How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text: Everything You Ever Need to Know

How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text In 11 Sexy Steps

Want to text flirt with a guy without appearing too easy to get? Use these 11 tips on how to flirt with a guy over text to discreetly turn him on.

Flirting with a guy while texting him can be a lot of fun when you know the right way to do it.

There are a few right things to do, and there are a few things that are best avoided.

[Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a guy while texting to seduce him]

Depending on what you want from this guy, you can get him to fall in love with you or get sexually attracted to you by using these tips on flirt texting a guy.

How to flirt with a guy over text

To start off, one of the most important things you need to remember is to avoid appearing like you’re the only one doing all the flirting.

When a guy knows the girl likes him, he would usually take a back seat and take her for granted.

Always make it appear like he’s the one trying to woo you or seduce you, and you’ll see just how much fun flirting with a guy over text really can be.

[Read: 9 sneaky tips to get a guy to ask you out]

12 tips to text flirt with a guy

The next time you pick your cell phone up to get flirty with a guy, keep these tips on how to flirt with a guy over text in mind and you’ll see how easy it can be to make a guy go crazy about you.

#1 Tell him you remembered him. When you tell a guy you remembered him, it’s a compliment and a huge boost in ego for him. He’ll instantly feel warmer towards you and spend quite a while thinking about you too. “I just remembered that thing you did today and wanted to say it was funny/silly/hilarious”, “I just saw your facebook status and…” etc. will make him try harder to please you and win your attention. [Read: How men really fall in love]

#2 Use a lot of smiley faces. Smiley faces are flirty and fun, especially when you use them in texts. Sometimes, all you need is a smiley face and a wink to say ‘hello’ to begin a conversation. Use smiley faces in your texts almost all the time, and you’ll bring a smile on his face too.

#3 Use his name while texting. Using his name while texting him makes the exchange of texts so much more personal and intimate. Every few texts, use his name especially when you’re saying something complimentary or cute. He’ll start liking you a lot more. And if you do have a pet name for him, make sure you use that often too. [Read: How to pick a pet name for someone you like]

#4 Arouse him discreetly. Don’t text naughty with a guy directly. Always make him ask the questions. Text him about what you’re doing when he asks, but text something personal or intimate like “I’m trying my new clothes on”, “I just had a shower”, etc. Make him think dirty without really talking dirty. It’s the best way to arouse a guy and flirt with him without making it obvious that you’re initiating any flirty dirty texts.

#5 Keep it short. Don’t explain yourself for every statement you make. Keep it mysterious. It’ll make him create his own stories in his head. If he didn’t understand something you said or wants you to reconfirm what you meant, especially when you’re being flirty, change the topic or ask him another question.

When you leave him confused at times, he’ll try harder to keep the text conversation going just to look better in your eyes.  Make him work hard for your approval, and he’ll pursue you more. [Read: How to make a guy jealous and get his attention]

#6 Don’t text flirt in an obvious manner. Don’t make it appear like you’re flirting with him. He’ll think you’re too easy to get and take it easy while you do all the hard work of flirting.

Always make him talk dirty by giving him opportunities to think dirty, but don’t initiate the flirting. It’ll make him fall harder for you. He’ll assume he’s getting lucky or being smooth while texting you when it’ll actually be you doing all the planning.

#7 Compliment him. Now and then, be sweet to him while texting him. Guys love attention and compliments from girls. When you compliment him about how nice he is or how much of a sweetheart he is, he’ll try harder to do something nice for you. [Read: 8 character traits that guys love in a girl]

#8 Don’t try too hard and look desperate. Guys can see through that. Saying things like “there’s a new movie in town, wanna go?” will make him lose interest in the chase, especially when he knows you like him already. Don’t ask him out for dinner or the movies unless you’re sure he likes you already.

#9 Don’t ask him to meet you all the time. Don’t text him a line telling him to join you for coffee right away. He may come along just to be with you, but making last minute plans all the time would piss him off after a while. He has his own life, you know. You can’t treat him like a trailing dog unless you’re still in school and you guys have all the time in the world to spare. Indulge in flirting, but don’t ask him to meet you in the last minute unless he texts you mentioning he wants to join you.

#10 Don’t be clingy. If he isn’t responding to your text on time, leave it at that. Don’t even text something funny just to get him to respond back to you. If a guy’s not responding, it’s because he’s busy or not interested in the conversation. Get his point and stop trying to be pushy. If he likes you and wants to impress you, he would text you back in a flash unless he’s busy. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never like you back]

#11 Don’t drag the text conversation. Don’t let the conversation bore either of you. End it or think of something to say if the texts are losing direction or starting to get rather boring. Excuse yourself and tell him you’ll text him back later. If you want to flirt with a guy over text, you need to keep it interesting. Once it starts to get even a wee bit boring, end the conversation and tell him that you’ll text him back later. It’ll ensure that his interest in you won’t wear off soon. [Read: 10 sexy tips to seduce a guy who isn’t yours]

Keep these 11 tips on how to flirt with a guy over text in mind the next time you want to text flirt with a guy. It’ll make him fall harder for you and make flirting with a guy a lot easier for you.

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11 thoughts on “How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text: Everything You Ever Need to Know”


  2. LoveMeNot says:

    This actually works. I’ve used many of these tips. It makes the guy want more from you. I’ve told a guy that I just took a shower, and he’ll text me saying if I would like him to come in there with me. Amazing. These tips are great.

  3. Zev says:

    For #3… I suppose girls do get my attention more if they text like that. But I also perfer it if they weren’t all that casual about it. Makes it seem like they want me to act like a prev or something when I’m very much not like that. For example: some girls just send me aluring pics… (didnt ask) Or some when I ask what they doing say “I’m just laying here on my bed hopeing for an interesting guy…” … It’s a little weird, but hey. Maybe I’m the only one who thinks this. Sure enough having the other think sexual thoughts about you if your interested may get you stuck in their mind abit more but I doubt you would want the conversation to turn into only Sexting? Right? …….. (it could very well end up there.) But #3 works well with me. Just saying

  4. bubbles says:

    another tip is to start putting kisses, if he responds with them then start adding an extra one! soon you’ll be putting loads to each other, i know this from many times of previous experience!

    hope it helped!

  5. Lover Yumi says:

    cool i wish i had a boyfriend…. but my crush keep hurting me :C arggg now i hate boys. but i wish there’s a boy can comfort me a friend like that :'(

  6. TRex says:

    I’ve tried all these plus more he says he likes me and would like to take me on dates but every time I ask if he wants to come over or even go out to eat he is always super busy and has already ate sometimes we text for a few hours or all day every other day. Does he really like me or no because I know he probably really is busy but everyone says if he really is interested he will make time for you?

  7. Caylee Ann says:

    I like this guy and I feel like I am annoying him because he hasn’t texted me back and I said hey 3 time and I’m scared to text him again what should I do and we have been doing smilie faces for a while:/ the last time he texted me was 8 days ago and the last time I said hey was 5 days ago.

  8. wheeler says:

    to Caylee, don’t just say hey to him, start a conversation by asking him a question or asking him if he’s going to “that party.” He may just be bored of the typical convos like “hi, how are you, good you, good” so try to spice it up a bit, make him think about you

  9. sophie says:

    theres this guy i really like, who my friend says likes me back. i really wanna text him but I’m not sure how to start and i dont want to sound like I’m desperate to talk to him either coz I’m pretty sure he’s noticed by now. so how can i start a natural sounding conversation without drawing attention to my liking him? he’s not much of a talker wich makes it trickier coz i hav 2 start every time i talk to him- he’s a bit shy too 🙂 any tips would be gr8

  10. emlia says:

    Hii I dont kno wat to do coz my bf tells tht to tlk abt we both so wat t can I talk..

  11. JM says:

    What if you like this guy (like Really like him) an u want to flirt with him (I’m 14 an he’s 16) but u don’t know how and he lives in Italy but I live in e Us so we ghave a 6hr time difference? What can I do then bc he’s said I was cute an stufbut idk how to flirt ????

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