Do you want to steam up your relationship even if you’ve been dating for a while? Use these 20 hot sex ideas to have the hottest sex of your lives! By Jana Snow
True love can last forever.
But a successful romantic relationship needs more than just true love to last forever.
It needs fiery passion and wild sexual experiences too!
As much as love plays a big part in romance, sex too plays a part that’s just as important.
The sexy way to hot, steamy sex!
If you want to enjoy sex and have an exciting relationship that’s alive with sexual energy, the first thing you need to learn is to express yourself.
Communicate with your lover, and open your minds up for each other.
Society may frown on you or embarrass you if you talk about anything beyond the missionary position in bed.
But the truth is, as humans, our minds are full of sexual fantasies and deviant thoughts.
And trying something new in bed or talking about a new sexual desire is something all couples need to indulge in.
And once you open up and start talking about the things you want to try in bed with your partner, big chances are, you’ll be shocked and aroused to hear your lover’s ideas too!
How to have passionate, hot sex all the time
It’s been said that the brain is the biggest sexual organ. If you and your partner can stimulate each other’s minds, the monotonous routine of sex will immediately start to feel sexy and alive again.
And the once-a-fortnight hour both of you dedicate to sex will turn into something a lot wilder, and a lot more frequent!
The easiest way to open your minds and explore your sexual fantasies together is by talking about it while having sex.
Sex opens up our minds and coaxes us to shed our inhibitions. We’re more open, frank and a lot dirtier when we speak our minds while making out with our lovers. [Read: The top 10 sexual fantasies for girls and the top 10 sexual fantasies for guys]
And once both of you start revealing your hidden sexual desires, both of you will start to feel like young horny teenagers all over again!
20 hot sex ideas to blow your lover’s mind
While communicating with each other sexually is the first step to exploring your sexuality, there are other ways to make sex exciting and heart pounding all over again. Just use these 20 hot sex ideas in bed and you’ll definitely work your magic in your lover’s loins!
#1 Dress up for sex. You may be used to getting into bed naked or in something minimal and unsexy. But looking good in bed is actually more important than looking good while stepping out of the house.
Don’t take your partner for granted and assume they can be switched on like a light bulb. Dress sexy and smell great when you slip into the sheets. Just watching you will arouse your partner, and they’ll have a hard time keeping their hands off you. [Read: 6 easy and arousing ways to dress up for sex]
#2 Bring your favorite toys. Using toys in bed is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. Sex toys have evolved a long way and they can be a lot of fun for both of you. And if orgasms galore isn’t enough of an excuse, sex toys can even help bring out a few secret desires too! [Read: How to plan a perfect sex toy party with your friends]
#3 Talk dirty. Use dirty words in bed to express just how you feel. It may seem crude or awkward to begin with, but once you’re on a roll, dirty talking will only arouse both of you a lot more. [Read: 50 sexy and dirty things to say to your lover]
#4 Create a sexy alter ego. Do you have a secret crush on any cartoon or anime character? Or perhaps, you find a particular profession like a fireman or an air hostess sexy? Pick up sexy costumes that you know will definitely turn your partner on, and walk into the bedroom wearing it.
Role playing in bed and dressing up as different characters is a great way to bring fantasies to life. And it can also be a lot of fun because both of you can pretend to be characters that are different from your own real selves. [Read: Everything you need to know about sexual role play]
#5 The sexy sounds. When you generally have sex with each other, how can you tell if your lover’s having a good time? One of the easiest ways is when you hear them gasp or moan. And hearing your partner gasping always turns you on and excites you a lot more, doesn’t it?
When you’re having sex with each other, feel comfortable enough to moan and gasp loudly. Breathe into each other’s ears and arouse each other with words. [Read: How to sound sexy in bed and turn your partner on]
#6 Dirty fetishes. All of us have a few secret fetishes we enjoy, even though we don’t talk about it. For some people, it’s a particular sexual act like spanking, for others it’s a particular part of the body like the foot, and for a few others, it’s voyeurism or tearing clothes.
A fetish is unique and to each their own, and all of us have a few even if we don’t realize it yet. Talk about fetishes that excite either of you and try to incorporate these fetishes, however small they may be, into your sex lives. And your lover will surely be grateful to know that they’re not the only one who has dirty secret thoughts running on their mind while having sex. [Read: 7 ways to get more voyeuristic in your sex lives]
#7 Raw aggressive sex. Slow, passionate sex is a romantic union of two lovers. But sometimes, too much of a good thing can be boring too. To beat the monotony, indulge in wild rough sex now and then. Slap each other, claw each other, tear clothes off or bite each other until it hurts.
It may seem funny the first time you slap your partner, but the very second you slap them or hit them, you’ll feel a sexy rush flow through your loins. Try it, you’ll know what we mean! [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]
#8 A new position. This is so simple you’d wonder why we’re even mentioning it. But when was the last time you tried something new in bed? Most of us get so comfortable with the routine that we forget to try new things every now and then. And if you’re worried you’ll go limp trying new positions all the time, start with something simple and work your way up. [Read: 20 easy tips to keep an erection up for way longer]
#9 Drunk sex. Go to a party together, have a few drinks and get naughty on the dance floor. Just grinding against each other in the crowd would give you a sexual high. But that’s not all.
When you get back home, watch a movie together *preferably porn*, have several more drinks until both of you are really tipsy, and then get into bed together. The sexual rush of the party and the high of the booze will create a whole new sexual high while having sex when you’re drunk. [Read: 10 dirty drinking games for naughty guys and girls]
#10 Try a new place. Staring at the same view from the bed can get pretty boring. Try something new now and then. For starters, car sex is a great way to kickstart the sexy rush, even if it’s parked in the garage. [Read: The 7 sexiest places you can have sex… ever!]
#11 Mutual masturbation. You don’t always have to have sex to have a hot and steamy time together. Slip into bed, play a porn movie or read an erotic story together and let your hands wander all over your partner. You don’t need to have sex, just arouse each other and masturbate each other till the orgasms come.
#12 A controlling lover. Take turns to control the sex now and then. It can be really sexy when only one partner takes complete control and orders the other partner to do their bidding in bed. And if you want to try something more unique, one partner can take complete control of the sex while the other partner pretends to be deep in their sleep.
#13 Public display of affection. You don’t need to flash someone or have sex in public to get your jollies up. As it’s the fear of getting caught that gives both of you a sexy adrenalin rush while making out in public, try to recreate the setting at home. [Read: 3 sexy real life public flashing confessions]
Have sex near the windows so you can see the world outside, but they can’t see you. Or give your partner a blow job in the car, even if it’s parked in your own place. Get innovative and try something new so you can feel the fear and the thrill of public affection at the same time. [Read: Sexy road head confessions of a good girl]
#14 Visual pleasures. Having sex is fun. But you know what’s more fun? Watching yourself have sex! Place a full length mirror horizontally against the bed while having sex. And if you want to get kinkier, have sex really close to the mirror so it feels like both of you are having sex while being watched by the both of you!
You can also record yourselves having sex and stream it live, or watch porn together while having sex too.
#15 Vacation sex. Are you looking for something a lot more sexy and adventurous? Head out on a vacation to a sunny destination, and have the wildest and sexiest time together. [Read: 10 naughty and arousing things to do on a vacation to feel the sexual high]
#16 Don’t make sex a routine. To most of us, sex starts off exciting, but eventually turns into a routine. If you want sex to stay hot and steamy, avoid having sex at the same time all the time. If sex is a falling-asleep ritual, change the timings.
Now and then, when you wake up in the middle of the night to pee, slip back under the covers and run your hands all over your partner *like a sexy stranger* until they feel aroused. Try to have sex at random times and odd hours, and sex will feel more like an exciting activity than a regular chore. [Read: 10 tips to make married sex feel like a one night stand!]
#17 Aural pleasure. Playing the right songs in the background while having sex can do wonders to your sex life. The perfect song can give you a sexual high, and make sex feel more passionate. And if you want to increase the aural pleasure, you can dim the lights and just move your bodies to the rhythm of the songs. Try it once, you may even get addicted to it! [Read: The 10 best make out songs to listen to while having sex]
#18 Light bondage. Now bondage and BDSM isn’t for everyone. And if you’re not into domination or submission, fret not. You really don’t have to go all the way to enjoy the lighter side of bondage. Tie your partner’s hands together with a scarf or tie it to the bedpost, and have your way with them. If you want to get kinkier, you can blindfold them or even completely dominate them in bed. [Read: 10 sexy ways to get over a sexual dry spell]
#19 Forced sex fantasies. Many girls particularly enjoy this fantasy where her boyfriend tries to force himself inside her while she tries to fend him off. And guys too enjoy the sensation of overpowering the girl, even if it’s all just a sexual gameplay. When both of you get into bed, try to pretend like both of you are strangers. If the idea of taking control or feeling overpowered while having sex turns you on, this will definitely work its magic on you.
#20 Fantasy talk. Have you ever tried talking about your secret fantasies with your partner? It may be dirty, perverse, or may even involve someone else. But sometimes, talking about your sexual thoughts can actually bring both of you closer and even build a more intimate relationship. [Read: How to fantasize about someone else with your own lover]
When both of you are lying in bed together, talk about each other’s secret fantasies that turn either of you on. If it feels too awkward, both of you could even start talking about it while having sex when the inhibitions are shed and both of you are on a sexual high. [Read: How to dirty talk – dirty talking examples]
Try these 20 hot sex ideas and you’ll definitely blow your lover’s mind. But even better than that is the fact that you’ll be able to better your relationship and get closer to each other at the same time too!
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