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16 Sex Tips for Women to Make Sex So Much More Exciting

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The truth is, some women don’t find sex all that exciting after a while. If you’re struggling to find the joy and passion, these sex tips are for you.

Sex should be one of the most exciting things in your life. However, after a while with the same person, or even being out of the game for a long time, sex can be rather boring or unappealing. That’s not how sex is supposed to be!

It’s supposed to be fun, exciting, and-of course-sexy! It’s usually this way for most of the men out there all the time. But for women, there are a lot of things that can get in the way and take away from the joy of it all.

There are many reasons women struggle to find the excitement when it comes to sex. They can have insecurities, problems staying in the mood, or they can even be tired of the same old thing. No matter what the reason, there are tons of things you can do to make sex so much more exciting.

16 sex tips for women to make sex exciting again!

Ladies, if you’re in a rut and feel like sex is boring and unappealing to you, listen up. Sex is exactly what you make it. If sex is boring for you right now, it’s because that’s how you’ve been making it. If you really want to spice things up and make sex as exciting as it was the first time, here are some tips for you.

#1 Set the mood. Turn the lights down, put on some soft, slow tunes, and set the mood for when your lover comes home. Get yourself hyped up with lighting some candles, throwing some rose petals down, and getting in the mood. The anticipation you create for yourself will be enough to get you excited. [Read: 14 little things you can do to feel sexy and desirable all the time]

#2 Get some lingerie. A lot of women don’t get excited about sex when they don’t feel sexy. How can you feel excited about getting naked with someone when you don’t want to see yourself naked? Buying mega-sexy lingerie is a perfect way to get motivated for your significant other to see you decked out in lace and satin.

#3 Build anticipation. There’s really no better way to get excited for sex than building up the anticipation. Sending steamy texts throughout the day or dropping hints for your partner to pick up on will get not only you excited, but they’ll be itching to get home and rip your clothes off, too. [Read: 30 super-sexy ways to keep a guy really interested in you]

#4 Get rid of unrealistic expectations. Your life is not a romance novel. You’re not going to get swept away by the world’s sexiest business man and be pinned up against the wall for the most mind blowing sex in the world. I mean if you do, that’s fantastic!

But you have to get rid of the unrealistic expectations filling your mind about having sex, or you’ll always be bored and disappointed. Real sex is a two-way street, and you have to realize it won’t be like the steamy novels you’re reading every night before bed. Sex in real life is much more exciting if you put those expectations aside and live in the real world. [Read: 8 steps to get your body confidence back in the bedroom]

#5 Talk to your partner. If you’re feeling like sex is becoming the same old boring routine, talk to your partner about it! Maybe they’re feeling the same way but didn’t know if you wanted to spice things up. They will probably be more than willing to do whatever it takes to please you and make sex more exciting for you.

#6 Try something new! Nothing gets someone excited like trying something new. The unpredictable aspect of it is enough to get someone’s imaginations rolling and their excitement in hyper overdrive. Besides, you may find something you really like you may have never tried before. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas that are worth trying at least once in your life]

#7 Play some fun, sexy games. Make rules that each person has to abide by for the night. For example, tell your partner they’re not allowed to touch you with their left hand. The restrictions only make them want to touch you more, and you’ll feel the excitement growing! [Read: 10 fun sex games to play with your boyfriend in bed]

#8 Role play. Role playing is a great way to ramp up the excitement for women because it allows them to get out of their shell and become someone else. It can help you feel powerful, sexy, and like you can take on the world. If that’s not enough to get you excited, I don’t know what is.

#9 Get yourself in the mood beforehand. If your foreplay is lacking and your excitement wilts because of it, get yourself pumped up and in the mood before your lover even gets home. Throw on some sexy porn, take out a few toys, and get yourself going so you’ll be ready to pounce on your partner when they get home. [Read: Female masturbation: 17 facts about the naughty secret]

#10 Change location. Go have sex somewhere you’ve never done it before! Drive down an empty dirt road and get it on in the backseat. The excitement you felt as a teenager sneaking around with your significant other will come back full throttle.

#11 Find out what you like-and demand it! In order to make sex exciting, you’re going to want to assure yourself you’ll at least get off. Many women find sex is boring because they know they probably won’t finish.

Find what you like most and what will get you there and then demand it from your partner! This is a surefire way to make sure you finish and will get you excited to do it again next time. Plus, it will make you feel empowered that you’re telling your lover what to do. [Read: 12 things guys do in bed that make girls want to fake an orgasm]

#12 Don’t have sex for a little while. I know this sounds counterproductive, but hear me out. If you watch the same movie over and over again it gets boring, and you just don’t pay attention, right? Right. So if you feel like your sex is too routine, take a break. Put into effect a “no sex for ___ days/weeks” rule. You will be ridiculously excited to hit the sack when the time has passed-if you can even make it that long.

#13 Be spontaneous. Not much is more exciting than the unknown. Be more spontaneous and unpredictable in your sex life. Your excitement about when or where you’ll have sex next will keep your excitement for the act in overdrive even when you’re not having sex!

#14 Throw in some luxuries. Trade massages with your partner, and vow that there’s no inappropriate touching until after both of you have received a full body massage by the other. The excitement comes from your partner’s hands gliding across your body that’s been doused with oil. You’ll practically be jumping up and down to get into bed with your lover.

#15 Get your partner excited! Excitement is contagious-believe me! If you find different ways to get your significant other excited to get into bed with you, you’ll feed off their energy and will be just as enthusiastic-if not more since you’re the one who got them in the mood! [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life, starting tonight]

#16 Remember you are a hot, sexy, love machine, and you should be excited every time you take your clothes off. Listen up, ladies. You are one hell of an amazing woman who should be more than excited to jump into bed with the person that tickles your fancy. Too many women forget how incredible, powerful, and downright hot they are and this takes away from their excitement to get frisky with their partner. Remember who you are and you’ll feel excited to rip your clothes off.

[Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel really horny in no time]

Sex is fun, hot, and exciting! These sex tips will help you realize that again and will make sex so much more thrilling. You won’t be able to wait until the next time.

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DISCUSSION

  • Yuri

    Trying something new will definitely breathe a whole new sort of life into a dull sex life, which is usually all of what anyone needs to help rekindle that romance and spice things up a little. I know when I’m stuck in a bit of a rut, it’s usually because I’ve been stuck doing the same sorts of things forever and it’s just not turning me on all that much anymore. Mention something new and try it out? Yep, that usually gets things going again. While all these tips are great, that’s the one to focus on when things are getting a little stale.

  • Kristen

    I think that putting on lingerie is a hit with men! My fiance loves it when I slip on something cute and lacy! Even if he has seen it before, he always mentions how much it turns him on! That to me is enough to keep wearing it for him! I love getting all dressed up for someone when they truly do appreciate it. Otherwise, I feel like its just a waste.

  • Dd Exhibitionist

    getting naked in public always makes my sex better haha

  • alien

    Learn how your own body works and stop expecting your man to operate it like a machine. The vast majority of sex advice, both here and elsewhere, focuses on teaching men how to give women pleasure, and blames any and all bedroom problems on them. He doesn’t cum? His fault; he needs to stop masturbating, stop watching porn and relax. She doesn’t cum? His fault; he needs to learn what she needs. These, and are their related pieces of advice, are a lie. It’s your body and you need to be in control of it. Stop expecting your SO to give you orgasms and learn how to have them. If you don’t, nothing your SO can do will help you. Your sex life will be astronomically better if you and your partner know what you want and work out between you how to both get it.

  • longjohn

    When doing missionary, if you put a pillow on her lower back or you lean towards her, using your forearms and elbows against the bed or floor or whatever, you can go way deeper and also grind against her clit as you drive into her pussy. When you’re doing regular missionary, you can also press her legs together, and do a more circular thrust that involves up and down motions rather than just in and out motions. Some girls like it deep, but a lot of the pleasurable points of a vagina are within the first couple inches of the entrance. Come hither technique for fingering. Lots and lots of foreplay. Say their name when you’re fucking them. Tell them how much you like fucking them, how hot they are, how you need them, how tight their twat is… give them a nice sensual massage just for fun and make sure you get close to touching their tingly bits but either just graze them or stop just before. build anticipation. Say the word fuck a lot, smile, be confident in what you’re doing. For dudes, do kegels, it helps a lot. I think girls have a variant of that too that can help them with their tightness, though general exercise helps too. Other then that, make sure you relax or else you’ll drive yourself to orgasm too quickly — a helpful tip for that is to take deep breaths, because when you exhale you naturally relax the muscles around your stomach and stuff. When you’re fucking someone in the carry position, put them against a wall. let’s you go for way longer and you have way more leverage. Also, try using the carry as a finishing position and not as an opener, it’s tiring as fuck no matter how swole you are. ALL OF THIS WON’T WORK FOR EVERY GIRL. COMMUNICATION. CULTURE. Like some people here hate the word twat, or hate when you tell them how tight you are. Some people hate when you use their name, some people loooove it. So you always gotta get those nuances of communication out of the way. But the general guideline is that people like intimacy during sex and also like being complimented. For example, if “your pussy is so fucking tight” isn’t to their fancy, maybe something like “You are so… fucking/damn… hot right now.” Some people don’t even like dirty talk (which is a damn shame) in that case, make sure they still know you’re enjoying it by vocalizing it with some slight moans, breaths or groans. It’s a natural thing anyway, so let it happen and feel good. And yeah some girls hate it deep, whereas some girls really need that deep penetration to get off. Don’t worry, you won’t sound like a newb if you ask her how you can make her feel better. It’s actually really considerate and nice of you to think about your partner!