Want to spice up your sex life, but aren’t quite sure where to start? Get down and dirty in the bedroom with these 15 dirty things to do in bed.
Whether you have been with someone for years, or you are just starting out, we all need a little inspiration to get things hot and dirty in the bedroom from time to time.
Dirty things to do in bed
If you are a couple looking for some fantastic tips on how to broaden your horizons, or are free and single, but feel you could be more experimental in bed, these 15 tips will help.
#1 Be enthusiastic. Being sexy comes down to making an effort. No one is going to find sex with their partner seriously hot if they don’t seem that into it. [Read: How to be good in bed all the time]
Don’t just go through the motions—get involved. There is nothing hotter than an enthusiastic lover. So show that you’re into it, be open to new ideas, and you’ll see a huge improvement.
#2 Be bossy. You want hot sex? Take turns being the dominant one. Telling your partner what to do is a major turn on for both parties: not only does it mean you can direct them to the exact spots that make you go weak at the knees, it also feels good to be in charge from time to time.
#3 Get some playmates. Using toys in the bedroom is a great way of spicing things up and experimenting with what feels good. There are so many great gadgets out there nowadays, that even the most uncertain of lovers should be able to find something they want to try.
#4 Get out of the bedroom. Sex doesn’t have to be confined to the bed—take it elsewhere! There is nothing hotter than that feeling of, “I’ve got to have you now” urgency, so next time you are out and about, why not try dragging your partner to the nearest convenient spot and having a quickie there and then?
#5 Keep the lights on. Men are visual creatures, but having the lights on is a great way to make you both pay attention to each other’s bodies and really get into it. [Check out: Top 50 kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]
Sex in pitch blackness is never fun, so if you are feeling a bit self-conscious, dim the lights, or light some candles for more flattering, but still oh-so-sexy light.
#6 Tie each other up. Use something soft, like scarves or his work ties, and take it in turns tying each other up. The sense of helplessness is super hot for the person who is restricted, and the feeling of dominance and “I could do anything to you now” works for the other, too—a perfect combination!
#7 Watch porn. Watching porn is a great way to get things seriously steamy under the covers. There are so many different types to choose from, including a play out of every fantasy you’ve ever had, so it will be easy to find something that works for both of you. [Not sure where to start? Try: 10 reasons lesbian porn is way hotter than straight porn]
#8 Share your fantasies. We all have fantasies when it comes to sex, and there is no reason why you can’t turn these into reality.
It can be nerve-wracking, sharing your fantasies with your partner, but if they are open-minded and you trust them, sharing and acting out your fantasies can be incredible.
#9 Dirty talk. Talking dirty doesn’t come naturally to everyone, so if you’re a little unsure, start with the basics. For example, “You feel so good inside me,” “I love it when you do that,” etc. [Check out: How to talk dirty in bed]
When you feel more comfortable, then you can push it a little further. Some people are happy to get seriously into dirty talk, while others prefer to keep it light. Find your limits together and this can be a way of not only spicing things up, but getting closer, too.
#10 Get rough. Sex doesn’t always have to be loving and tender; there is nothing wrong with getting a bit rough from time to time. Again, this is something that each individual couple will have to work out together. For some, being pushed up against a wall and kissed roughly is enough, while others want to go full 50 Shades of Grey, and then some!
#11 Accepting all of him. OK, so this is one for the ladies, but many guys find it seriously hot if you are willing to swallow their cum—better still if you let them do it on your chest or face. This might well be a dream come true. Sure, it might be a bit messy, but then sex kinda is, right?
#12 Self-love. Touching yourself in front of your partner is hugely erotic. It shows confidence, which is a turn on in itself, is visually stimulating, and shows that you trust your partner enough to do a usually intimate and personal act in front of them.
#13 Dressing up. Get some seriously sexy underwear to get you in the mood! While the range for women is a little more extensive, guys can still make an effort to look good in their undies, too. The difference between a saggy old pair of Y fronts and some high-quality, well-fitting underpants is huge. As for the girls, well, there is so much choice, so knock yourselves out! [Check out: How to look sexy without trying to look sexy]
#14 Be spontaneous. Spontaneity in the bedroom is important. Don’t be one of those people who has to get everything “just right” before they are willing to do it. Sex is fun and messy. Strange noises will come out of you, you’ll get hot, you’ll get into unflattering positions, and you’ll sweat—and all of that is okay! Be spontaneous, and go with the flow, and you are far more likely to enjoy it.
#15 Be loud. No one wants to have sex with someone who is quiet as a church mouse when they do it. It’s weird and makes the other person think they are doing something wrong.
Noises throughout sex are great: they let your partner know that what they are doing feels amazing, and encourages them to keep going. When you are about to reach the big O, sometimes it’s fun *and hot* to shout the roof down!
Getting hot and freaky in bed is so much fun: it can bring you closer as a couple, broaden your sexual horizons, and bring multiple orgasms—what is not to love about that?
Really, it all comes down to confidence, communication, being open-minded with your partner, and seeing what things you both like and don’t like and taking it from there!
So there you have it: with these 15 great tips, you have a great base to build on to really spice up your sex life and introduce dirty things to do in bed. What are you waiting for? Get to work, and soon you’ll be reaping all the benefits!
Liked what you just read? Like us on FacebookTwitterPinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life.
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...