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How to Have Phone Sex Like a Sexy Sassy Minx

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Want to arouse anyone with your voice? Find out how to have phone sex like a sassy minx with these tips and transform yourself into a sexy seductress. By Sarah Summer

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To many, phone sex is an experience that’s more awkward than sexy.

And for a few, having phone sex comes naturally.

But mastering the art of arousing your lover over the phone isn’t hard if you know the little sexy things that make the difference between an uncomfortable conversation and a sexy one.

[Read: 13 untold sex secrets you really need to know!]

Just so you know, almost always, phone sex isn’t planned ahead.

It just happens, as soon as one of you say something naughty over the phone.

And if both of you can talk horny without killing the mood, it would be the sexiest thing you could do with each other from a distance.

What is phone sex?

Phone sex is a form of aural sex. And aural sex is a form of sexual stimulation where you get turned on by listening to something that arouses you.

Almost all couples have indulged in phone sex in some manner, more so at the start of a sexual relationship.

Have you ever told your lover how much you’re missing them over the phone, especially when you’re horny? [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy doing it]

If you ever have, well, you’ve just initiated phone sex.

But what you say and how you sound after that line makes all the difference between a sexy orgasmic conversation and a dead end.

If you’re uncomfortable with the thought of having phone sex with your lover because the whole idea seems awkward, start by texting naughty. And just when things start to heat up, call your lover up and continue the conversation over the phone. [Read: 20 sexy naughty text messages to initiate phone sex]

Why should you have phone sex when you can just have sex instead?

As humans, we love variety every now and then. If you have sex in the same missionary position for a few years without talking dirty or fantasizing in bed, sex can definitely start to feel like a chore that’s best avoided.

Why is making out in public or groping each other in a car more exciting? Well, that’s because our mind craves for new sexual experiences that can heighten the arousal all the time. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas to have a sexually exciting relationship]

Just like that, phone sex can give you the much needed variety and the heightened sense of arousal, especially when both of you aren’t around each other.

And if both of you are in a long distance relationship, phone sex plays a crucial part in keeping both of you satisfied sexually, and can help reduce the odds of cheating on each other. [Read: Easy tips to make a long distance relationship work in your favor]

How to have phone sex like a sexy sassy minx

Do you want to be a seductive seductress over the phone? Do you want to turn on anyone you speak to within a few minutes of naughty talk?

It doesn’t matter even if you have no idea how to have phone sex, read on and you’ll be a natural in the art of sex talk in no time.

Just use these tips on how to have phone sex and you’ll definitely know everything you need to know to have a naughty, sexy conversation and arouse each other completely.

Patience and the art of phone sex

Phone sex can’t be rushed. Just like you need foreplay to enjoy passionate sex in bed, you need to be patient and set the mood right before you start talking dirty. Talking over the phone late at night will make the conversation feel a lot sexier and naughtier naturally.

To start off, just lower your voice almost to a whisper and continue talking. If your lover asks you why you’re whispering, just make an excuse or tell them you don’t want to be overheard. As soon as you start whispering, in all probability, your partner too will start emulating your voice and they’d start whispering too *even if they don’t realize it!*

Always remember to be patient and make sure both of you have at least an hour of alone time without any interruptions.

You don’t need to tell your partner you want to have phone sex and put pressure on them to initiate a sexy conversation. Just speak normally in a soft, low voice and the rest will follow.

Setting the mood right for phone sex

Your surrounding can play a big part in the way you feel and how much you can enjoy phone sex. If you want to have a naughty conversation without any distractions, use these tips to get your surrounding right.

#1 Turn down the lights. The darker the room, the more you can focus on what you’re hearing without getting distracted. Sometimes, even watching your own body can distract you. [Read: The art of arranging a sex bedroom]

#2 Cancel call waiting. If you’ve got the time, cancel call waiting before you call your lover up. Or just speak late in the night when you aren’t expecting any calls. If a friends calls you several times during your conversation with your lover, it can definitely kill the mood.

#3 Close your eyes. Lock the door, and isolate yourself from the world. Sit back on your couch, or get under the blanket. Focus all your attention on the words you’re hearing.

#4 Don’t play any music. Music may seem sexy and very appropriate at first, but it’ll be an annoying distraction in no time when you have a hard time hearing what you’re lover says.

#5 Talk softly. This is very important, never ever speak loudly if you want to initiate phone sex. Speak in your normal tone at the beginning of the call, and as the minutes of the call stretch on, get into bed and use a husky whisper and speak very softly. The more your lover has to strain to listen to you clearly, the more they’ll get drawn into the conversation. [Read: How to sound really sexy in bed and turn your partner on]

#6 Speak slowly. Don’t rush the pace of the conversation at any point of time. The more relaxed you feel and the slower you speak, the more relaxed and aroused your partner will feel.

#7 Make it personal. Call your lover by their name or their pet name now and then while talking about anything at all. It makes the whole conversation more personal and sensual.

The perfect lines to initiate phone sex

Once you’ve set the mood right for a sexy phone conversation, all you need to do now is make a subtle move to initiate phone sex with your lover.

Here are five perfect things to say to get into the mood for phone sex.

#1 “What are you wearing right now?”

#2 “I wanna read/tell you a story.” Read out an erotic passage.

#3 “I wish you were here with me right now…”

#4 Say something naughty to your lover. But don’t mention that you want to have phone sex.

#5 Text sex. Start off with text sex before calling your lover up. [Read: 20 sexy text messages to send a guy and seduce him]

The best kind of phone sex conversations

When you initiate the conversation with your lover using the lines mentioned above, your lover may not get the hint initially, but that doesn’t matter. They know you’re asking something naughty anyway.

Once you’ve initiated phone sex in your sexy, low voice, use any of these conversation makers to continue the conversation and steer it into seduction mode.

#1 “What would you do to me if you were with me now?” This is a great way to get your partner to do all the dirty talking. As long as you speak in a soft and sultry voice, you would definitely arouse your partner and get them talking.

#2 “Remember the time we had sex in the… I get wet just thinking about it” Talk about something sexual that both of you indulged in recently. It could be something as simple as a public show of affection, the last time you groped each other at a party, or your most recent risky sex act. If what you did turns you on, chances are, it turns your partner on too. [Read: Sexy real life road head confessions of a good girl]

#3 “Is there something you’ve always wanted to do with me… sexually?” This is a great way to communicate with each other and learn about each other’s sexual interests. And the best part, you can turn your heart to heart communication into something a lot more arousing by initiating phone sex around this idea.

#4 “You know, I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to…” Talk about your dirty fantasy, something you may or may not have told your lover already. As long as you get descriptive and explain what you like, your partner will get turned on just imagining what you say. [Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for men and top 10 sexual fantasies for women]

Play with yourself to have better phone sex

Phone sex is best experienced when you involve your privates. Close your eyes, get under the blanket and play with yourself as you speak to your lover. It’ll heighten the sensation, increase the arousal, help you shed your inhibitions, and drive your imagination into crazy overdrive!

Heavy breathing

This is as sexual as it gets. You need to know this, how you say something while having phone sex has a bigger impact than the actual words you use.

You don’t need to speak a lot while having phone sex. When you’re just enjoying the moment, don’t bother talking at all, even if there’s a good five minutes of silence. Just breathe into the phone and let your partner hear your heavy, lust laden panting. If you use it right, heavy breathing has the same effect as dirty words over the phone.

Explain yourself very clearly

Having phone sex with your lover is like reading out a novel to them. They’ll have no idea what you’re talking about unless you explain yourself very clearly. When you’re talking about how you’re touching yourself, or what you’d like to do to them if they were in bed with you, talk about every single detail that you’re thinking.

Get descriptive and name the body parts you’re touching. Explain how you think it would feel. Talk about how you’d like to undress your lover, and how you’d like to run your face and hands over your lover. The more descriptive you get, the hornier you’re going to make your lover feel! [Read: 10 fun sex games to play with your boyfriend]

Things to avoid doing while having phone sex

As exciting and sexually arousing as phone sex can be, there are a few precautions you need to remember to avoid ruining the conversation. Here are a few mood killers you definitely need to keep in mind.

#1 Don’t laugh while having phone sex. Even if something sounds funny, or you’re still not in the mood, don’t laugh about anything at all.

#2 Don’t raise the tone of your voice. Remember, the sexy whisper gives the best effect while having phone sex. At no point during the entire conversation should you ever raise your voice or speak in your normal tone. The second you lose your soft, sultry voice, your partner will snap out of the sexual trance you’ve created at the beginning of the conversation.

#3 Don’t change the topic. “I don’t know what to say…”, “I’m so embarrassed…” and other awkward lines always kill sex conversations. If you don’t know what to say, just breathe into the phone and relax, while thinking about something sexual. If your partner has something to say, they will. Just try to enjoy the sexual sensation flowing through your body instead of worrying about an uncomfortable conversation.

#4 Performing acts. If you’re uncomfortable doing something your partner asks, don’t snap back at them. If your partner asks you to touch yourself or perform an act and you don’t feel like it, whisper something like “I’ll do that in a while… I like what I’m doing right now/ I want to hear you do something” [Read: 7 sexiest types of sex you can ever have]

#5 Don’t lie. Lying or faking it over the phone creates an atmosphere of mistrust if your lover realizes you’re just pretending. Indulge each other while having phone sex. If your lover asks you to do something sexual with yourself and you’re comfortable doing it, do it instead of sitting back and lying that you’re doing it already. The more involved both of you feel in the act, the more arousing the conversation will be.

#6 Don’t get shocked easily. If your lover says something shocking or repulsive in the heat of the moment, just steer the conversation into something else calmly. We all know that it’s definitely easy to get carried away and say something unexpected or gross when we’re extremely aroused. So instead of killing the phone sex, just talk about something else. [Read: 7 flirty and sexy texting games you can play all night long]

Having phone sex can be fun and memorable, and a huge turn on even when both of you are far away from each other. It doesn’t matter if you’ve never had phone sex before or if you’re too uncomfortable talking dirty over the phone. All you need is to initiate it once, and you’ll see how arousing the experience can really be.

[Read: 30 sexy ways to start spicing up your sex life from tonight]

Use these tips on how to have phone sex like a sexy sassy minx and follow these conversation ideas, and you’ll see how easy, instinctive and arousing phone sex can really be.


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  • January 8, 2013 | Permalink |

    I remember when having phone sex the first time with an old boyfriend I was really embarrassed to say certain words. You can only guess what these were :) What I did to help myself is describe something instead of just saying the word outright. I would use a lot of adjectives and adverbs such as wet, hard, big, etc and then I moved on to more sexual words. Now a mix of the dirty, basic, and sexual words are all intertwined.

    Practice makes perfect!

  • January 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    I am a phone sex operator and these are great tips!

  • Alexis Brown
    November 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    Going to have phone sex for the first time tonight with my boyfriend so I hope that these tips really help me out tonight

  • Alexis Riley
    January 17, 2014 | Permalink |

    As a phone actress with sinfulcall, I can honestly say that it is a huge turn on. You get to be creative and make up stories about what you would do with each other. Every couple should try it with each other or even call a service like mine and for ten minutes I guarantee both of you will be very pleased by the time you end the call. It is great for relationships!

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