If you’re worried about what your moaning sounds like, you’re not alone. Here are our tips for how to moan without sounding awful and annoying.
When it comes to the bedroom, we’re all a little insecure about everything. Does our hair look stupid? Do we look unattractive in general? Do we sound okay while moaning? It’s normal to feel these things but if you’re insecure about your moaning, learning how to moan in a more alluring way might help.
Truth be told, the person you’re sleeping with probably doesn’t mind your moaning either way. However, if you’re the type to moan in such a loud, uncontrolled way that it sounds like a dying walrus, refining that sound might do you some favors.
Moaning can be a huge turn on to some people
Whether you’re a guy or girl, moaning can be something that really gets you going. That being said, if you’re really bad at it and it’s something your partner likes a lot, you might want to try sounding better. Adjusting how you moan to be sexier can make a huge difference if your significant other is really into it.
It’s no different than altering the way you kiss or do any other sex act. Even though moaning is more of a natural thing that happens when you feel pleasure, it is possible to practice doing it in different ways. Ultimately, doing a certain moan for so long can change how you naturally do it. [Read: 9 sexy reasons why women moan and groan in bed]
How to moan in a sexy, lustful way
If you’re troubled by the sound of your moan, we have some tips to help you sound a bit sexier and not quite like a squealing rat. Follow these and your moan will be a major turn-on for your partner.
#1 Listen to yourself while with your significant other. Don’t just zone out completely. Sure, you want to get into it but pay attention to what you sound like naturally. You have to be aware of what your partner is hearing if you want to adjust. [Read: Why most men choose not to moan in bed]
#2 Listen to yourself while masturbating. If you’re not really able to pay attention to how you naturally sound with your significant other, then listen while masturbating. You don’t have to worry about what you sound like during that time.
It’ll help you let it all out so you can really figure out where you should go from there. Make sure you’re home alone and then go to town. Let your moan out loud and natural so you can figure out what it truly sounds like.
#3 Watch porn. Porn can be a great indicator for how you should sound when moaning. Oftentimes, these people know how to do it in a way that’s sexy and attractive rather than harsh and distracting.
Listen closely and they’ll teach you how to moan. Just be careful not to take notes from the wrong person. Some people in porn go overboard and aren’t realistic at all. [Read: 10 good reasons why women should watch porn]
#4 Record yourself. If you really want to hear what you sound like, just record yourself while you’re getting busy with your partner or even with yourself. Sometimes we can’t always truly hear what we sound like.
You might think you sound horrible only to find out you do sound sexy naturally. It’s all about perspective. You might not be able to truly hear your own moaning unless you hear it from another source.
#5 Start out soft and quiet. There’s no need to be really loud when you moan right away. One way to make it really sexy is to start off with a softer moan. Keep your mouth closed even and just start with a groaning sound.
The build-up to a full, sexy moan will drive your partner crazy in the best way. This also sounds a lot more natural and it won’t sound fake when there’s a real build. It should basically be tied into your pleasure. The more pleasure you’re feeling, the louder your moan will be. [Read: How to have soft, sensuous sex]
#6 Say their name. One way to learn how to moan in a really sexy way is to drop your significant other’s name in while getting it on. Not only will they enjoy hearing your moans, but when their name comes from your lips in the middle of one, it’ll make them even hornier.
You just have to make sure you say the right name. If you’re currently having casual sex with a couple different people, be aware that using the wrong name could ruin everything.
#7 Use some dirty talking. Dirty talking while moaning can be one of the hottest things. All you really have to do is ask if they like it. You can even just say how good it feels. It’s very simple to throw some casual dirty talk in with a moan here and there and that’ll increase how sexy it sounds even if the moaning isn’t the nicest. [Read: 23 dirty talking tips to say the sexiest words]
#8 Don’t scream. You might see a couple porn videos of people screaming with pleasure and those aren’t really realistic. Yes, you can feel pleasure that intense but that level of noise is almost never realistic and your partner will feel like you’re faking it.
Just keep the decibels down. You can indicate that it’s intense pleasure without having to scream. That sound isn’t usually sexy, either.
#9 See what they seem to like best. It’s going to completely depend on what your significant other likes more. If they truly prefer you the way you sound naturally, then don’t change anything – even if you sound like a dying walrus.
They might also prefer you to keep a little quieter and not be so loud. Figure out what they seem to respond best to and keep doing it. [Read: 22 things men like and want in bed]
#10 Don’t do too much. Watching porn, as listed above, is great for hearing sexy moans, but they can also be a little unrealistic depending on the video you chose. Just don’t do too much. Moaning in the same tone and really loud for a long time is a pretty good indicator that you’ve been doing it too much.
#11 Don’t moan directly in their ear. Be conscious of where your mouth is in relation to their ear. It might seem really sexy to moan loudly while wrapped around them, but it can be super loud and could hurt their poor ears. That’s not fun for anyone. [Read: Why loud sex always sounds like she’s faking it]
#12 Just let it out naturally and don’t worry about it. Your moan probably isn’t nearly as bad as you think it is. If it sounds genuine, the other person is going to like it. Don’t worry so much about how you sound and just enjoy the sex instead.
If you’re too focused on what you sound like, you won’t have as much fun and it won’t feel as good. That means you won’t be genuinely moaning, either. And when that happens, your partner can tell.
When it comes to learning how to moan in a sexier way, it’s really about how you feel and what your partner seems to like. Pay attention to how they’re reacting and moan in a way that feels natural while sounding more pleasant.
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