Have you ever felt like your anger and mood swings have been coming in between you and your perfect life? Anger is a subtle, destructive emotion that can rear its head anytime, and destroy your happy moments. Learn to handle anger management in relationships to lead a better, happier life.
Anger displaces you. It can make you lose your mind, your temper, respect, relationships and also a whole lot of other things with a spiraling effect that could end in you losing your well-being and your self.
It could even make you lose your freedom and in the worst-case scenario, your life. However bad, it is neither an unfamiliar emotion nor is it a rare occurrence in our lives.
HANDLING ANGER MANAGEMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS
In fact, we either experience or confront it in varying degrees of intensity every day. Though anger is one of nature’s ways of equipping us to defend ourselves, anger should not be viewed purely as a reflex action, as anger out of control can turn destructive and lead to aggression. Evolution lies in how well we manage anger.
Anger management is not a predominant subject. Anger as an emotional disturbance is dealt with too trivially because of its sheer pervasiveness, allowing it free rein.
Tranquility fights a losing battle as anger sulks and fumes, sparks and fuels discord all around the world, wrecking relationships and killing composure.
Mental health experts have advised us on the soundness of immediately expressing our anger as opposed to suppressing it. The rationale being, sounding out will help relieve pent up emotions. It’s the pressure cooker effect, you have to let out steam or the pressure will build up. But what if you turn off the flame to begin with?
Latest research has gone a few steps further to reveal that expressing anger can be very harmful, making you prone to hypertension, strokes and even heart attacks. In fact, most often anger stems from an attitude or belief, which might be insecurity or condemnation. Strong expression only serves to strengthen the feeling and escalates the situation, paving the way for it to happen again and again.
Intimidation might be just one of the milder outcomes when one resorts to expressing anger. It is harder to escape the anger cycle. The momentary relief gained by expressing oneself is short-term and is followed by remorse, then by resentment, irritation and from there, one is just a step away from anger. Physical or verbal abuse follows. Fear and hostility or fury might build up in the person at the receiving end who could be suppressing anger toward you.
Reacting to anger by either suppressing anger or repressing anger has its own dangers.
Recurrent suppression of anger would lead to resentment. Resentment is like poison breeding morbidity and early mortality. Suppressing anger can take a severe toll on emotional, mental and physical health, just like repression, which refers to the act of immediately putting the event out of the mind.
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