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How to Use a Dildo Correctly & Give Yourself a Great Happy Ending

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Dildos seem to be pretty straightforward, but you’d be surprised how many women use them wrong. This is how to use a dildo the right way.

Sex toys are great for a lot of reasons. Not only can you get yourself off without the need of a guy, sometimes it’s better to do it yourself. But knowing how to use a dildo effectively is something not many women have mastered just yet.

There’s a lot more to it than just sticking it in and letting it be. Knowing which techniques work best and how to use is to meet your needs is something all women should know. For the sake of orgasms, learn how to use a dildo correctly!

Benefits of masturbating

For those of you thinking masturbation is bad in any way, shape or form, you’re wrong. It’s actually super beneficial to you. It’s healthy to masturbate and learn what you like and need in the bedroom.

Not only is it a great stress reliever, but you’ll also make your sex life better in the process. When you understand what you need to get off, you can help you partner get you there and therefore, you’ll have a lot more orgasms. [Read: 15 sexy benefits of masturbation you can’t ignore]

How to use a dildo correctly and actually get off

Knowing how to use a dildo may seem obvious to some people, but there are others out there who just can’t seem to get it right. And by that, I mean they’re just not getting off like they should.

If this sounds like you, don’t worry. You’re in the right place. We’ve got just what you need to learn how to use a dildo the right way.

#1 Find the right one for you. There are so many different types of dildos out there. Your job first is to find one that’s right for you. This can depend on a ton of things like length, girth, and even the material it’s made of.

If you tend to feel pain when your partner goes deep, then you should use a shorter size. You may even decide to get a few of them and test out which one is best for you.

As for material, you can choose from a variety of them like silicone, rubber, latex, jelly, glass, metal, leather, plastic, and even Cyberskin. Your best bet is to go to a sex toy store and feel a variety of them until you find one you’d like best. [Read: Homemade dildos for when the moment strikes unexpectedly]

#2 Get one that’s curved. You also have to think about whether or not you want a realistic one or one that doesn’t look anything like a penis at all. These ones are usually curved and serve the distinct purpose of hitting your g-spot directly.

Choosing a curved one will be best if you really want to learn how to make yourself have great, intense orgasms. The curve is made so it hits your g-spot as soon as you insert it. So if finishing is your plan, a curved one is best.

#3 Get some alone time when you’re relaxed. This is essential. You need to have a large chunk of alone time and you need to be relaxed. Learning how to use a dildo properly takes time. You may need a couple of hours to really get the full effect.

So make sure you won’t be interrupted. It also doesn’t help if you know you have someone in the house who can barge in at any second. The best time to do this is when you’re completely alone for hours at a time. [Read: How to make the most out of your alone time]

#4 Set the mood right. Yes, you should always set the mood when you’re going to masturbate. You need some foreplay for yourself, too! Getting yourself set up and in the right mindset to let loose and have fun can help you finish faster.

And that means you’ll be able to figure out what works best when you’re in the right mood. So turn down the lights, put on some music that relaxes you, and get to it! [Read: 11 solo sex positions to get you off tonight]

#5 Place a pillow under your butt and lay down. Now it’s time to get started. Before trying any other positions, lay on your back and place a pillow under your butt. This will tilt your pelvis up and allow you to hit your g-spot much easier.

This is the best position to start with because it’s the easiest way to hit your g-spot directly. Other positions do work great, but this one will help you start stimulating the right areas from the start. [Read: Pillow humping 101 – How to  masturbate with a pillow]

#6 Use some lube. You need to use lube. Your dildo offers no lubrication and it’s just easier to get started when it’s all lubed up and ready to go. For that reason, you should get a great lube that you know works well. You’ll also want to make sure it’s a kind that’s easy to clean off – since you’ll have to do that when you’re finished with your toy.

#7 Slide it in and start experimenting. You’re all ready to go now so slip it in and get started. The trick is to start slowly. Don’t just force it in and start moving it in and out at ferocious speeds. You need to get warmed up first.

So begin slowly and increase your speed as you start figuring out what feels good. This will ensure that you’re stimulating that g-spot just right. [Read: 10 female masturbation tips for guaranteed orgasmic bliss]

#8 Try some deep movements. Now that you’re all warmed up and ready for more pleasure, try moving the dildo in deeper. If you’re someone who tends to like deep penetration, this will be great for you.

While it’s in pretty deep, move your pelvis around, too. This will help the dildo hit all the places that don’t normally get reached. And that means you’ll be able to figure out if there’s a sweet spot you’ve been missing.

#9 Then try to keep the movements shallow. You should also try some shallow, quick movements. Some women have their g-spot located a lot lower than others and don’t really need the deep penetration. This may actually be why you can’t finish if that’s something you have a hard time with.

Doing this can help you figure out if you really need deep penetration or if all you need is some shallow thrusting. Wiggle the dildo around at this shallow depth and see if you can hit any sweet spots. [Read: 7 reasons some women hate their vibrators]

#10 Try different positions and different places. Now that you’ve got the basics down you’re free to try new positions. Some people report that the best positions are doggy style, laying on your back, and even laying on your stomach.

Don’t forget that you can also try different places. If you went with a dildo that has a suction cup on the bottom, you can try some standing positions in your shower. Switch it up and keep trying until you find that perfect position for you.

[Read: 14 helpful masturbation tips for women]

Learning how to use a dildo correctly is something that will take time. But once you figure it out, you’ll be very glad you did.

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Bella Pope
Bella Pope
Bella is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog, p...

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