Sometimes we don’t all have a condom when we really need one. Does that stop us from having sex? No. Instead, we use the pull out method.
If you’ve been on birth control or have always used condoms, then you may not be familiar with the pull out method. Before I go any further, I should explain. The pull out method is when the male pulls out prior to ejaculating, thus preventing semen from getting inside the vagina. It sounds all technical, but, let’s be honest, most of us have done this at least once.
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I mean, sometimes you don’t expect to get all hot and bothered and then what are you going to do? For sure you can say no and zip your pants back up, but how many of us have actually done that?
I could say you should only be having sex with a condom, but it’s not realistic.
#1 It’s more common than you think. If you’ve taken a sex ed class or watched any romantic comedy, there’s usually talk about wearing a condom. And you know, it’s a good idea. Condoms prevent the spread of STIs and reduces the odds of pregnancy from occurring.
#2 It’s not 100% effective. Listen, no contraceptive is 100% effective. However, using a condom or birth control is better at preventing pregnancy than the pull out method. It’s not that the pull out method doesn’t work, it does. The problem is the guy pulling out.
#3 What about pre-cum? There’s a lot of confusion about pre-cum. But, after some research, it’s been discovered that pre-cum does contain active sperm. However, pre-cum is made up of one-third of active sperm, so though there is sperm in pre-cum, it’s a smaller amount than during ejaculation.
This doesn’t mean the female can’t get pregnant, because she still can. So even if you do pull out in time, there’s still a chance for pregnancy.
#4 Why do people risk it? I’m going to be 100% honest here and tell you why you have men who pressure women into having sex without a condom. No, it’s not because they want to bond with you and have a ‘connection.’ It’s very simple. It feels better.
Many men are unable to maintain a full erection while wearing a condom because it numbs the sensation. Now, that doesn’t mean as a woman should have sex without a condom. Trust me, they can handle wearing a condom for fifteen minutes. [Read: Are you falling for the just the tip excuse?]
#5 The pros to pulling out. Though the pull out method gets a bad rap, there are some pros to it. It just depends on your situation. The pull out method doesn’t cost you anything, you don’t have to take hormones, no doctor’s prescription, it can be used in the moment, and you don’t need to prepare in advance.
#6 The cons to pulling out. Of course, the number one problem is the risk. Particularly, if the man doesn’t pull out on time. Not to mention, you also have pre-cum to worry about.
In addition, pulling out doesn’t secure you from contracting an STI. Because you’re not wearing a condom, you increase your chances of contracting one, especially if you’re using this method during a one night stand.
#7 Have a backup plan. If you’re going to use the pull out method, then you should always be prepared for just in case it goes wrong. For example, he forgets to pull out. So, make sure you have access to emergency contraception and a condom, in case you have some suspicions. However, if you’re suspicious, perhaps don’t have sex with him.
#8 Women should know their cycle. If you’re a woman, and you prefer the pull out method, then you need to know your body. Download an app to help you track your cycles and alerts you when you’re at peak ovulation. So, during those high fertility days, make sure you wear a condom. [Read: The best birth control pill: How to choose the right one]
#9 Don’t just follow the pack. You may be thinking of trying the pull out method because it seems to be the “in” thing right now. Listen, you do what you feel is right. If you’re not comfortable trying it, you don’t have to.
There’s nothing wrong with using a condom. If you’re a woman, since you’re at risk for pregnancy, you make the decision of the contraception used during sex. It’s your body. [Read: 23 remarks that will kill the mood for sex]
#10 Check-ups. If you’re having sex using the pull out method and you’re not in a committed relationship, make sure you have regular STI tests. Actually, even if you’re in a committed relationship, you should be getting tested. Not all STIs show up right away, so if you’re in a new relationship, you may not see the symptoms until later on.
I know it seems like it’s putting distrust in the relationship, but it’s your body and you should know what’s going on in it.