Having a partner around always helps to make you wet. But, what you should be able to do is know how to make yourself wet without the help of anyone.
Unless you’re asexual, most people have the need to have sex with another person. This isn’t something crazy I just discovered, it’s a fact. When you’re horny, you want to have sex, it’s normal. But you don’t actually have to have sex with someone in order to ease your sexual frustration. Sometimes, learning how to make yourself wet is essential knowledge in life.
Well, this is when you learn how to make yourself wet. Now, there are a couple different ways to do this because everyone is different. But the point is, you learn and take the time to make yourself wet. I mean, can you imagine having to wait for someone to do it for you? Come on, you’re an independent woman, so you need to know your body and how it reacts. It’s not as hard as you think it is.
#1 You need to be wet. It’s true, you need to be wet. The vagina purposely secretes arousal fluid when a woman is physically or mentally stimulated. Essentially, the vagina prepares itself for vaginal intercourse.
#2 It’s all in your head. When it comes to knowing how to make yourself wet, you need to remember that everything connected to the vagina is mental. Sometimes, we may like the guy, but we don’t feel like having sex, thus, you’re not able to become wet. Or maybe you had a bad day at work, see what I mean?
Everything is mental when it comes to sex and becoming sexually aroused. So, if you had a bad day and wonder why you can’t get wet, well, it’s because you’re not in the mood. [Read: 15 ways to get hot and wet without porn]
#3 Figure out what you like. No matter if you have a partner or not, you need to know what you like. Everyone is different, so you cannot rely on your partner to know what you enjoy or not.
If anything, they’re just as lost as you are. Spend some time seeing what stimulates you. Watch porn, read an erotic novel—try to cover all scopes in order to see which one stimulates you the most.
#4 Go solo. I know your partner wants to help you, and I think that’s really sweet. But there’s some added pressure when they watch you. So, instead, take some time on your own and try to make yourself wet. Go into the bath or your bedroom, but ask your partner if you can just have some alone time. They’ll be fine, just put a movie on for them to watch. [Read: 11 sexy solo sex positions that are guaranteed to pleasure you]
#5 Be in a comfortable space. Remember when I said that arousal is mental? So, if you try to make yourself wet in your office, it’s probably going to be a challenge. I mean, you can’t fully relax knowing someone may walk into your office. So, choose a space which is safe and comfortable for you, that way, you reduce your distractions and anxiety.
#6 Be in the moment. So, you’re lying on your bed, starting to touch yourself and then all of a sudden, you remember the laundry—NO! You’re not supposed to be in your head, you’re supposed to be connected to your body. So, you want to move your thoughts and direct them to your body. Think about your breathing, touch yourself slowly, feel your skin. [Read: 15 ways to finger yourself and actually enjoy it]
#7 Don’t just focus on your vagina. This is a classic mistake women make. We tend to focus solely on our vaginas, which, I’m not saying is a bad thing. However, you need to make sure you’re not forgetting other erogenous zones such as your breasts, neck, ass, and torso. You need to stimulate your entire body, not just your vagina.
#8 Clitoral action. Now, I said to not forget your erogenous zones but that doesn’t mean you should leave your clitoris out of the action. You can masturbate by stroking your finger across your clitoris, but, you can also mix up the speed and pressure of your fingers. Play around with the pressure and speeds, finding a pattern which suits you. [Read: The 15 sexy benefits of going solo and masturbating]
#9 Anal play. You may be crinkling your nose, wondering if anal play is really necessary, and it is! Well, it’s not that you have to do it, but you should give it a try. In reality, your anus is extremely sensitive with nerve endings easily stimulated. You can rub your finger around and on your anus, playing with pressure, or you can use a sex toy—just make sure you use lube.
#10 Deny your orgasm. If you are able to get to the point of orgasming, don’t rush to finish it. When you’re about to climax, stop, denying yourself the orgasm. Then work yourself up again and do this two or three more times before orgasming. It makes your orgasm stronger and more intense. [Read: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms and make them better than ever]
#11 Don’t forget a towel. Okay, for sure, you may need the towel to clean up the wonderful mess you made, but that’s not exactly what the towel is for. But, instead, use the towel to place over your vagina while masturbating. The texture makes it more arousing when you rub against it.
#12 Mix things up. You don’t have to do the same technique when masturbating. Instead, mix things up. Rub your clitoris while you play with your anus, use a sex toy in your bathtub. Mix up the techniques and stimulate your different body parts.
#13 Try it with a toy. Sure, you can use your hands and I recommend you do become comfortable with using them, but at some point, try to masturbate with a sex toy. You may have to buy a couple different toys, seeing which one works for you, but that’s the fun part, right? [Read: 13 homemade sex toys to try out today]
#14 Bring out the lube if you start to dry up. Maybe you’re not becoming as wet as you thought, or if you’re using a sex toy, you’ll need some lube. I mean, you don’t have to use lube, but, it’s not going to be fun, trust me. Lubricant helps you significantly, trust me. I recommend water-based.