If your partner cums before you orgasm, then you may know more about edging than you thought. Learning how to edge yourself allows you to be in control.
Why do people let others dictate their sexual enjoyment? Do you know what I mean? We have a tendency to let other people, the ones we’re sleeping with, be the ones to give us pleasure. I mean, when you think about it, that’s a lot of pressure and honestly, not everyone will be able to do what you want. So why not push yourself to your sexual limits? You don’t need anyone to help you, you can do it on your own if you learn how to edge yourself.
How to edge yourself
The edging technique empowers and thrills because it allows you to pass that sexual norm that many seem to be stuck on. Plus, it makes masturbating much more exciting. If you’re into challenges and competing with yourself, this is a great way to get maximum pleasure while seeing your mental strength.
But to do this, you should know the in’s and out’s of edging. So, well, that’s why I’m here. C’mon, live life on the edge.
#1 So what is edging exactly? Okay, so it’s actually quite simple. Edging yourself means that either you or your partner prolong ejaculation and orgasming. It essentially brings you to the edge, the tipping point of ejaculation. Then, you stop immediately, having that feeling go away. [Read: The art of edging: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms]
#2 Why edge? Because, why not? Edging has been shown to deepen your internal connection. Because you’ll be able to hold off your orgasm, you’ll be able to gain control over it, thus, prolonging the sexual experience. In addition, edging helps you focus your attention on the experience rather than the end goal, which is ejaculation. [Read: Simultaneous orgasms – 19 things you need to know about it]
#3 Try it on your own first. Edging isn’t just a solo act, you can also do it with your partner. However, I think it’s better if you try it out on your own first.
There’s nothing wrong with having your partner try edging on you. However, if you don’t try this on your own, you’re not allowing yourself that time to focus on your body and mind. You really need that time for yourself to understand your body.
#4 You don’t have to do it all the time. Listen, you don’t have to practice edging eight times a day in order to become good at it. If you masturbate daily, try edging three times a week. You’ll notice a difference in your control over your orgasm and the heightened sexual feelings that go along with it.
#5 Know where your point of no return is. In order to edge right, you need to test yourself to see where the point of no return is. The point of no return is when you’re just about to cum. Everyone is different, some take longer than others, so to find this point, you need some alone time. Get your hand down your pants and learn to read your body’s reactions. [Read: Average time for sex – How long we want vs. how long we last]
#6 What does the point of no return feel like? Of course, remember that everyone is different. However, in a general sense, many people experience these sensations when they’re at the point of no return.
Their breathing becomes fast and shallow, the body tenses, you need more stimulation, you feel the need to cum, and all your attention is focused on your genitals. That’s when you know you hit the point of no return.
#7 Use your pelvic floor muscle. To stop yourself from orgasming and learn how to edge yourself better, you need to get your pelvic floor muscle involved. To do this, squeeze your PC muscle tightly. How do you do this? Pretend you have to stop yourself from peeing. By practicing this exercise, you’ll be able to build physical strength to prevent yourself from orgasming. [Read: Why both men and women should do Kegel exercises]
#8 It’s for both men and women. Usually, when people talk about edging, they discuss men. However, women are able to do this as well. The reason why it’s popular amongst men is that it helps them become harder and also helps prevent any mild erectile issues. But, women love edging as well, since this how most women masturbate. [Read: 20 ways for men to last way, way longer in bed]
#9 How long do you edge for? This question really has no answer. Everyone is different. Maybe I can only last for a couple minutes while you hit a ten-minute mark with no problem. Some people like to edge once or twice and then ejaculate while others like the challenge. What I’m trying to say is that it actually doesn’t matter, just do it for however long you like.
#10 Warm yourself up first. Don’t just go right into trying to edge. You need to warm your body up, touch yourself as you usually would when masturbating. Make sure you’re wet, whether you’re a man or woman. Then, slowly build up the tension and pleasure. This isn’t any different than how you usually pleasure yourself. [Read: How to finger yourself slowly and bring yourself to ecstasy]
#11 The longer the time, the better. Of course, it’s going to be hard in the beginning. Maybe you’ll only be able to last a couple minutes—even that is an achievement.
But, the longer you prolong yourself from orgasming, the better. Don’t try to hit the twenty-minute mark on your first go, but eventually, you’ll want to be able to withstand from orgasming as long as possible.