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Should You Become a Fuck Buddy?

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Having a physical relationship with a friend may be sexy, but should you become a fuck buddy? Here’s a fuck buddy guide that can help you find out if you’re ready for a sex buddy.

Click here to read the introduction on how to have sex with a friend before you figure whether you should become a fuck buddy.

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Should you become a fuck buddy?

Firstly, having sex with a friend can never feel as good, when love is missing in the air.

And however much you feel satisfied after bedding your friend, your mornings will still feel the same, maybe just a little sore!

Research has shown that people who are in love are a lot happier than the ones who are involved with a fuck buddy.

Even if they did indulge in a satisfying shag once in a while.

Do you need a fuck buddy?

It’s all a matter of what you want out of sex, really. If you’re looking at satisfying yourself physically rather than the needs of your partner, or if you don’t care about falling in love or having sex lovingly, then go right ahead. [Read: How to seduce a man into having sex with you]

But if you want to share the best moments of your life with someone special, and celebrate your successes and share your sorrows, then you definitely need to fall in love. You really can’t sit down and pour your feelings out to a fuck buddy all the time. It contradicts the whole definition of a fuck buddy!

Having a friend to have sex with is like getting drunk, you feel great when you’re indulging in it, but the mornings usually come with its share of emotional hangovers.

You feel stupid for having got physically intimate with someone so easily. Believe it or not, most of the time, you’d end up feeling used and cheap! But just like your craving for a drink, a few days later, you’d end up reaching for your cell phone, to make that booty call that gives you the satisfaction of a great night and a hollow morning after.

Becoming a fuck buddy

Zachery, who used to have sex with a friend, always felt used and stupid each time he walked out of his fuck buddy’s door.

“I loved the fact that I was having a great time in bed with no strings attached. But each time, I felt really stupid for doing it. It made me feel like a swinging gigolo! And at times, I wished things would just go back to the way my life was, before I started making out with this very good friend of mine,” he says. [Read: Do you like a friend's girlfriend?]

You really have to understand that there is no turning back once you make out with your friend. You could lose all the pure and innocent fun, and care about nothing other than rolling on a haystack.

And after a while, things can start fizzing out, and eventually, the once-a-week fuck buddy routine can turn into a once-a-month affair. And before you know it, you would just end up avoiding each other, and maybe even regret the fact that you’ve lost someone special because both of you can’t look into each other’s eyes, what with the both of your eyes’ focusing on all the other areas all this while.

Or worse, one of you could end up falling in love with the other person. And this, can completely ruin the fuck buddy relationship and someone’s emotional life! [Read: How to date a friend]

So should you become a fuck buddy?

Simply put, there’s nothing bad about having a fuck buddy, or indulging in a one night stand with a friend, but when you really like someone, give your emotions a second thought and ask yourself if this friend is someone special, and whether you would be willing to jeopardize your friendship for a few minutes of pleasure once in a while.

But then again, if you really like this person, then why not just spend more time with each other to see if there can be more than just a fuck buddy love between the both of you? Maybe a closer friendship. Maybe even true love.

There’s nothing wrong at all about becoming fuck buddies, as long as both of you know it’s just sex and nothing more. And also remember that sex should have nothing to do with your friendship and should never affect it. [Read: How to kiss a friend and get away with it]

So should you become a fuck buddy? Heck, go right on. But only if you’re ready to be a good fuck buddy material yourself!


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  • January 30, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have a fuck buddy who is my friend but I’m falling for him which can’t
    Work out I don’t think , he does cage fighting and is 7 years older than
    Me I choose him so I can spice things up for my self n have fun
    Started out once a week to once every 2-3 days
    I support him all the way in what he wants to do I encourage him
    To complete his goals we talk every day and every time he is not training
    It’s Ment to be fun , we say I love you but always add as a fuck buddy I’m falling for him
    An he is falling for me he relises he actually likes me for me
    I can be my self around him too
    We even watch movies at his house together
    He is really protective towards me
    His parents even want to meet me but we both said no
    I do have feelings for him I sence he does too but
    We won’t admit it see what started out fun like a fantasy
    Proves it is reality I miss him daily same
    With him
    Missing me
    I feel like I can’t breathe without him
    He is a real guy and mature too
    We have so much in common
    It use to be let’s have sex ma”
    Now it’s lets make love babeH
    I thought distance is what we need
    But it’s not even now I’m thinking about him
    Is this right ? And do you think we should date instead
    He always states he is not using me
    And he loves me

  • Niki
    February 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    i had a fuck buddy that i fell for, i always felt deeply connected to him and comfortable with him, but now after 3 yrs of randomnly sleeping with this guy ive had to break contact as he is not interested in a anything more, the last time we slept together i actually fell pregnant but miscarried his child a week later, that made me relise that things had gone too far, i miss him and breaking contact hurts me immensly but the feeling of being used and that im ok for a shag but nothing more is alot worse, my personal advise is dont go there, you will feel like shit even worse if u start falling for the person it will hurt u more than a breakup from a commited relationship, well it did for me, the only way having a fuck buddy will work is if u can turn ur emotions off but u must always take the other person in to account, also is this friend really worth loosing over just physical attraction and selfish needs, when u can keep a gd friend and look elsewhere for someone that u dont have a connection with

  • Niki
    February 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    hey tasha maybe try sitting him down and talking to him about this, ask him if he wants to take wat u have to the next level, if not then u will need to decide what u want to do, leaving it up in the air and falling for him more and more will backfire on u if he dosent want the same thing as u do, u dont want to waste time if someone else out there is willing to give u what he cant, i think you both should lay everything out on the table and see what happens, good luck and hope it works out for u:)

  • Mark
    February 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’m pretty damn good looking from what I hear. How do I get one these so called fuck buddies! Every girl I talk to wants something “more” from me. If I said yes, and I wish I could, I’d be juggling relationships. It seems like every girl I come across wants to anchor me. I just wanna fuck n’ cuddle.

  • Hannah
    March 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’ve recently hooked up with a guy I have known for almost 10 years. We both know we have had feelings for each other in the past, but never acted on them, until now… thing is, now I’m not sure if this is just friends with benefits, or the start of a relationship.

    We started talking about being friends with benefits when I was with my ex, but finished with that nightmare not long after we agreed to trying it out.

    So now, I kinda feel like I’m stuck. I’m loving the sex! But need to find out where this is going, if anywhere. I can’t just come out with it, can I? How can I ask?!

  • Shaz
    April 6, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have a fuck buddy and I’ve fallen for him we spend loads of time together cuddling watching film we even sleep in the same bed I’m at his every week and I always miss him when I’m not with him I don’t know if he feels the same but he always reminds me that were not a couple and I feel hurt when he says it I want to be in a relationship with him and not be fuck buddy’s but I don’t know how to tell him I’ve fallen for him

  • Alex
    April 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    I knew a woman who I thought was a friend. When she had a momentary split from her husband, she started flirting and pushing to get into it with me. I told her I’d much rather appreciate and enjoy her friendship than what she wanted to do, but she continued. After a while I had to ask myself, why should I value the friendship if she didn’t? So, slut it was!

  • Angel
    June 5, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have a male best friend that I have known for about 25 years. He is currently living with me. I used to have a crush on him back in high school. The crush eventually went away. We had lost contact for a number of years and about a little over 6 months ago, we got in contact with each other. He has always been there for me in the past and is now currently. I have never acted upon my crush in high school. Recently, I had a very vivid dream about him telling me he wanted to have sex with me. I can’t seem to get that dream out of my head. I have not told him about it yet. Neither one of us is in a relationship. I want to have sex with him all the time now and I am afraid that it will ruin our friendship. I don’t know how to bring it up, or if I should at all. I don’t want to ruin a 25 yr + friendship, but I guess in the back of my mind, I am hoping that we can have a sexual relationship (only). I fantasize about it all the time. Is there anyone that has any advise for me as to what I should do?

  • tanya
    June 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    Should a fuck buddy call you during the day or at night only ? And should there be any fights or arguments involved ?

  • Amaya
    October 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    so I hooked up with a guy that’s a public figure and I felt that I should give him the benefit of the doubt and not categorize him as a sleazy tv personality. Anyways we were seeing eachother for several months and were active yet we both stated that we just wanted to have fun. Eventually I started to fall for him and this is where things fell apart. He is older than me by atleast 6 yrs which I thought might be a good thing since hes mature but not he’s saying that he met someone new and that he wants to go on dates with her. When I had mentioned that no relationship thing he’s like ” it’s not a relationship, just dating? and that he didn’t feel comfortable with a buddy on the side while dating someone new. I mean we just saw eachother recently and it really bugs me because I really fell for him. At this point I have no idea what to do.

  • al tut
    January 15, 2014 | Permalink |

    everybody needs a fuck body. Problem is there are by the 100′s dating clubs offering this service
    (matching them) “supposedly” but they are all fake including the pictures fabricated so owner of operation constantly makes money by using these innnocent people. If there is a real private
    real club people don’t mind paying a membership fee for this great service for real people and real member I hope I made my point clear. Thank you. Ciao! Al

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