The most underrated way to get it on with your lover has to be spooning sex. Find out how to make it steamier and feel better than any other kind.
When it comes to sex, we all have certain positions we like more than others. Much of the time, those positions depend on our mood, how it feels with that specific partner, and what’s the hottest to us. If spooning sex isn’t on your list of go-tos, it needs to be.
Many couples completely forget about this position during sex. It’s not one that’s typically considered “sexy.” However, when done correctly, it can be hotter and feel better than any other position.
Why you can’t just stick to the same position each time
I know you have your regular positions that you like the most. While it can be easy to just hop into one position you know you like, it’s also very limiting. Not to mention it will get very boring very quickly.
The thing about sticking with one position is that you’ll get used to it. Your body will become accustomed to that type of pleasure and ultimately, it’ll stop working to get you off. That’s why you need to switch it up. Try new positions that might feel even better than your usual. [Read: 13 extraordinary sex positions to try tonight]
How to make spooning sex incredibly sexy
Having sex in this position is typically known as very intimate and cuddly. While it’s definitely both of those things, it can also be extremely erotic and hot as hell. If you’re looking to feel the ultimate pleasure, here’s why spooning sex feels the best and how to do it right.
Why it feels the best
#1 It’s intimate. Need I say more? Intimate sex can be some of the best you ever have. When you add such a level of emotion and closeness to an already intimate act, it makes it even better. All of those sensations melt together and leave you with bliss. [Read: 10 intimate sex positions to feel the romance]
#2 You can feel their whole body against you. You’re not only getting the feeling of having sex, but the skin-on-skin contact involved with spooning sex is unmatched. You feel their entire body pressed up against you and that sensation and warmth makes it all the more better.
#3 It’s perfect for neck and ear kisses. If you’re a woman or have a woman who is especially sensitive in the ears and neck region, this position is perfect. The man has direct access to stimulate those erogenous zones in just the perfect way.
#4 It hits the g-spot the best. If you want to really hammer on the g-spot, spooning sex is the way to do it. When the man penetrates this way, it’s hitting the g-spot directly. You won’t have to contort your body in order to feel it in that spot. [Read: How to hit her g-spot and make her squirm]
#5 It takes minimal effort. Lazy sex that also feels incredible is basically the best. Imagine waking up very tired, but in the mood for some sex. This position requires minimal effort from either of you. You can just lay there and feel the pleasure without exerting a ton of energy.
#6 It’s great for all sizes. Whether your man is big or small, this position will work in their favor. Since spooning sex does such a great job of targeting the g-spot directly, even smaller men have success at hitting it with spooning sex. [Read: 8 best sex positions for men with smaller penises]
#7 The man gets a handful. Of your hair, of your body, of those boobs! The access the man has to your body is insane with spooning sex. They can move their hands all over your body – including the very important clit. Not only does this turn them on by getting to feel every inch of the woman, it’ll also feel great for the woman.
How to do spooning sex the right way
#1 Obviously, foreplay comes first. Never skip this. Ever. Even though this is a pretty lazy, relaxed position, foreplay does it wonders. Once both parties are all stimulated and ready to go, it’ll help make hitting that g-spot even sweeter. [Read: 10 foreplay moves all guys need to use on their ladies]
#2 Get warmed up in other favorite positions. If you want to really make the most out of spooning sex, use it as an end position. Get your usual sex positions done before settling into this one. It’ll help get you both right on the edge of orgasming so spooning can be the big finish.
#3 Use your hands. For the love of all that is good in the world, use your hands! Both people have so much they can do with their hands in this position to make it even better. The man can grab all over the woman’s body.
#4 Kiss exposed areas. Like I mentioned above, there is a lot of access to kissable areas when you have spooning sex. So put your lips to work and make sure those areas get some attention. Kissing the back of your woman’s neck or her ears can really push her over the edge.
#5 Grab at what should be grabbed. Hello, access to those boobs! And the clit! And literally any other part of her body you want to have your hands on. Come on, grab away! The feeling of being grabbed and taken possession of can be extremely erotic and sexy. Make sure to do this when having spooning sex.
#6 Try out different positions within spooning sex. You can actually do a few things here. Firstly, there’s the regular spooning on your side with your bodies pressed together. But the women can also lean forward and create a sort of sideways doggy style. They can also just arch their back in order to tilt their pelvis in just the right position for g-spot stimulation. [Read: 20 new things to try in bed with your lover]
#7 Change up the tempo. In order to make spooning sex even better, change the speeds every now and then. Don’t just go very slow but don’t stick to a fast-paced bang session, either.
When you switch up the speed of sex, it can change the sensations. Obviously, fast and hard penetration can get both of you off, but moving slowly and deeply can help both of you build to an even stronger orgasm.
#8 Make it romantic or rough and wild. The great thing about spooning sex is that there’s not just one single position related to it. Yes, the man will be behind and the woman will be in front while you’re both on your sides, however, you can adjust from there.
In order to make it a little more wild, the woman can bend forward at her waist so it’s really like a lying doggy-style. This allows the man to add some speed, depth, and rough handling. Or you can stick to the mainstream spoon position and really feel each other.