Since the dawn of time, men have pondered how to last longer in bed. These tips will help you learn how to make it happen.
For the longest time men have been obsessed with increasing the size of their “package” without realizing there’s more than just size to become the ultimate lovemaking machine. After all, a weapon is only as good as the skill of the wielder, as folk wisdom says. And knowing how to last longer in bed is one big way to make you stand out among men.
And indeed, women agree that someone who lasts longer in bed easily trumps a 10-incher anytime. Proving men should pay more attention to improving their overall performance rather than enhancing their length and girth.
How to last longer in bed
Remember, good sex is like a tourist bus taking the scenic route–slow and steady. And for those guys who find themselves under a timer when the action begins–never fear, there are numerous techniques both simple and complex to make you last longer in bed.
***Avoid overstimulation. Let’s admit it, being inside her feels really good. It feels good that when you reach the point of no return, you realize that it’s just been a measly three minutes.
#1 Masturbate before having sex. This is the easiest go-to technique that most guys know and do. Masturbating an hour or 30 minutes before lets you release that pent-up arousal that leads you to finishing quickly.
When a guy ejaculates, it releases endorphins which regulate your body’s functions to a more relaxed state giving you more control of your man parts. Also, releasing that sexual energy through masturbation gives you time to build it up again through foreplay, making you last longer. [Read: Male masturbation techniques: 11 unique moves for max pleasure]
#2 Avoid sexy, stimulating thoughts. It is natural to get caught in the moment during sex. The overall pleasure of being inside while seeing her sex face and hearing her moans can just be the minor trigger for you to prematurely orgasm.
As funny as it sounds, reducing this positive feedback by thinking unsexy stuff distracts you from the moment and makes you last longer than a minute or two.
Thinking unsexy thoughts disconnects the overload of sensations that flows from your penis to your brain preventing it from sending signals that urge you to orgasm. So next time, think of something heavy and serious like mathematics, rocket science, or your favorite dramatic movie moment to keep you from going off.
#3 Change positions when you’re nearing ejaculation. Changing positions when you feel you’re almost there puts a brake on the urge to ejaculate. Not only that it’s unassuming under the ruse that you simply want to switch positions, the need to move around puts your mind off the heat of the moment calming your raging boner back to its working level. [Read: Average time for sex: How long we want vs. how long we last]
#4 Focus on having a long foreplay. Most would think that this is a bad idea since foreplay only serves to get you heated up for the fight. However, if you focus more on a long foreplay, it creates the opposite effect.
Having a long foreplay session allows you to focus your mind on another task other than getting an orgasm from intercourse. It lessens your chance to blow your load quickly, compared to if you do it after a short foreplay session. [Read: How to foreplay: The key for the best sex of your life]
#5 The Squeeze. The “squeeze” is a little trick where you press on either the base of your penis or on your perineum *the patch of skin between the scrotum and anus* when you feel you’re about to come. This trick produces variable results but helps you to reduce the urge to ejaculate. It will not work the first time around, so practice finding the right spot to put pressure on.
***Use enhancers. If sheer force of will cannot do the trick, it never hurts to seek a little help from artificial means. Apparently, the market is aware of a guy’s special need to last longer and provided a variety of pharmaceuticals to help you get those extra minutes in bed.
#6 Use a thick condom. Most guys hate thick condoms because it lessens the sensation you get during sex. But for guys who get overstimulated easily, this might be your newfound best friend.
#7 De-sensitizing agents. De-sensitizing agents are drugs that function like a temporary anaesthetic by numbing down the area on which they are applied to. Originally developed for military and athletic first aid use, these topical drugs take the form of creams, gels, and aerosol sprays. Apply to your penis to let you “take control” of the situation. Use according to the right dosage though or you might lose sensation from your wiener altogether.
#8 Viagra. AKA, the blue pill. This somewhat expensive medication serves as the last resort if you really want to last like a male porn star. Though neither we nor the ladies recommend 40+ minutes of sexual action. Viagra is a formulation that serves to keep you erect and partially numb down there to be able to do the job. However, it does come with side effects. Consult your doctor before using. [Read: Limp penis to rocket shaft: 20 ways to fix it as a couple]
***Physical training and a few lifestyle hacks. If you want to know how to last longer in bed, you need to remember that sex is also a physical activity. And like any physical activity, you train your body to in order to be good in that particular activity. Lasting long in bed is no exception to this rule. And just like any good sportsman, it takes physical fitness and a healthy lifestyle.
#9 Get a good night’s rest. Sounds like a cop out answer but if you recall your previous sexual encounters that happened in different times of the day, you’d agree that sex is better and longer if you are well-rested. That’s why early morning sex is more fun and fulfilling than drunk, after-work sex. Get that full sleep and store up stamina to be able to last longer in bed.
#10 Avoid drinking alcohol prior to sex. Yes, alcohol numbs down the senses, gives you courage to ask her out, creates that beer-goggle worldview, but it also reduces your performance. You lose control over your man parts, and it reduces your stamina so badly that you barely make it to the second round. [Read: Alcohol’s effects on sex and your libido]
#11 Get in shape. This includes proper diet and lots of cardio and exercise. Exercise builds your stamina which allows you to go on all through that humping without breaking into a sweat. Not only that, it also makes you physically attractive and fit to pull off all those level five difficulty kamasutra positions.
As mentioned, sex is a physical activity and a fit body is likely to function better during sex than an overweight or overly lanky one.
While women are split on the fact whether size really matters, they all universally agree that performing and lasting longer is a more desirable quality in a man. Just try these ways on how to last longer in bed, and see the difference!
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Paul Timothy or “Morty” (as he likes to call himself) is a writer-photographer based in Manila. After finishing a degree in Psychology he found himself swep...