Are you having a hard time holding on while having sex? Here are 20 everyday tips, sex tips and foreplay tips to hold that orgasm back for longer. By Christopher Villa
For a girl, multiple orgasms are a fun thing to experience.
But when you’re a guy, ejaculating too soon can spell doom to your sex life.
As a guy, premature ejaculation can leave you feeling frustrated, dejected, and arm-twist you into losing all your confidence when it comes to matters of the bedroom.
It’s unfortunate that you have to deal with this, but fret not, because there are really fun ways to learn to last longer in bed.
All it takes is a bit of effort and a bit of time.
How to last longer during sex
If you want to last longer during sex and you’re not really suffering from a medical condition, then these tips will definitely help you last a lot longer. After all, you need to remember that the experience of sex is more in the head than in between your legs.
If you feel confident about your sexual capabilities, you’d definitely be able to perform better with your woman. [Read: 12 foreplay ideas that will always arouse any man]
Don’t let premature ejaculation get in the way of a great sex life. Instead, learn to get better at controlling your ejaculation and everything will feel just fine.
And here’s a startup tip for you, if you ever end up ejaculating within a few minutes, don’t hate yourself for it. Lie back and rest for a half an hour or so. You’ll be ready by then and raring to go, and you’ll definitely last a lot longer and satisfy her better too!
Everyday tips to have sex for longer
Here are a few everyday tips that can help you enjoy better and longer sex over time. Just like a long term diet and workout plan, these everyday tips won’t help you tonight, but they’ll definitely make you a sex god potential over time.
#1 Masturbate regularly. If you haven’t ejaculated for a long time, it’ll be harder to hold on while having sex. Spend some alone time with yourself at least a few times a week so you never let the horniness get out of hand!
#2 Controlled ejaculation. Now every guy masturbates now and then. But how often do you do it? If you have some time by yourself, get busy with the little guy, but don’t rush it. Spend at least an hour watching porn or thinking naughty while masturbating.
But each time you’re on the verge of ejaculating, hold yourself back and think about something else. The more you practice holding back during masturbation, the better you’d get at controlling your ejaculation. [Read: Circumstances when size does matter to women]
#3 Speak to your doctor. If you’re having a really difficult time making sex last, perhaps you need to speak with your doctor for an immediate temporary cure. Your doctor can prescribe a few pills for you, which can help you last longer while you work on the other techniques at the same time.
#4 Workout and kegels. Workout everyday and you’ll feel a lot better in no time. Working out improves your blood flow and makes you feel fitter. And even if you lose an erection because you shot the gun too soon, you’ll be ready again in no time.
Another alternative are kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are a set of exercises that focus on the pelvic muscles. When you contract and relax your muscles around your pelvis, the pubococcygeus muscle of your pelvis get stronger over time. And that helps you get rock hard erections, and gives you better control of your ejaculations. [Read: 25 surefire ways to motivate yourself to work out and stick to it]
#5 Communication. Don’t let your early explosions frustrate you. After all, you’re not intentionally trying to finish yourself off early. Speak to your lover and help each other understand what’s going on in both of your minds.
Sexual tips to last longer during sex
You’ve read about how to hold on your hard on for longer using the everyday tips. But now we go straight into the act. So what can you do while having sex to avoid an early ejaculation? Find out here.
#1 Overexcitement. Avoid aggressive or wild angry sex. When you lose control of your erection, that’s when you’d lose the erection completely. Try to indulge in calm, slow and romantic sex. By avoiding fast and aggressive sex, you’d be able to last longer because you won’t experience a sudden burst of sexual energy in an instant. [Read: How to make out with a girl on the first date and make her love it]
#2 Take control of sex. When two people have sex, the one on top is usually in control of the movements. So try to spend more time on top. When you’re on top, you can slow down or stop moving completely when you feel like you’re on the verge of ejaculating. By holding back when you feel like ejaculating, you can last a lot longer because you’re in control of the sex. [Read: Sex tips for girls to ride a man and look sexy doing it]
#3 Shift your weight. When you’re on top of your girl and feel like you’re going to blow out, place your forearms on either side of her and shift your body weight onto your arms. Stop moving in and out and just wait for your little guy to feel relaxed again. You’ll be able to push ahead within a few seconds.
#4 Be in sync with your partner. This is where your lover can help you. If she ever feels you throbbing when you’re inside of her, tell her to avoid moving too aggressively *or even stop moving completely* so you can regain your control. At times, as hard as you try, you do need some help from your woman to make sex last longer.
#5 Control the surrounding. Have sex in a comfortable place where you won’t feel overexcited. Completely avoid anything that’s too exciting like public sex or anything else that turns you on a lot. If you feel most relaxed in your bed, stick to the bedroom until you get better control of your orgasms. [Read: 7 sexiest types of sex you can ever have]
#6 Don’t change your pace too often. Changing the pace of the to and fro motion when you’re inside her feels good for both of you. But when you do that, you’d also end up ejaculating faster because the change in pace makes you more horny.
#7 In and out. Some couples love taking the little guy out of the lady garage often and putting him back in while having sex. They do this in porn movies all the time too.
For many guys, taking the tool out often and reinserting it while having sex helps them stay hard for a lot longer. But at the same time, it’ll make some guys orgasm a lot faster. Find out what works for you and use it to your benefit. [Read: 25 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy]
#8 Shallow moves. Once you’ve penetrated your girl, don’t go ramming her like you’re a porn star on heat. Go shallow and easy. Move just a few inches in and out of her unless you’re feeling very confident, because longer and deeper moves of the shaft will excite your little guy a lot faster.
#9 Wear a condom. It numbs most guys down there. Don’t opt for the ultrathin condoms. Instead, opt for ones that’ll help prevent you from ejaculating faster by numbing you down there.
#10 Don’t obsess about your orgasm. One of the biggest reasons why so many guys suffer from this on a regular basis is because they spend so much time obsessing over this little problem of theirs.
These things happen to everyone all the time. And you’ll definitely get over it sometime soon. So until then, ignore the thought of premature ejaculation before or during sex by keeping your mind occupied elsewhere. [Read: Real reasons why losing an erection bothers men so much]
#11 Control your breathing. Breathing plays a big part in controlling your ejaculation. If you’re on the verge of ejaculation and want to hold it back, focus on your breathing and try to release your breath slowly through your mouth in a controlled manner when you’re inside her.
This is hard to explain in a sentence without going into details, but trust me, just breathe out through your mouth slowly and you’ll see how it works. [Read: A girl's confession about sex with an uncircumcised man]
Ways to prepare yourself for longer sex before penetration
Here are four things you can do to prepare yourself for longer sex, when you’re in the act but haven’t penetrated her yet.
#1 Be vocal. Your woman may assume you won’t be able to last long and may try to finish up really fast. But if you feel like having sex for longer, let your partner know about it. Both of you should take it slow and easy, and communicate at the same time about when to stop moving or when to slow down further. By doing this, it’ll help you last longer and bring both of you closer.
#2 Longer foreplay. Always spend more time on foreplay. By getting straight into the act immediately, the excitement and sexual tension may build up too fast which could end up overexciting you and leading to faster ejaculations.
#3 Try new sex positions. Some sex positions will stimulate you faster and make you orgasm really fast, while some positions can help you last a lot longer. The missionary position is a safe one, but a few unconventional positions may just help you better. But you’ll never know what works until you try. [Read: How tantric sex can help you have sex for a lot longer]
#4 Masturbate before sex. Have a very quick quickie with yourself an hour or so before sex. Be so quick about it that you hardly even notice a significant ejaculation. Sex isn’t a planned activity, so ejaculating an hour earlier may not be an easy thing to do all the time. [Read: How to get any girl horny just by sitting next to her]
But if you and your girl have decided to make love later that night, slip into the bathroom in the morning or afternoon and finish yourself off. You’ll be sensitive and ready after a few hours, and you’ll be able to hold on a lot better too.
Yes, it’s true that premature ejaculation is frustrating and demeaning. But use these 20 tips on how to last longer during sex and you may just be able to turn your life around and have a great sex life with just a little effort!
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