Is sex getting boring or monotonous? Not anymore! Try these 30 tips on how to spice up your sex life and you can bring the sizzle back in no time. By Alison Ricard
New relationships are always exciting, especially when it comes to sex.
The whole act of exploring each other and experiencing new together times in bed can be a rush that few things can ever give you.
In a perfect relationship, your compatibilities have to be perfect and the sex has to be awesome.
It’s quite a bit of a contradiction though.
Relationships need time to build trust and compatibility.
On the other hand, sex starts to get repetitive after a while.
How to spice up your sex life
If you’re in a relationship for a while, find new ways to spice up your sex life and keep it interesting.
Having sex with a new partner may feel great, but there’s nothing better than getting innovative in bed with someone you love and understand completely.
We live in a kinky world and what works sexually for one couple may not always work for another. [Read: Sexy tips to fantasize about someone else]
Find your own ways to excite each other in bed. However taboo or crazy it may seem, as long as both of you enjoy it and it doesn’t affect your relationship or anyone else negatively, you really have nothing to fear or lose.
If you want a few tips on how to spice up your sex life, here are 30 great pointers to get started in the right direction.
#1 Have an affair with you partner. Plan a date with each other and pretend like both of you are having an affair. You’ll never realize how sexy it feels until you try it. Meet each other in a restaurant and seduce each other like two lusty lovers.
#2 Role play in bed. Dressing up as someone else is an easy way to enact all your secret fantasies without having an affair. Try being a doctor and a patient, a professor and student, or even a soldier and a journo. [Read: The beginners guide to sexual role playing in bed]
#3 Think teen. You may have fallen in love as young teens. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t behave like one now and then. Get creative and behave like eighteen year olds over a weekend. Dress like one, hang out in places you used to, and make out like teens!
#4 Add more foreplay. One of the best ways to have great sex is by focusing on foreplay. Spend 15 more minutes on making each other horny before having sex. Both of you will end up having better sex. Caress and compliment each other’s bodies during those 15 minutes.
#5 Make sex an impromptu, unpredictable act. As hard as it may seem, avoid planning ahead for sex or scheduling time for sex unless both of you are on very busy schedules.
#6 Be shockingly innovative and flirty. As the relationship matures, you need to come up with new ways to get innovative. Indulge in something that gets your heart racing and your sex life will get super sexy. [Read: 7 types of sex worth having]
#7 Get sexy things into your bed. Bring in new excitement into your bed. Visit your local pharmacy or an adult store and bring in sex toys, lubes, pheromones and anything else that works to reinvigorate your senses.
#8 Feel sexy. Look good and start working out if you have to. Pamper yourselves with fragrant scrubs, sexy lingerie, and get yourself a new hair cut. Feel sexy, and you’ll look sexy. [Read: How to increase your sex appeal]
#9 Bring your wildest fantasies alive. Just because you’re in a long term relationship doesn’t mean you have to refrain from enacting your fantasies. Talk about it with your partner and indulge in them together. [Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for guys and top 10 sexual fantasies for girls]
#10 Practice abstinence. If you know you can have sex whenever you want, it’ll lose its charm. Avoid having sex now and then, and save it for days when you go clubbing or indulge in something exciting. Plan this right and it can be a huge turn on.
#11 Surprise each other sexually. Surprise your partner into a sexual high now and then. Surprise him by receiving him naked when he comes home, or tell him that you’re not wearing your panties under the short skirt when both of you are out having dinner.
#12 Think beyond the bed. There are many sexy places to get naughty besides the bed. Think kitchen, couches, bathroom, backyard, or a pool. Get innovative and the sexual rewards will be more pleasurable.
#13 Add food and beverages. Bring food into bed, or cook together. Aphrodisiacal food can make lovemaking more romantic, and a few drinks can make both of you drunk and horny.
#14 Sensual massages. Get naked and give each other a sensual massage without focusing on sex. Pleasure each other and let the fingers linger a while in the tingling spots. As long as the focus is on helping your partner orgasm, it’ll make both of you feel good.
#15 Have tantric sex. Introduce tantric sex into the bedroom to have a passionate and intense sexual experience. [Read: Tantric sex tips for first timers]
#16 Think kinky. Nothing beats the excitement of wild and kinky sex when the relationship is starting to slow down in bed. Talk about your fantasies and bring your kinky fetishes and lusty desires to life.
#17 Take off on a sexy vacation now and then. Pick a vacation spot that both of you would like, be it a crowded sex resort or a beautiful, idyllic paradise island. And spend all vacation thinking of nothing but sexy thoughts. [Read: Tips to have a sexy vacation on the beach]
#18 Sexy texts and calls. Don’t wait for your partner to be around to seduce them. Send a few sexy photos in the middle of the day and tease your partner into wanting more when both of you get together at night. [Read: Tips to take a good looking naked photo]
#19 Watch porn. Sometimes, watching porn can help both of you get into the mood and have a better time making love while watching another couple making out on the screen. [Read: How porn saved my sexless marriage]
#20 Fool around. Don’t wait for some alone time to make out with each other. Be affectionate with each other all the time, and take affection to a whole new level now and then. Kiss your partner when they’re on the phone with someone else, or take their pants off and give them an oral in the middle of a phone call.
#21 Body play. Play with each other’s bodies instead of just having sex. Paint on your partner’s body with glow in the dark paints or edible colors.
#22 Make a home video. Make a video together while having sex. Delete it after the act if having a sex tape freaks you out, or make sure you hide it in a safe place. Watching yourselves having sex in the video and having sex at the same time can be a huge rush for anyone.
#23 Wear sexy outfits. Wear revealing clothes, and every new and then, reveal something and make it seem like an accident. [Read: Sexy public flashing confessions]
#24 Use mirrors. Use full length mirrors alongside your bed to heighten your sexual experience. You can have sex really close to the mirror if you want to recreate a foursome sexual fantasy. Watch yourself or imagine another couple. [Read: Guide to start swinging]
#25 Make some noise. Moaning in bed or whispering sexy nothings is a huge turn on that can’t be explained. Talk to each other in bed and you’ll arouse your partner in no time. [Read: How to sound sexy in bed]
#26 Sexual setting. Design your bedroom to revolve around sex. Use fragrances and candles, and the perfect cushions to make lovemaking feel like a sexy luxury. [Read: Tips to arrange your bedroom for sex]
#27 Be truthful. You can’t experience the best sex of your lives or even stay loyal to each other unless both of you exchange ideas and sexual thoughts with each other, be it about a sexual crush or a sexual memory. Don’t be awkward mentally, and your sexual romance will bloom.
#28 Read an erotic story together. The mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. Create fantasies and imagine it together. It’ll be a bigger turn on than you think.
#29 Create sexual memories. Try something new all the time. Have sex in a car or on a beach while on a vacation, skinny dip or even with another couple in bed. As long as you create new and exciting memories all the time, sex can never ever get boring. [Read: How to skinny dip]
#30 Believe in the relationship. Nothing can tarnish your relationship as long as there’s love and trust in the air. You may indulge in many kinky ideas or even go as far as swinging. But as long as there’s love and trust, both of you can always find a way to rekindle the excitement of sex without losing each other. If you’re only looking for ways to have better sex with your partner and not a way to cheat on your partner, then your relationship will definitely stand the test of time.
Enjoy the bliss of romance and work on keeping the passion boiling with new and sexy things to try together. [Read: Best songs to listen to while having sex]
Get these 30 tips on how to spice up your sex life right and you’ll have the sexiest time and the most loving of relationships, all in one!
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