Nearly anything you can do to a woman with your hands will feel better if you do it with your mouth! Use these 11 hot spots to arouse her instantly.
A woman’s body is an incredibly sensuous creation. The slightest kiss on the right spot can send shivers down her spine, give her chills or goosebumps, or make her body shake with delight.
Some women can even achieve orgasm from being kissed in the right place, even with no contact with her genitals!
The right touch for kissing is easier said than done. Bad kissing can completely kill the mood, or worse.
Kiss too hard on her neck and you’ll leave an embarrassing mark, suck too hard on her breast and you could hurt her. If your kiss is too light, you might tickle her. And of course, if you simply aren’t making her feel good, you will bore her, and she will be turned off.
11 perfect hot spots to kiss a woman and arouse her
The perfect kiss in the perfect place is not easy. Really, there’s no substitute for practice and experience, but if you follow this guide, you’ll be well on your way.
#1 Lips. Smooching, French kissing, tongue action, sucking face, first base – no matter what you want to call it, kissing on the lips is essential. Being a great kisser can mean the difference between only getting a kiss, and getting much more.
A woman’s skin is quite sensitive, and this is especially true around the lips. Keep a clean shave, or condition your beard or mustache so it doesn’t irritate her skin. Few things ruin a kiss faster for a woman than feeling sandpaper rubbed on her face.
Note – Be giving. Guys love kissing breasts, and women love having them kissed. Even a selfish lover will do it. But a giving lover will kiss a woman anywhere, as long as she gets pleasure from it. A great lover is unselfish and will delay his own pleasure for hers. A guy might not get much out of kissing her in all of these places, at least not immediately, but it definitely pays to be giving. [Read: Foreplay done right – The art of really turning a girl on]
#2 Neck. The skin on the sides of the neck is some of the most sensitive on the body. Give it slow, sensual kisses with minimal suction. Drag the smooth, wet skin of your inner lips slowly over her skin and you’ll already start to hear her moan softly. Don’t be afraid to let your tongue play too, but don’t slobber her. After the kiss, her skin should be dry within a minute.
Neck kisses can go from just below her earlobe, down to just over her collarbone. Don’t kiss the front of her neck, as even slight contact can push on her windpipe. Don’t leave a “hickey” or any bruising marks.
#3 Collarbone. This is not as sensitive, but as you kiss her neck, you’re already right in the neighborhood. This is the area where her neck meets her chest and shoulder. Kiss just above the bone, and down from the base of the neck onto her shoulder. Soft kisses with minimal suction are best here.
Note – The obvious. This guide wouldn’t be complete without mentioning the obvious. They are probably the most-kissed body part after the lips, so without further ado…
#5 Breasts. After her genitals, her breasts are the most sexually sensitive part of a woman’s body. Some women can even achieve orgasm just from having them kissed. Anywhere on either breast is highly sensual, but the nipple is the most sensitive part.
You can usually kiss the breasts harder than other body parts, but keep in mind that every woman is different. Strong groping and sucking might feel amazing to one woman, but painful to another. Nipple squeezing and pinching can hurt like crazy, or drive her crazy. Also, in the days before her period arrives, a woman’s breasts tend to swell and become extra sensitive.
Start kissing her breasts slowly and gently. Gradually start to apply more pressure, squeeze and suck a little harder, and press her nipple tighter between your lips *not your teeth!*. She’ll give you cues as to whether she wants more. And don’t be afraid to ask. Establishing communication during foreplay is a key to great sex.
Front to back
If you’re sitting behind her or she’s lying down on her stomach, there are still great places to kiss her.
#6 Nape of the neck. With the spine so near the skin’s surface, the nape is very temperature sensitive. Kiss her nape lightly, leaving it just a little bit wet. Then gently breathe warm air from your nose on it. Kiss it some more, then lightly blow cool air on the spot. You’ll send shivers down her spine.
#7 Back. A woman’s back is like sculpted artwork and should not be neglected. Kiss downward from her nape as lightly as you can. Try to let your lips graze the tiny hairs along her spine, without actually touching her skin. Hold her tight as this will cause her body to break out in goosebumps. [Read: 18 sex tips for men to make her really crave for more!]
The area below a woman’s breasts and above her waist is often treated as a no-man’s-land. This need not be the case, the skin here, if kissed right can drive her as crazy as kissing her neck.
#8 Ribs and sides. Light kissing here can feel great for many women. Work your way up by dragging your tongue over her skin, or down with the wet, inner part of your upper lip. Woman who aren’t at all ticklish won’t always get anything from this, and women who are very ticklish might not be able to take it. For most women though, it will feel great.
#9 Waist. Just inside her hipbones along her waist is a hotspot with great potential for pleasure. Kissing and sucking here stimulates some of the glands running to her genitals. It’s a great teaser for what lies ahead. [Read: 11 sexy ways and ideas for men to get way better in bed]
Below the belt
As you kiss further down her body, tell her how sexy she is. Keep her comfortable. If she feels self-conscious, she won’t feel pleasure.
#10 Inner thighs. This is one of the sexiest areas on a woman’s body. It’s also one of the most sensitive. Just running your fingers lightly over it, even through jeans can excite her. Imagine what kissing can do. Start around mid-thigh with smaller, dry kisses. Work your way up letting the kisses get wetter and linger longer. When you’re almost to the top of the leg, suck with medium pressure and wetness and drive her wild.
#11 Vagina. If you’ve put in a good amount of foreplay, her vagina will already be extremely sensitive, so start very slowly with soft kisses on the outer lips. Then, part these outer lips with your tongue and kiss her inner lips. Tease her with lots of small kisses before oral sex. The anticipation will drive her wild, but she’ll love it if you make it worth her wait.
Unfortunately, many guys see a woman’s pleasure as optional. Don’t be that guy. If you want to be a great lover, you absolutely must know how to kiss here. A fuller explanation will take more than one paragraph, and of course there’s no substitute for experience. But you absolutely should acquaint yourself with good oral sex techniques.
There is not one single way to make love. Different things excite different women, and even with the same woman, a lack of variety quickly grows stale. A skilled lover is one who has a wide array of skills and techniques in his repertoire. He can call on any of these tools to mix and match, and drive a woman crazy.
Knowing these different kissing techniques and locations are an important tool for your lovemaking toolkit. They will make you more confident during foreplay and during sex. Add these 11 hot spots to your repertoire and you’ll instantly become a better lover.
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