So, you’ve finally met a girl, and she likes anal sex – every man’s dream. Now that you’re living the dream, you need to know what to do.
There’s this misconception that women don’t like anal sex. Okay, some don’t like it, which is understandable, but many are curious about it. However, it’s just that so many women have been scarred from it that it has a bad rap. But if you know what you’re doing, it’s a good time.
So, this means, if she likes anal sex, or she’s curious about it, you need to educate yourself on it. Trust me, don’t go with your guns blazing and just your theories about anal sex. Do some research. She’ll thank you for it, and so will her bum.
What to do if she likes anal sex
It’s nothing to be scared of, but you’ll need some prep time. Don’t worry, this list of things to remember and do will help you get through it and enjoy every minute.
#1 She’s not a slut. I don’t even know what a slut is, really. Is it someone who likes sex? Because I just thought that’s just someone who likes sex. Or is it someone who’s sexually adventurous? Because, again, I thought that was just someone who is sexually curious. So, she likes anal sex? So what. [Read: The curious guy’s and gal’s guide to first time anal sex]
#2 Be honest. If you’ve never had anal sex before and she has, be honest with her. Don’t act all macho when you don’t know what you’re doing. Because she’ll see it. So, just be straight with her, and then she’ll be able to give you her thoughts and advice.
#3 Let her take the lead. Okay, so she likes anal, so remember, you’re not going to take control, she is. Not because she’s the one with experience, but also because she is taking your dick in her ass. It’s going to feel good for you, but she’s the one that may experience pain, so whatever she says, you listen.
#4 Make sure you’re clean. Have a shower and make sure your dick doesn’t smell like gym sweat. It’s just about respect. Your groin area may become a little messy by the end of it, but going in nice and clean is just delightful. Don’t worry, she’ll make sure she’s clean too. [Read: The bottom of it – 10 misconceptions of anal sex]
#5 You’re going to be nervous. Anal sex sounds slightly intimidating if you haven’t tried it before. So, it’s natural that you’re going to be nervous. But you need to take a deep breath. If she’s cool, she’ll tell you what to do, and you just need to take it nice and slow. It’ll help the both of you if you’re calm.
#6 You need lube. If you think you can just stick your dry dick inside her, think again. This is what makes horror stories, this is what scares women.
#7 Tell her to communicate. So, you need to tell her to be verbal with you. If it hurts, she needs to tell you. She probably will let you know how she’s feeling, but just make sure she’s reminded. Communication is very important when it comes to anal sex… and sex in general.
#8 Let her play with your bum. Yes, she likes anal sex, but you’re missing out. This doesn’t mean she has to wear a strap on, but let her play with your anus. It’s a highly stimulating zone for men, so relax and let her work her magic. You’re going to love it. [Read: Surprising benefits of anal sex you had no idea about]
#9 Don’t use the same condom for the vagina. Okay, this one is important and many people tend to overlook this one while having sex, but don’t. The anus is full of bacteria that isn’t suitable for the vagina.
So, if you’re having anal sex and want to then switch to vaginal penetration, change condoms. You don’t want her to have some bacterial infection.
#10 Don’t freak out if you see poop. After you’re finished having anal sex, you’re going to pull out and notice that your dick may be slightly tinted. That’s poop. Not a big deal, I mean, what did you expect when you decided to have anal sex? Sure, she cleaned up but there’s no way she was able to remove everything. This is just what comes with having anal sex. [Read: How to prepare for anal sex – A beginner’s fantasy guidebook]
#11 Don’t pull out fast. Okay, here’s another thing that could leave you and her scarred. Don’t just pull your dick out fast. You may get more than you asked for. You need to pull out slowly. You don’t want any sudden fluids… if you get what I mean.
#12 Use other stimulation. You can also stimulate the vagina while have anal sex. Don’t be afraid to finger or rub her clitoris at the same time. It’ll probably be even more stimulating and help her achieve an orgasm.
#13 You don’t have to like it. If you tried having anal sex and you’re not a fan of it, it’s okay. Just because you’re a man doesn’t mean you have to love anal sex. Some men love it, while others do not. Not a big deal, at least you can say you tried. [Read: The dirty truth – is it possible to have an anal orgasm?]
#14 Focus on your partner. For the first couple minutes, you’re going to only be focusing on your dick. I mean, this is your first time having anal sex, so it’s a big step.
But, you need to not pay attention to your dick and get wrapped up in only what you want. You need to focus on your partner, because if they’re not having a good time, don’t expect a second time round.
#15 Have a towel. Whenever I have sex, I always make sure to have a towel on the side. Same goes for anal sex, I think it’s even more important to have a towel in this case. You’ll thank me later. Just have a towel, the size doesn’t matter.