Before you have sex with someone, you should learn how to finger yourself. That way, when it’s his turn, you’ll know how to direct him.
Everyone likes having the option of having sex as opposed to masturbating, but it’s normal that everyone goes through some dry spells. During those dry spells, you should be able to self-satisfy your needs. I mean, if you don’t know how to finger yourself and get yourself off, your partner will not know either.
How to finger yourself – the right way
Whether you’re still a virgin or very experienced in the sack, it’s always fun to have some solo sex. But if you’re in a rut with nothing but your vibrator, don’t worry. Here are some tips on how to properly finger yourself. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to orgasm]
#1 Wash your hands. In the movies, the girl is usually on her bed texting and suddenly she gets an urge to masturbate. Okay, do you know how much bacteria is on a cell phone?
You’re in the moment, I get that. But quickly running to the bathroom to wash your hands isn’t a bad idea. It takes less than a minute. Your vagina is your holy temple, so just go the extra step in making sure you’re not allowing bad bacteria to go inside. Wash. Your. Hands.
#2 Hygiene, ladies. Aside from washing your hands, you want to make sure that your hygiene is kept up. Make sure your fingernails are clean as a lot of bacteria nestle underneath them.
In addition, also make sure your vagina is clean and fresh. You don’t want an infection. Besides, masturbating when you’re fresh just feels better.
#3 You don’t have to start at your vagina. When turning yourself on, you don’t have to all of a sudden make a bull’s eye to your vagina. You can actually start by rubbing and squeezing your breasts, sucking on your fingers and then start to rub or touch your vagina.
Women take longer to get turned on, and so you should take your time warming up your body. Enjoy exploring your body, because masturbation isn’t just about your vagina. Although that is where you finger yourself. [Read: How to masturbate – 15 self-pleasure tips for women]
#4 Find a safe place. Masturbating when your friend is in the next room may be a little risky, because they might walk in. You want to masturbate when you’re in a safe and relaxing space. Put on some music or your favorite movie – whatever turns you on. This is your time to pleasure yourself, so tailor it to your liking.
#5 Incorporate toys. If you’re trying to learn about your body, I wouldn’t recommend using toys right away. Take the time to figure out how to orgasm using your fingers, and once you’ve mastered that, then use toys during masturbation.
#7 Slide your fingers in. You can then slide either one or two fingers inside, either all the way in or partially. Bend your fingers a bit, they’ll rub against your wall creating more stimulation. It’ll feel great, and you’ll have a higher chance of hitting your g-spot. Try to find a rhythm with your fingers that further stimulates you.
#8 Find your g-spot. You’ll know when you found your g-spot, trust me. If you’re wondering where it is, the g-spot is 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina. It’s on the front wall and you’ll feel a rough patch – that’s the spot. The g-spot can give you a more intense orgasm – who wouldn’t want that?
#9 Stimulate your g-spot. When figuring out how to finger yourself, this is the best part. Once you’ve found your g-spot, play around with your speed and build up the friction – that will create an orgasm.
#10 Slowly build up to an orgasm. You won’t be able to orgasm just with the snap of a finger. You’re going to need to build up to it. You need to turn yourself on, make yourself wet – you see, it’s a process. You can finger yourself rougher, however, if you think that masturbating for two minutes will do the trick, it won’t.
#11 Don’t change positions too much. This will take some time as you’ll need to figure out what position helps you achieve an orgasm when you finger yourself. If you’re close to orgasming, I recommend not moving into another position.
#13 Use one finger for your anus. You don’t have to try this right away, but while you’re masturbating, slip one finger into your anus and slide it in and out. It’ll feel great and also makes you even hornier. Just make sure you’ve cleaned yourself beforehand.
#14 When you hit the big O. Once you’ve orgasmed, don’t pull out your fingers right away. Not only does it feel better when they’re left in there for a bit, but if you pull them out too fast it can feel uncomfortable and even cause you pain.
#15 Enjoy post-masturbation. If you’ve just masturbated, don’t rush to go grocery shopping after. Take some time to just chill out and reflect on how you just fingered yourself. A quickie is always fun, but you don’t have to rush this time.