious. Never let him know that you like him. Always make it look like he’s the one giving you the attention.

One thing you have to avoid though is texting him too often or even texting anything overly flirty. His girlfriend may end up reading it and force him to avoid you.

#8 Build the chemistry with your touch

To understand how to get a guy with a girlfriend, you need to work your magic without ever making your intentions clear. Obviously, he’d know something is in the air or he wouldn’t be having happy flirty conversations with you. He’d be confused about his own feelings at this point, and this is when you need to build the romantic chemistry.

The next time you’re having a conversation with him, try to build the chemistry with some flirty touches. You need to be discreet and careful not to overdo this move. [Read: How to flirt by touching to know more]

#9 Spend more time together

The best way to get a guy with a girlfriend is to spend more time together with each other without making it obvious that you’re hitting on the guy. When he has a great time with you, he’ll obviously start to compare the time he spends with his own girlfriend to the time he spends with you. [Read: What men want in a woman they like]

Don’t ask him out to a movie or a date, be subtle. At least until he makes it clear that he’s falling for you but is confused because he’s already got a girlfriend. If he does say that, it’s obviously going well in your favor.

The next time you’re having a conversation with him, invite him along with your own group of friends and try getting some alone time with him. A few of your girl friends may already know you like him, and they can definitely help by adding a few ‘awkward’ comments like “you guys look good together!” Brush it off in fake jest and just smile. It’s awkward and funny, and it’s going to be perfect!

#10 Hint that you like him

Now you’ve worked your magic and helped him see for himself what a great girl you are. Spend more time with each other and every now and then, try to get some alone time with him. Soon enough, with a bit of late night calls and a lot of mush, he’ll start to fall in love with you without even realizing it.

If you’ve given him a bit of time to make the move or end his relationship with his own girlfriend and nothing’s really changing, you may have to take the plunge and let him know that you have more than just friends on your mind. Don’t tell him straight out that you like him because that would just put him in a spot. Instead be discreet and casual about it. [Read: How to ask a guy out without asking him out for more pointers on this]

Getting a guy with a girlfriend

Now you may know all the secrets to know how to get a guy with a girlfriend, but even the best of moves can at times, fail.

If you’ve been playing all the moves mentioned here to the tee, it’s almost certain that he’d end his relationship with his girlfriend and start going out with you. But if it doesn’t work in your favor, drop the thought. Some guys may like the secret flirting and the attention from another girl, but they may not want to leave a happy relationship and throw it all away.

If you’re in love with a guy who’s perfectly happy in his own relationship, perhaps you could enjoy the little flirty games and find someone else to fall in love with.

But if he isn’t happy in the relationship and has a better time with you, these ten tips will definitely help you know how to get a guy with a girlfriend and steal him from under his girlfriend’s nose.

[Read: Is he in love with you? – The signs]

Use these tips on how to get a guy with a girlfriend to steal a guy you like, and it’ll definitely work in your favor, just as long as you play by these rules.

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40 thoughts on “How to Get a Guy with a Girlfriend”

  1. chris says:

    wow, the wrong girl friend? if someone likes someone and wants to be with them who are you to push yourself on the relationship of another? The only moral thing in that situation is to be a friend and when its over and he is single you can step in. but anything more than that and your the bad guy in the movie. and most likely someone else will do the same to you.

  2. Adam says:

    If any girl tried breaking my relationship up to get with me, I would be livid. Only a complete asshole would follow this advice, and you have to be just as bad to write about it.

  3. Lorena says:

    These are great tips! I’ve been doing some of them and I can already tell they work. Thank you so much.

  4. dee_dee says:

    woow some of these things it just came naturally for me to do and they really work ,i love this,hehe

  5. A person says:

    This just makes me sad. Why would anyone want to end a relationship? How would they know if said girlfriend was a bad one? Because I’m sure if someone was flirting with their boyfriend, they wouldn’t be the ‘best girlfriend in the world’.

  6. Cody says:

    im a boy and i just have to say…i would either love it if a girl did this to me,or i would hate it,depending on how much i love my gf

  7. Laura says:

    I don’t see how any of this is immoral. The only way any of it would have an effect on him would be if he was already unhappy with the relationship. Its not like the advice is to throw yourself on him and shove his girlfriend out of the picture. I just see it as being a friend until he realizes how awesome you are compared to his sucky girlfriend that is probably already causing issues in the relationship.

  8. Stephie says:

    It works 🙂

  9. Kalliope says:

    My best friend has a gf and I can’t stand it. I really like him, I always have had feelings for him but I never told him because i didnt want to ruin our friendship. Looking back to when he didn’t have a gf I have realized that he liked me and he even asked me out. I ignored the signs at the time because I was in denial about him likening me. I feel so stupid now and I want him back, but I still can’t figure out how to win him back 🙁

  10. Mark says:

    This is sociopathic advice. I’m sorry to see that so many of you, including the article writer, have no compassion or conscience. I’m glad to see that some of you do, though. Your parents must have done something right.

  11. alejandra says:

    why would someone write about this? this is totally wrong! i was loving this website until i saw this, this is like showing a slut how to become sluttier

  12. Chava says:

    This is absolutely disgusting. This is why I’m so picky about my boyfriend having female friends: some people have no respect. If you steal someone’s boyfriend, you deserve the schmuck; if he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you, and you’ll have no right to complain. This article is advice for sociopaths.

  13. imaboy says:

    wtf no just tell the guy flat out you like him guys hate hints, and some guys will never make the first move

  14. happyrelationship says:

    I find this article very backwards and disrespectful. Relationships are hard enough as is without another woman trying to get in the middle. Why would a woman ever want to do this to another woman? and if this did work and you ended up in a relationship with this guy, how would you feel if another woman did this to you?

  15. ylababy says:

    sure, this article may sound disrespectful and sociopathic but guys, dnt be so those close minds.,even if a grl wud do these tips, it wont take effect if the boy is c0ntentd and happy with the relati0nship he has. and these are just friendly tips, the author d0esnt require u to do such! ur reacting to0 much.silly.

  16. Courtney Benton says:

    I am not going to think about how if another woman did this to me! If any guy I have a crush on has a girlfriend I totally want to hurt/harm her for having the place that I want. Any girl who is in a relationship with any guy I like deserves to be punished for being the lucky girl having the guy I have a crush on and live in a fantasy world with!

  17. Jacqui29 says:

    okay so I am kind of in to this guy but he has a girlfriend and he keeps hanging out with a close friend of mine. my friend knows that I really like him and she still hangs out with him. I as well just broke up with my boyfriend. and I really want another one cuz im now the only single one out of my group so it sucks………

  18. Nicole says:

    A gorgeous, elegant, intelligent, magnetic and charming male hit on me at my last job. I already feared the ‘other woman’ would catch us and try to move in on him. This guy was a hunky Alpha male with a tender side. He made me nervous when he flirted with me (except at the front desk where I played receptionist…I felt that I had power then).
    The really exciting thing was that I am married but it did not stop him. Things got so hot I felt like running away. He would arrive unexpectedly in my office and the sexual tension was unreal.
    Back to other woman: this woman was not physically attractive so I was puzzled at first. She was very overweight. I noted after I had a ‘fight’ with him that suddenly he was into her…
    I was jealous and confused. BUT: she made a mistake, much to my joy…
    It was obvious because he approached me at the front desk and talked to me again…she suddenly arrived behind me and I could feel the power and negativity in her at that point. She appeared upset and almost out of control.
    Later in the week I noted that she let her hair get ordinary again and even the grey had grown back in. No surprise to me that she had suddenly starting wearing her hair like mine (even coloring it to match mine).
    It was their conversations that had seemed to fascinate each other…and I was not a good conversationalist and rarely talked about politics or sports. I learned a lot from that situation.
    Unfortunately I got in trouble with him and I resigned…very sad.

  19. kuu says:

    sorcery could help, but it dosen’t exist, and everyone knows magic cannot make people fall in or out of love.

  20. Alexiah says:

    Theres nothing wrong with this. Its just how to tip the odds in your favour. Its human nature to flirt and attraction. It doesn’t brainwash the guy to dump his girlfriend, if he’s happy he wont be open to ideas.

  21. Alexiah says:

    Angeling Jolie is a prime example xx

  22. emma824 says:

    Please take note this is titled how to get a guy with a girlfriend, not how to get a guy w a wife. Ladies if he isn’t your husband, he is not forever committed to you and he’s not a jerk for possibly wanting to leave you for someone else. And she’s not a b**** for wanting to be with him. Hes your boyfriend not your property. Get over yourselves ladies!

  23. pqwe25 says:

    When I first saw this article’s title, I was shocked at how anyone would write such a topic. I had to see it! First of all, this story is completely ridiculous and is directly focused on those women (and men) who are immature and inconsiderate of other people’s relationships. If you think that you’re going to win the love of someone who is in a relationship, especially if he or she is in a good relationship, you’ve in for a big surprise. AND, if you do happen to win him or her over, then you’re the one who actually wins the short side of the draw…his or her previous partner will be the winner because you won the man or woman who has the emotional trait of possibility giving you up for someone else at work/school due to infatuation. Do you really want to have that constant reminder while you’re dating him/her? It’s your call. If, however, the man or woman that you so desire happens to be in a bad relationship, then maybe things will work out for the two of you. However, I strongly advice not interfere with an engaged or married man/woman…that’s just disastrous and downright wrong. Just think ladies (or men), are you really in love with this person or are you just infatuated? If you can’t see yourself waking up to his puppy breath every morning; putting up with all of his quirks, trusting him completely, not minding his burps or farts, and love him for everything (and I mean everything) that he has to offer you (yay for you), then it’s just infatuation and it’s your responsibility to keep it at that so you’re able to save your love for someone that’s available and even more special in the future.

  24. Smh says:

    This should be called how to be a home wrecking whore…. Cuz only a slut bag would try to ruin a relationshi.

  25. Shelbie says:

    This is horrible. Only the lowest of the low will even attempt such nonsense. Question for the ladies who’ve tried it, You stole someones man, (*cough*Homewrecker) whats stopping from some other chick from doing the exact same thing to you?

  26. Joy Reyes says:

    Wow! Really? What kind of article is this? Teaching girls on how to be a whore? Yeah the guy might not be happy anymore, but did you wonder why he hasnt broken up with her yet? Its because HE LOVES HER! Dont be a relationship-wrecking whore! If theyre still together, it means theyre still trying. Dont be the reason why they broke up. Youre a girl too. Be decent. Have morals. Geez. You wouldnt like it if other people does that to you. If you really like or love the guy, just wait. Because if theyre really not meant to be, you dont have to stick your slutty nose in their business. Respect yourself girl!

  27. Kori says:

    Are you kidding me?!? What is wrong with people?!? Get some morals!! The wrong girlfriend? The last I checked love is about putting their wants and needs over your own so maybe you’re the wrong girlfriend for anyone!!! Stupid home wreckers if he’ll leave his current girlfriend for you than he’ll leave you for someone else! You’re not the exception! You are not some treasure!! You are garbage and when he wants something new he’ll leave you at the curb where you belong!!!!

  28. Krista says:

    Why put so much effort in being the other woman? Why not find someone you can actually be with and not have to hide ‘your love’ or worry hes cheating everytime he leaves the house. If he will cheat WITH you, he will cheat ON you.

  29. Bansheegirl says:

    Ladies (if that is the right word), if he can cheat with you, he can cheat ON you. This isn’t about love. It’s about getting what you want no matter who else it hurts.

  30. Erin says:

    I think the person who wrote this despicable piece of trash is on the receiving end of this situation some day. You have no conscience. You obviously have no self worth or morals. You’re a mediocre writer at best. And to all of the disgusting homewrecking whores who think this is a respectable way to get a man, I hope you get your asses beat.

  31. mea says:

    What a joke!! I hope anyone who condones this type of cheap, nasty behavior experiences some major paybacks. When the time comes that you slutty HW’s actually find a guy you truly love and want to be with… I hope there’s another skanky Homewrecker waiting in the wings to pounce on your guy… so then you can see what it’s like to have your relationship stepped on and interfered with. Karma will nail you every time.

  32. Amber says:

    LOL, I don’t know what is more offensive here, suggesting that it’s okay to break up a relationship or encouraging such manipulative behavior. How about a guide explaining how to become classy and self-confident? This article is the exact opposite of that!

  33. Kelly says:

    If someone is truly happy with their gf they’re not going to leave them anyway, so whats the big fuss about how horrible this article is and the ppl who take it’s advice. If a girl can’t hold onto her man that’s her problem and she needs to step up. If he chooses the other girl he didn’t love the gf in the first place, and who wants to play second fiddle to another woman. I think this article is great!

  34. courtney says:

    To some of u this is wrong and to some of u it’s perfectly fine . it all depends on how u look at it . if u see a guy in a sucky relationship with a Lil bitch who treats him bad and ur a good person with respect and could treat him better then heck yea go for it . take him and show him what a real relationship is. But if he’s happy then let him be happy .

  35. Sasha says:

    I can tell everyone commenting is very young and inexperienced in relationships. The only boundaries that are not to be crossed by an outsider is if a person is married. There is nothing sacred in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. In fact, when people are just dating all is fair in love and war. If anyone is that committed they will put a ring on it and be serious about it (because we all know engagement rings are shaky too). If there is someone that you like and want to be with, get into their space and create a bond. Keep in mind that you might have a change of heart after really being with a person you think you like/love. My sage advice for women would be to exert energy only on men who pursue you and want to be with you only.

  36. Sandra says:

    He is always telling me that how disappointing their relationship and his girlfriend is cheating with other guys. He is shy in front of me even though it’s not his personality. His girlfriend is older than him and too dominating. I think he is interesting me and of course I have already fall in love with him before he know. We are both shy and quite. I think I should follow these steps.

  37. Reesa says:

    You guys are simply idiots condoning this behaviour. Why encourage women to step on other women and get their men? Thats pretty fucked up in all honesty and quite premieval. This is a snotty way of cheating or initiating cheating. Do you ppl have honor and respect for yourselves? I guess not because you guys easily would crush another person for lustful pathetic desires than being strong and dealing with it. Yeah youre all too weak for that. And btw, those who are defending this article saying that if men were faithful they won’t leave their relationship are all ignorant of behavioral psychology. Its been proven time and time again and through many studies that men avoid cheating best by staying away from temptation. They cant help it they are men and hardwired to do so. And if theyre constantly tempted they will eventually give in, and sometimes only once and regret it terribly- and that one fatal mistake can be enough to destroy a relationship. So stop hiding your filthy scent you skanks, admiring or promoting this behaviour is just wrong and disproving. Disagreeing just shows how sluttier you are

  38. HappilyWithHimFor2YearsNow says:

    I love how all these women are calling women who do this home-wrecking whores or sluts. Get off your high horse and realize a truly happy man would never stray, because a truly happy man has nothing else to look for. People go through tons of suitable people in their lifetime looking for the right person and this is the same thing. If he’s in a relationship with you and is straying I’m sorry open your eyes and realize you are not the one for him. You can’t force a man to be happy with you. Obviously this other woman has stuff he likes and wants. It doesn’t make him a bad guy (unless he does it with every girl) but if this is a one time thing. he can’t help the attraction and neither can she. It’s natural and eventually you have to realize that he isn’t right for you either. Some men just aren’t good at breaking up with women.. but if he suddenly is trying to stray with a woman, you should know he’s already emotionally done.

  39. I have integrity. says:

    The idea that if he’s not happy in his relationship that makes it okay is BULLSHIT. NEWFLASH: Every relationship goes through periods where it’s not happy. Especially when there’s a 3rd party trying to sabotage the relationship. Personally, I’d respect someone a lot more if they worked on the issues in the relationship instead of having their ego stroked by some interloper. It really speaks volumes to me about the kind of man he is by how he deals with himself in regards to the woman HE chose. And don’t you think for one second that you won’t experience the same problems in your relationship with him because you will and you already know how that’ll end up. And if she treats him bad that makes it ok too? No, because how do you know that’s true? Because he told you? As if your getting the whole story. And even if you know bits and pieces that doesn’t mean you know it all. Men and women both lie and trust and believe that they’ll leave shit out if it makes them look bad. And I’m sure he won’t tell you the good times that they had or that he was balls deep in her asshole the night before. And if he’s dissing HIS girl to you, what makes you think that he’s not doing the same thing to you? So far we already have it established that he’s a backstabber, cheater that lies about his relationship. Damn, what a great catch for a girl who would use these techniques. Personally, I would rather have a man with character.

  40. disqus_A6qUMcETu6 says:

    Why not write an article on how to have some self respect, character and morals? Love yourself first and then attract the one who will love you. Chances are, he will be single. Who wants a cheater? Yuck. He will do it to you eventually.

    This article basically says to act like someone you are not in order to attract someone you think is cute but you are probably not compatible with in the first place and destroy a relationship in the process.

    And no, saying a happy man would never cheat or leave is not a defense. It is not true. Some men have a savior complex and want to rescue people. A needy tramp could easily play the role of victim in order to win his lust. Not his heart.

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