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Slow Sex: 13 Steamy Reasons Why it’s the Best Sex Ever!

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A lot of people like getting it on in a rough and fast-paced fashion, but what about slow sex? If you’ve forgotten how amazing it can be, listen up.

The common misconception is that rough and fast sex is the best sex. While that style may be enjoyed by the majority of the population, I firmly believe it’s because people don’t ever have slow sex. Let me tell you: it is way, way better.

Sure, a quickie here and there is fun, and even switching it up between fast and slow sex is great. But have you ever just enjoyed slow sex the entire time? It might seem like it’s difficult to get into at first, but if you push past your normal habit of fast sex, it could be life-changing.

Slow sex is so much better

If you’re looking for a way to spice up your relationship, or you just want to try something new, slow sex could be the answer you’re looking for. Whether you just want to enjoy it for a little while during your time with your partner, or dedicate the entire act to it, you have to try it.

You might think that slow sex is boring, but that is not at all true. So without further ado, here is a list of reasons why slow sex is the best sex. We have put it together for all of you out there who need that extra spark in your sex life. [Read: 10 reasons you should have great sex every single day]

Tips for slow sex

Before we touch on all the reasons you should be having slow sex, let’s first give you a few pointers on how to make slow sex work. It might seem obvious—just go slower, right? But there are a lot of things you should do in order to reap the most benefits.

#1 Find the right position. There are positions that are much better for slow sex. Doggy style isn’t exactly the right one when you’re wanting to take it slow and easy. Missionary is always a popular one for when you want to be really intimate during slow sex. [Read: 8 ways to use the missionary position to make sex feel magical]

However, you can do different variations of spooning, girl on top, and even a variation of the girl lying flat on her stomach with the man on top. Each of these are perfect for slow sex.

#2 Make sure you have enough time. This is no quickie we’re talking about, here. Slow sex lasts much longer than your average session, so be certain that you have a long time before you have to be anywhere or do anything. That means if you have kids, get rid of them for the night! [Read: How long should sex really last? The real score!]

#3 Slow music always helps. Fast-paced music usually translates to fast-paced sex. When your body gets going in a faster rhythm, it’s hard to slip into a slower one. Make sure your music fits the mood and stays nice and slow. My advice is to just create an entire playlist for your slow sex days.

#4 Get rid of distractions. Put your phones in a place where you won’t hear them if they go off, and turn your TV off. The only sounds around you should be your partner’s pleasure and your playlist. Any distractions could lead to you subconsciously trying to finish so you can see what that text is, or what’s on TV.

#5 Keep the foreplay slow, too. Do everything slowly when you’re having slow sex. When you go from ridiculously fast-paced foreplay to really slow sex, it could make you both impatient. Keep the foreplay slow, gentle, and long in order to match the sex itself. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay moves you can ever use in bed]

The incredible reasons slow sex is the best sex

Now that you’re an expert on how to make slow sex work, let’s touch on all the awesome reasons why you should definitely make time for slow sex.

#1 It lasts longer. Sex lasts way longer when you have slow sex than when you’re just going at it like a couple of rabbits. When you have slower sex, you get to enjoy the act more than if you’re just “getting it over with.” Plus, wouldn’t you want something pleasurable to last longer?

#2 More intimate. If you want to feel really close to your significant other, slow sex is definitely the way to go. For some reason, you feel more attached and in tune with them when you’re able to slow things down and really appreciate them and their body.

#3 Happier ending. Sex usually ends happily, but if you have slow sex, it’ll be an even happier ending. Why, you ask? Well, when you build it up slower, you’re going to have a much more intense release—especially men. [Read: 20 easy moves to last really long during sex without any difficulty]

#4 There is a better chance of the girl finishing. We all know that most women take much longer than men to finish, which means that not all women get to finish every time—especially during a quickie. By slowing things down, it’ll last much longer, and that means there’s a better chance that the woman achieve the big “O.”

#5 The guy will last longer. Guys, we all know this one is true. When you take your time and have slower sex, you last much longer. Since you’re not going to pound town, your body will take you longer to reach climax. Who doesn’t like sex when it lasts longer? An added bonus is that you’ll look like a complete stud to the lady you’re making love to.

#6 It’s way more intense. The build, the intimacy, the entire act—it’s all so much more intense when you take it slow. If you want sex that is memorable because of the intensity, you have to have slow sex. It is the best. [Read: 12 steamy ways to make love to a man and drive him crazy]

#7 It spices up your sex life. When you’re used to fast-paced sex and you take things way slower than normal, it changes the entire dynamic of your sex life. So if you’re someone who is feeling like your sex life needs a boost or is missing something, slow sex may be the answer.

#8 Everyone leaves more satisfied. Fast-paced sex is fun and feels good, but not everyone gets what they want. Sometimes, women don’t finish and miss the intimacy many women crave. Slow sex fills both of these voids, and everyone leaves more satisfied than they would with quick sex.

[Read: How to please a woman sexually and emotionally]

Slow sex is, without a doubt, the best sex. If you think that’s debatable, take a look at all of the reasons to try it out and give it a whirl. Trust us: you won’t regret it. 

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4 thoughts on “Slow Sex: 13 Steamy Reasons Why it’s the Best Sex Ever!”

  1. The Truth Hurts says:

    If I go slow, it takes hours to finish. Some women might like that but I think many may want it to end in 15 to 30 minutes. I take longer to finish than I used to when I was a teen due to desensitivity in my adult life. I don’t like to have a workout each time I want to please my girlfriend. Sorry, work outs are for the gym, not for trying to impress someone with my body parts.

  2. emotjuos says:

    I actually agree. Slow sex is the best because both of you have all the time in the world to feel each other gliding against one another. Feeling each other’s bodies pressing against one another. Everything falls into a beautiful abyss where both of you for some time gets stuck in but don’t mind each other’s company.

  3. goooda says:

    I think this is just the best thing you can do together as a couple that truly loves each other. Slow sex is a really valid expression of love for me. It shows that you are not rushing to get sex over with. You are trying to spend quality time with your mate.

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