It happens to most men at one time or another and can be upsetting for both halves of the relationship. But fear not—there are solutions to a limp penis.
A limp penis can be a devastating thing for a man to deal with, especially as there isn’t always an obvious reason for its sudden and unwanted onset. It may seem to him as though there is an issue with his very manhood, and his confidence takes an irreparable nosedive as a result.
However, what’s not often talked about in the whole limp penis stakes, is how a woman might feel when she is faced with one.
Ostensibly, she might seem supportive and helpful about the whole thing, but it often leaves her feeling rejected. This only exacerbates when a perennially limp penis happens during attempted sexual intercourse. But it is often able to function perfectly well during masturbation or at more random intervals in the day. [Read: 20 easy ways to keep an erection up and hard for longer]
A team effort
There are, in fact, a complex number of both physiological and psychological reasons why such things happen, as well as for the occurrence of the flaccidity itself. There’s no two ways about it then: defeating impotence and/or the limp penis is a team effort requiring the attention of both the man and the woman involved.
And here, in the two following lists, separated for both sides of the gender curtain, is advice on what to do with that nuisance limp penis.
#1 Lay off the booze. Too much alcohol is one of the main reasons why a limp penis occurs. Paradoxically, alcohol is often used to build up a little Dutch courage and defeat debilitating pre-sex jitters. Find the fine line between pleasantly merry and weak-kneed drooling drunkenness. [Read: True sex talk: Alcohol’s effects on sex and your libido]
#2 Exercise. Exercise improves many of the issues leading to a limp penis, including poor blood pressure, low stamina, and stress levels. Plus, it makes you feel a lot more capable and confident in your appearance.
#3 Get more sleep. Good sleep is essential for getting the most out of your sex life, and too little can also lead to a limp penis. Get a few more early nights in your week and see if that solves the issue.
#5 Check your meds. If you’re taking medication for other issues, or even if you regularly resort to painkillers, check to see if what you’re taking refers to impotence in the list of side effects. It could be something that simple.
#6 Stress levels. It can be very difficult for your body to perform properly when you are suffering from high levels of stress. If stress has become such an issue in your life that you suffer impotence, then you need to deal with the source of that stress before worse things happen.
#7 Take some time off. Sometimes you might just need to relieve yourself of the stress of performance pressure, and take a little bit of time off sex as a whole. Return to it when the jitters have gone, and you might just be fine.
#8 Focus on the foreplay. If sexual intercourse is a no-go for a while, just make sure you pleasure your girl with as much foreplay as you can throw at her. As long as she’s getting her sugar she’ll be fine. With the confidence you get in giving her the big “O” again, you might feel a few stirrings where they have been missing for so long. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]
#9 The little blue pill. Viagra, or certain alternatives, works really well. It isn’t a permanent solution of course, but it gives you a little time off from worrying about the limp penis issue, so that hopefully things return to normal on their own.
#10 See a doctor. If all else fails, and you really aren’t having any success, then it may be down too physical rather than mental/psychological issues. If this is the case, you need to see a doctor as soon as possible so that it can be dealt with before it goes past the point of no return. [Read: Every guy’s nightmare – 15 quick fixes to cure a limp dick in no time]
#11 Talk to him. Show him you’re being supportive and use the opportunity to see if this is a new or an old thing. You might be able to help.
#12 Lay off the pressure. Whatever you do, you need to make sure you gently encourage him to work through the limp penis thing at a pace to suit him. Pressurizing him for sex will only make the issue much worse.
#13 Don’t ridicule him. Making fun of his problem is the absolute worst thing you can do. Not only will you not get any sex, but you’ll be lucky if he doesn’t dump you within the week! [Read: Why does losing an erection bother men so much?]
#14 Relax him. Sometimes the issue is a dose of performance anxiety, especially if this is a new relationship. The answer to this is to relax him. Give him a massage, put on a bit of soft music, and let nature take its course.
#16 Non-penetrative sex. The penis can be put to use without being erect, and the act can be just as enjoyable for him as for you. And if you don’t know what I mean, look up the word “frottage” on our wonderful friend, the World Wide Web.
#18 Assess his lifestyle. His limp penis may be down to aspects of his lifestyle that he has not himself identified; such as lack of sleep, a poor diet, or too much booze. In this case, it is entirely justifiable for you to step in and suggest a few changes benefitting you both.
#20 Consider the options. Guys are notoriously bad at tackling personal health issues, and he may need you to take over and suggest some next steps if things aren’t getting any better after a while. One of these may be a suggestion to take a visit to the doctor.